This post started as a reply to the following post:

My finance (sic) found my throwaway post! How do I make her see that she's wrong?!

He describes his wife as "sexless." Crazy is an opinion he has. Sexless is a fact.

Clearly he is still fully plugged in and just picked and chose what to take from TRP/MRP. I doubt he has read anything in the sidebar beyond a few chapters.

In the thread, he says the following in a reply:

how do I get her to understand that its okay for me to flirt with other women but her not other men? I do not think leaving my daughters mother bc she brilliantly found a way to call me out on my hypocrisy and the hypocrisy of my beliefs will make her healthier at all, actually.

Here's why this isn't hypocrisy:

^^Note: ^^This ^^post ^^will ^^be ^^written ^^as ^^a ^^one-sided ^^dialogue ^^towards ^^the ^^above ^^OP. ^^The ^^language ^^may ^^fit ^^a ^^number ^^of ^^men, ^^though.

Monogamy

Monogamy is not "one person only for the rest of time" with the subtext of unconditionally.

Monogamy is sexual exclusivity for regular sexual access.

It boils down to you ask her to marry you (you ask for regular sexual access.) she says "yes" (she agrees on the condition of sexual exclusivity); you will only fuck her as long as she fucks you regularly and she will only fuck you as long as you fuck her regularly. As long as both partners are sexually satisfied with each other, neither partner has any reason to stray and seek extra-martial sex.

The Male/Female Relationship Dynamic

In any relationship, women control the sexual access. As a BP, you see this as her holding all the cards. This is not the case. She simply holds the sex card and it's really the only card she holds. Marriage 2.0 has extended her hand with a series of wildcards that may become alimony, full custody, your house, etc. This is a topic covered extensively in /r/TheRedPill.

You, however, hold a much greater and higher-value card: The Relationship. Sure, she can pull her sex card off the table and leave you sexually thirsty as a bargaining chip for her control in the marriage... but you can simply walk away. You don't really need her for sex. You can get sex anywhere and it's easy for you to do so, as long as you are perceived as a high-value man to women.

If she pulls the sex card off the table, you can pull the relationship card off the table. If she feels she doesn't owe you sex then you are free to feel that you don't owe her the relationship (inclusively: time, attention, and resources.)

Your Card is Still in Play

She has withdrawn sex from the relationship. Sure, it may be once a month (clinically sexless), or every 2 weeks, or whatever the interval, but whatever the interval is it is disappointing to you.

Marriage is a whole bunch of agreements: some are codified and written, some are verbal (like "vows"), and some are assumed (de-facto through culture, heritage, and tradition.)

Your marriage probably had the assumption that you would have regular sex with her and would only have sex with her. It probably assumed that both of you would always work to increase the other's happiness. Well, she pulled her sex card and as a result has worked to decrease your happiness in exchange for her own comfort (it's easier for her to not have sex with you.)

She didn't feel threatened because you never pulled your card. You stayed married and never did anything to make her think you were going to start playing cards with someone else. Then she found your Reddit post (I'd like to see that post, BTW) and now she realizes that you may be pulling your card from the table and possibly go play with someone else.

The question one may ask is, why did she pull the sex card in the first place?

Feminist Chicken/Egg Dilemma

Women want sex. They want to fuck just like men. They prefer it with their ideal mate. He is typically all the beta/supportive traits PLUS all the alpha/masculine traits; they want the perfect package. Barring that option, they will gladly fuck the pure alpha. They will never fuck the pure beta.

You being as BP and beta as the sky is blue, have neglected your part of the marriage agreement. Some other assumptions are that the person you are marrying is the person you will be married to later. I'm guessing that in her eyes you have changed; you no longer do it for her. You don't smack of the guy deserving of her sex card, so she pulled it.

But why did you become so beta? Because feminism told you and her that you need to be a certain way in the marriage and that way is to do whatever she says. Both of you have been lied to. She wants your masculinity. She craves you leadership and assertiveness. She hopes and hopes (secretly) that you will just tell her no, have a better plan, and then execute it (whatever the situation.)

She wants you to do all of these things... but is disgusted by the idea of you doing them now. Because you are a beta. You are not allowed to talk to her like that. You are not allowed to direct her. And you certainly aren't allowed to fuck her like an alpha. A beta fucking like an alpha is what feminists refer to as rape. A beta acting like an alpha is what feminists refer to as creepy.

So society made you beta, she pulled the sex card, and you are now deciding to pull the relationship card. She sees this as bullshit because you are a beta... and you don't have the ability to act this way. Cognitive dissonance is setting in for her and her hamster is starting to spin up and boy is that wheel squeaky; it hasn't been turned in years!

Training to be Single

When a relationship ends (or is very close to ending) both partners start to engage in single-life-preparation activities: workout more, better clothes, new hair, more time spent on being better, socializing more, making new friends, and advertising to the opposite sex.

