#Sprinkle a lil alpha on it

I know, I'll sprinkle a little alpha on it! I just have to hit the gym, practice a little game in front of the mirror. Not to other women, that would be cheating, and ethically, I can't do that. I used to be alpha, but slowly slipped into beta. My SMV is a 7 and hers is a 6.

If you ever got the impression that we are all special, spend some time here to quash it. The subject title is there to illustrate a basic, flawed premise so many, many men seem to have when taking the pill.

It's not a Dr. Phill. Red Pill praxeology has nothing to do with fixing relationships, or getting women to 'act right' with some magic steps. That's a PUA thing. Even then, PUA teaches that you won't get that girl, just more girls.

I'm getting RP now, why is she (insert pejorative) now? Why isn't it working? Why doesn't she love me now? I label this an alpha-as-wolf, since he was such a wonderful example of RP not working. It works just fine, but he was sitting in his car, flipping all the buttons, opening and closing the door, putting the key in, and key out, then sitting there angry because the damned thing isn't working like it's supposed to.

Why?

I'm getting RP now, why is she (insert pejorative) now? Why isn't it working? Why doesn't she love me now? If you've read NMMNG, you have no excuse to even ask this question.

What did you think she was going to do?

Seriously, if you read NMMNG, WISNIFG, Confessions of an involuntary incel, Manipulated Man, Michael's story. I mean, how hard did you have to delude yourself into thinking this giant covert contract was the way ahead?

My story? Probably nothing special, I'm sure there's at least a hundred guys reading this at some point with the exact same one. Know what happened? Hit a tipping point with operation me first. Why was I working so hard to fix something that I didn't break? I mean, from an ownership perspective, it's always your responsability, but I didn't take the kill shot here, I shouldn't have to be the plow horse who drags it out of the ditch. I would have texts, blowing up my phone up to, and during our main event:

  • This new you is an asshole
  • This new you is selfish
  • Narcissist
  • I don't know if I can do this anymore

These are paraphrased, I have them saved, for some future date when I forget these very simple lessons. AWALT, they can all do exactly what any other woman can do, all that's missing is that little push. Oh, and lots of crying. You know what I didn't get?

  • A pat on the back...
  • an attaboy,
  • hey man, thanks for being alpha now, do you want a blowjob?

She fucking gets pissed, she throws out shit tests. You've built up a serious amount of Beta Debt over the years, and it takes a lot more work to get out from under debt, than it does to save, hence, Iron Rule #7.

Do you know what I did get? I no longer got stories about her having a temper tantrum, and me ending up bullied into some bullshit I didn't want. Not to say she doesn't have them, but I'm no longer at the house placating them. I'm out, hanging out with old friends, talking with a few girls I know, being a little flirty with the neighbours guests in the hot tub, working out. Hell, I enjoy a good pre workout shit-test, I hit personal bests when I get them..

Yeah it's selfish. Yeah she's not going to like it. But at the end of the day. I can buy 50 cent honeysticks, and I get her to eat them off me where it counts. If she's too tired that day, I jerk one off and go to bed, it's as concerning as whether I have maple syrup or butter on my pancakes. She says she doesn't like it.

Thats a comfort test. When she says 'you' statements, e.g. You're an asshole, those are largely shit tests, she's testing your frame. I hate how they are called tests, because all you really have to do is pretend you are an american running for supreme court. Sit there and let a senator berate you for an hour or two, if you don't lose your cool, you got the job.

If it's a lot of I's:

  • I don't like this
  • I can't take this anymore

Those are largely comfort tests. Ignore the actual words, listen to the subtext, the body language. It generally boils down to a girl telling you that she is punching above her weight, and she's worried that she's going to lose the fight. There's an element of desperation, fear of losing control, and less disdain, very little spite. Give her a strong hug, kiss on the forehead, tell her everything will be OK. This is where the Come to Jesus speech belongs. Because this is what a main event is. That flip into submission, and where she's receptive to your leadership. If you ain't getting that, than it ain't a main event.

The last fucking thing to expect

The last, fucking thing you should be expecting, is for her to be on board for your changes. Biggest teenager in the room, she doesn't know what she wants, she only knows how she feels. Would you let your 4 year old daughter tell you how to do your job? Why the fuck are you letting a girl riding emotions tell you how to live your life?

Remember this, write it down, post in on your wall. Dread isn't a way to sprinkle alpha on it. None of this is for her. At this point, your relationship is a dead husk, and you are applying dread as the way I've always described it: A deliberate set of steps, which remove you from a shitty relationship, and put you on your best foot forward for the next one/s, allowing enough time for the people in your life to get their shit together and fight to have you back. Her role is only as a sparring partner. You have a person who shit tests you in real time. You are training more intensely than the actual events, since she already thinks you're a fuck. It's an uphill climb.

Gratitude

I'll end on a folksy bit of wisdom I have for gratitude.

If your dad beats you, every day, and you vow to never put a hand on your kids - yes he taught you that lesson, and no, he doesn't get to take credit for it.

Some of you will get lucky, and your woman will straighten up, start acting right. And some of you won't, she'll still be a cunt, and think she's still that same girl in her 20s that men swooned over. Either way, this isn't a case of dread not working, or RP being wrong, it's not part of the equation.