As in any marriage, responsibilities are both divided and shared. Those that are shared are either complementary or distinct, along with a general weighted percentage. We strive to excel at owning our shit with regards to chores, child-rearing, something big (like finances), and areas in between. Even with positive output on our part, this can play out negatively with our SO - intentionally or unintentionally.

Have any of you had issues in this area (laziness creep, outright defiance, boisterous defense of duties that are otherwise seen as "hers", etc.) with your First Mate? If so, how have you dealt with it?

(No specific catalyst behind this question for me other than I've been musing on division of labor as it's been 2 months since we welcomed #4 and are starting to get back into some semblance of a livable and thriving routine.)