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A part of embracing your masculine nature is breaking free from your wife. Too many men out there include their wives in everything they do. Instead of saying ‘I’ enjoy doing whatever, it is always ‘We’ do whatever.

Listen, this may come as a shock to your plugged in system, the one that is still working to dissolve all of the Red Pill, but you need to have a life outside of the supervision of your wife. You need to have a Thing.

On the MarriedRedPill subreddit the advice offered to men who talk to their wives too much or are dealing with a wife who wants to do nothing more than bitch at nothing is for them to get out of the house. The follow up question from these guys is – “what do I do when I leave”. This shows how pitiful married men have become, a majority have no idea what to do without their significant other in hand. These guys don’t have a thing they can fall back on.

Not only this, but in order to build the foundation from which you will build your masculine self, you must be comfortable losing it all. This derives from Rollo’s post: The Cardinal Rule of Relationships where he says, “In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.” In order for you to exhibit that confidence and ability to walk away from your marriage with your happiness and mission intact, you need to believe – to your core that you will make it.

Do you know how you build this belief? The one that says you will be alright if your wife is not on board your ship that is headed towards owning this life and embracing your masculine nature? You develop an entirely new ‘self’ that can exist without depending on the validation and support of your woman. You find a thing and you own it, you make it the thing you do with or without anyone else.

Maybe you want to take up sailing, writing, photography, or martial arts. Maybe you want to become a rock climber, camper, or play for an intramural football team. Maybe your thing is traveling or kayaking…Whatever your thing is, you have to own it. Your wife will view this transgression from her ‘acceptable behavior’ list and she will challenge it. She’ll call you out on being a poser, she will bring up how you are wasting funds, and she will say that it is stupid. This, brother, is where you showcase your newly uncovered masculine power. You smile – and you continue to do your thing.

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