Some posters here use the measurement of receiving an unsolicited blowjob as a goal post that their sexual strategy is working... and there is some merit to that.

But I want to bring up another measurement, for your self reflection on whether you are "in the zone".

Can you enjoy the blowjob?

(A) Lay your head back, grunt if you feel like it, command different speed, depth, teeth? if you feel like it... or enjoy the treatment like a massage at the spa, or act however the hell you want...

-or-

(B) Do you stress during it, maybe worry about her jaw starting to hurt, or that it is taking too long. Better not act out of form or she might stop. Better think about something that will get you off because this is taking too long and she is getting frustrated. or maybe instead of enjoying it you are focused on improving... trying to further push your dominance, start talking rougher, or get her to deep throat for the first time.... reading carefully how she reacts and planning your responses in your head...

so... (A) or (B)?

Are you able to just enjoy being the alpha?