Initiating sex is like many other things in life. You have to properly plan and execute the initiation. There is a build up of sexual tension between you and your partner. You time the initiation correctly to your energy levels of the day. You don't walk up to a girl in the bar and hit her with an invitation to sex do you? So why are you doing it with your wife?

Just think of how many times we see someone commenting "I initiated sex right as we were going to bed, then got starfished or a hard no". Well no shit, really? At this time of the day we are ready for sleep and probably don't have the energy if we have young one's we are taking care of. Somewhere along the line you mistook SMV/ALPHA/SEX as being anytime anywhere anyway you want it. Sure, Mrs. Bogey will starfish him if I hit her up right before sleep. Not a hard no, but not enjoyable for either us really. Why build this as a dynamic of your new sexual life? Sex should be something that you both enjoy and look forward to doing.

There are three greater, probably more lesser, keys to initiating the sex. Treat your wife like you would some random girl. Game her. Kino Her. Time it. Use these tactics to isolate and alienate your wife from whatever is going on at home. Ian Ironwood has written extensively on just this very subject.

Gaming

Game your wife every single day. Caution in that some women are sexual camels, so when you start in the day is completely up to you. Time your gaming to her reactions. Maybe it's an all day thing, maybe it's something you do when you get home. Tease, be playful, and finally practice it on strangers before you bring it home to the wife.

Kino

Kino your wife as soon as you get home. Playful ass swats, passionate kisses, touching parts of parts of her body such as her arm and elbows. Build up as you move in for the close, and she will be having sex before she even knows it started.

Timing

Let me say it just one time. There is no reason you cannot have sex at the early part of your day, or the middle, or even the late. There is no reason you cannot have sex in every part of the house, garage, and cars. Therefore, when you time your initiations do it at a more reasonable hour. Don't be closing right at bed time, ALWAYS BE CLOSING.

If you try to close right at bedtime, don't expect the best reactions. If things are such in your life that you just can't get in a quickie before bedtime. Then you need to change up the schedules. You as a man have the power to change this in your life. Switch them up, hire a nanny/maid, etc... Make the time for what's important.

We have often talked of sexual market value and the hard vs. the perceived system. In the context of marriage only the perceived smv matters to your wife. Unpluggers, you are just going to have to face the fact that no matter how much money you have and weightlifting that you do will ever matter. You have to have the mindset and put the whole system into place. She wants to submit to a strong leader of the family, but she won't until she sees you as one. In other words, gentlemen, stop reading only what you want to read. Read it all, apply it all, and keep what works.