Wife denied my sexual advances two days in a row. She is sick with a bad cough and runny nose, so I somewhat understand. This isn't a major bump in the road for me and I'm not freaking out, but I understand the value in withdrawing my affection and giving her some space. So that's what I've done.

She sent me a text at work yesterday stating that two of the kids broke the light switch in a bedroom (not the plate, but the actual rocker switch broken in half). No big deal, I responded with a "I'll handle it". She replied that she had assumed we would have to call an electrician. Ha, women.

Left work early (slow day) and picked up a part at Home Depot and a voltometer from a buddy. Flipped the breaker, fixed the switch, took 10 minutes. Easy. Didn't make a fuss about it, didn't initiate conversation that I did it. When she asked if I was done already I said "of course."

Kids were grumpy after school. Son was moody about troubles on his basketball team. One daughter had a bad hair day (ugh). I knew how to handle it. I picked up dinner (DADDY GOT TACOS I announced). They ate and I hit a sweet heavy sled pull workout for some aerobic conditioning, then a quick anaerobic slamball workout.

Came back in, told everybody we were leaving in 45 minutes but not where. Piled into the car and took the fam to an NBA game.

Not great seats at the last minute (and not spending $$ on my 4 year old anyway), but it's the emotion it created. This was a change of routine, so everybody benefitted. Little kids stayed up later, a fun treat. Two of my girls went to their first NBA game. Good times. Wife thought she had me figured out-- that I'd continue to leave her alone for a while...she was wrong.

Tingles happened at some point because she was all over me last night.

Takeaway: change it up. Don't let her figure you out or THINK she has you figured out. Be an OAK. Treat everybody (even wifey) with paternal love and guidance. She'll call you Daddy eventually. Also: sometimes she is sick and doesn't want sex. That is okay from time to time. No freak out and no butt hurt, just more time for reading and lifting and focusing on nutrition. Don't sweat it, it isn't a pattern.