You are starting to do that. Your wife found the post and decided that you were actively looking for a new mate. In fact, even after the relationship is better (if it ever is) you still will be looking for a new mate... just not actively. It becomes passive. Your wife sees you as "chasing girls." Chasing women is a sort of a beta activity and she knows it. An alpha only needs to engage any woman in any situation and she will want him; the coffee barista, the cashier at the grocery store, the server at the restaurant, the girl in the park... etc. Alphas don't chase women... they just interact with everyone confidently. You specifically started an activity (volleyball, from the post) to meet women.

Instead you should be doing things that make you awesome. If volleyball makes you awesome, keep doing it... but don't do it to game women. If you are there to game women then you aren't focusing on you any more. You are demonstrating sexual thirst... you are demonstrating a lack of abundance.

Do your activities, meet new people, and in passing, women will be attracted to you as you improve. Never chase women... and never turn women away... but do flirt with them; stay loose, breezy, aloof, and mysterious.

The (non) Hypocrisy (Social)

Men and women flirt for two different reasons and it's due to the cards they hold. More specifically, women "flirt" and men, when they do it properly, just are. Men don't flirt; flirting is chasing. Men game.

Women hold the sex card so when they flirt, they are doing so as an advertisement of their sexual access. They flirt to tell the target, "I'm sexually available and I find you worthy of that sexual access."

Men hold the relationship card. When a man talks to a girl, it is non-threatening and non-assumptive. If the girl is responsive to him physically, she will flirt (advertising her sexual availability and your possible access to it.) If she flirts, he will game her by simply playing into her flirting with A&A, AM, C/F, etc. Escalation leads to innuendo and double entendre.

While it seems that he is "flirting" too there is a severe difference in the two: He is not advertising sexual availability.

When she flirts she is simultaneously allowing you to get closer for sexual access and asking permission for your relationship. A man simply needs to never escalate. As long as he is simply awesome in his own right, a simple "how are you? I like that shirt." is enough to inspire flirtatious advances. He doesn't have to do anything else... and sometimes not responding to their advances *increases their desire for him.

In a marriage, when a man "flirts" with another woman he is only talking to her and it simply means he is confident to do so in front of his wife. "Hi, how are you? I like that shirt." is a harmless greeting. If he is awesome enough, she will respond in a flirtatious manner. This shows your wife that you are an awesome person and others see it. Her response will be an increase in desire for you because of pre-selection; the concept that you are clearly good if others, especially those she sees as a sexual threat, also see you as good.

In a marriage, when a woman flirts with another man she actively advertising her sexual availability to the other man while she is married. FULL STOP.

The effect is that she is telling her husband that he is not awesome (read: alpha) enough for her and she needs to get her TingleZ^^TM from someone else.

The (non) Hypocrisy (Biological)

Males are wired to inseminate as many females as possible because sperm is cheap, readily available, replenishable, and his ability to be sexually viable for reproduction is about as long as he is alive and he needs to get as many offspring with his genetic material into the world as possible be he an alpha or a beta.

Females are wired to find the best possible mate to give her a child (she controls the sexual access) because her reproductive years are limited, her eggs are finite, and she is saddled with the outcome of a sexual encounter for 9-months + as long as is necessary to raise the child to adulthood, she needs to be very selective with her options.

The (non) Hypocrisy (Bio-social)

When a man has several sexual options that he uses (wife + girlfriends, etc.) he only loses sperm for a few hours. He could father 100 kids and if the other woman doesn't do anything about it, he loses nothing. As long as keeps his dick wrapped up and doesn't start siphoning resources from the marriage to direct into his girlfriends (time, money, and attention) then the wife doesn't really lose anything. If he stays married to her and fucks other girls, she isn't really affected.

When a woman makes use of extra-marital sexual options, she can be saddled with a man's child... and if she is married while it happens, her husband can be saddled with that child too, especially when she says, "oh, it's yours, honey." A woman cheating has very real and very severe penalties to the marriage: the husband now has to support his cuckhold child and the woman is now dealing with the biological ramifications of her hypergamy.

The (non) Hypocrisy (Personal for /u/CKsRock)

For the OP in the post, his wife is threatening to go flirt with other men to teach him some kind of lesson; OP, you are looking for sex from other women because the person who controls your exclusive sexual access is withholding it. She threatens to flirt (advertise her sexual availability) with other men as a lesson. She is complaining that if you get to flirt (look for non-withholding sexual partners) she is going to flirt too and advertise the very thing she is withholding from you.

Womanese translation:

You are not allowed to look for sex from other women because I don't think you are good enough to have sex with other women. I will go look for sex with other men because you are not even good enough to have sex with me. I also think that if you find someone else to have sex with you will take away all of the resources (read: betabux) that I enjoy from you and I want sex too, so I'm going to go get it (read: alphafux) while you still support me.

OP, your wife is essentially saying she's better than you and that you don't deserve to be happy unless she is happy too.