I'm just a guy, I'm not a mod, I'm not an authority.

Having said that, if you think it's OK to come in here and judge another man for his decisions, then you can go fuck yourself. Nothing will get me internet-angry (which really means indifferent, but typing slightly faster, with some swear words) more than seeing a guy come in here and start giving a blast of shit to another guy owning his shit, and following a MAP.

you hear it often enough, only you can judge yourself. Usually in response to validation seeking behaviour. Guess what, that goes both ways.

  • Someone in here uses zombie Jesus to focus his MAP? Good for him. No one gives a shit if you'd rather listen to Christopher Hitchens.

  • Guy decides his wife is dead weight, goes out, gets some strange while he documents his legal preparation for divorce? He's happy, are you going to go to his house and jerk him off? No? Then don't go telling him that cheating is wrong, and he shouldn't do it. If you can't take responsibility, then you didn't give a fuck anyways

  • Giving a man shit because he's not releasing his book until December? Well, that one's OK, shutup and take my money, I hate getting blue balled.


Now the first rebuttal in these kind of things is "well, well, but X does it too".

luckily, someone back in the day managed to sneak one by the femisphere in cracked.com

... while some of you would take it personally, this guy is a jerk, you have no right to talk to me like that, or -- the standard maneuver when narcissism is confronted with a greater power -- quietly seethe and fantasize about finding information that will out him as a hypocrite. So satisfying."

You'll notice, you'll see that trend on guys who ultimately don't take the pill, delete their account, giving a blast of shit to everyone on their way out.

But I digress.


semantics matter

I try my best when putting on my hardcore red hat (and i find most do) to call out action, not a value judgement on the person. That's why you hear 'Thats bitch behaviour' or 'you're being a beta bitch' instead of 'you are weak' 'you are a bitch'. It's a subtle difference, but it's important. (even whinemoreplease posted his only ever OWS when he called a guy a retard.) And when those times happen, it's because of the nature of this sub. You are here to build a better man, we all are. By pushing that submit button, you are accepting that you will be called out when you post weak shit...

Past that, shut the fuck up and don't shit on the man for taking the bull by the horns and owning his shit. If you aren't prepared to suffer the consequences of your value judgment on him, then you don't truly give a shit if he does what you think is 'right' or not.

If anything, the moment you post on how someone shouldn't do something because it's 'wrong' you should immediately stop, look in the mirror, and realize you're projecting yourself into another person. It's not IDGAF, it's crying that everyone doesn't reflect your sensibilities. If I was a mod, I'd probably boot people for it. Luckily, I'm not.

Iron sharpens iron, it doesn't try to cut it down. to quote /u/ultimatecad on this one:

You cant pick and choose the parts of TRP that you like and call it a day. Here is an important point you missed: I don't care what you think and dont need your permission nor your approval to continue. Thats why your shaming tactics dont work. I could explain my past and probably convince you why my current life makes alot of sense for most parties but I dont need to do that. This is about sexual strategy and relationships and I am successful with both. Your opinion EITHER way changes nothing