Forgive the drift into NMMNG territory.

Recap


I got lazy and beta while concentrating on other things. Expectedly (hindsight 20/20) wife puts pants back on and shit-tests me until I wake up and go O.I..

Continuation


My friend didn't need to ask why I was out and about needing last minute plans. Just told him I've obviously been hanging around my house too long. He's on his way back home from being out and if I wanted to just come over.

I stop by and grab some beer from a gas station to not come over empty handed.

Getting to his house I'm greeted by his wife. He met her while she was young (20) , to say he molded her personality (of which she had none when they met) over the years is an understatement. She's like an echo personality of his and we get along well.

After civilities she leaves to do some work and friend says his neighbor, whom I've never met, is a cool guy he was previously planning on just drinking and shooting the shit with anyway (neighbor travels extensively for his job and just got back from overseas).

He said he's already texted him and told him he was +1 which was kosher.

His neighbor is a giant guy, looks sorta like Dante Nero without the tats. One of those that could break you in two, but is also totally outgoing and nice. I go for a handshake and this killer gives me a brohug and looks at me like what the fuck... were you going in for a handshake?. His teenage daughter comes out and gives us hugs, too. They're a huggy bunch. I'm a bit humbled.

My friend cracks open his bottle of Petron XO Cafe he brought over. It's like candy. Everyone should try it. Big neighbor asks if I smoke cigars. I do on occasion. He says "Well this is a good occasion". breaks out the cigars and two bottles he brought back from overseas you can't in the states: Tullamore Dew Red Label Special reserve and Glenlivet Nadurra 16 year. I never turn down that kind of hospitality, where I'm from it's just rude. OK, especially 15$ cigars (that's high dollar to me) and good Scotch.

We pair up drinks. I'm enjoying the fuck out of myself. Talking about our women comes up while we shoot the shit. My friend is pretty natty RP. Has been as long as I've known him. His neighbor just screams it.

His wife is actually out with a friend of hers for her gno. I gather they've been married for longer than 20 years. He literally gives no fucks. "When she gets home, and we're done here, I'm going upstairs and waking her ass up with a giant dick. And that's all that matters."

I start to recount a bit of the bat shit Part I and get nods all around of how I let things get out of my frame.

I hear some RP from them:

"Don't let your woman tell you who you are or that's all you'll ever be."

"If we acted the same as they did we'd all be at various stages of arrest or incarceration."

We talk about how in general we need guy-time and how modern society tries so hard to break it up or ensure it doesn't happen (ie. why aren't you at IKEA holding your wife's purse?).

Eventually we do some bronalysis of each other. When it was my turn my friend described me as someone who can get stuck in his head and on edge, but it's due to the fact that I'm generally trying to think too far ahead. He called it a problem with his super smart friends. Neighbor says he picked up on something that made him think I was nervous.

I agreed although downplaying the smart part and I am pretty reserved socially until I've worked out interpersonal dynamics. So I felt like I did learn something about myself and something to add to my MAP. Led me to some introspection that I over analyze things to the point where I'm so risk-avoidant that it hurts my abilities to accomplish things.

NOTE: I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO FORGET TO GET AWAY FOR SO LONG MY THAT MY MARRIAGE DYNAMICS SLIP AND MY WIFE CHASES ME OUT OF THE HOUSE BY DEVOLVING INTO A HARPY.

GET YOUR FUCKING BRO TIME IN.

IT'S INVALUABLE TO YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH.

Neighbor's wife gets home. I get up , brief introductions and wifey sticks out her hand for a handshake. I look at her with a wtf? and take a hug.

I'm pretty careful about interjecting water into the drink rounds ie. pacing, so before they make me stay or get Uber I call it as I have a 30+ minute drive ahead. As I'm leaving, neighbor who I now call new-friend hands me the rest of the bottle of TD because he has a friend who snagged him another and a cigar he thinks I'd like to go with it. I thank him profusely. Fucking humbled again. I share cheap beer and they share primo. I internally resolve to have an assload of homebrew or a nice bottle of something next time I come over.

In Summary


So while my wife forced some O.I. and IDGAF, I got to hang out with my bros which gave me a needed kick in the pants and recharge. From just those few hours I resolved to take a clue from new-friend to be more generous with friends, to be more less apprehensive from old-friend and to stop overthinking things. My evening plus some wisdom I took from the recent RP post about wealth has given me an idea for something big to do to improve my financial situation long term. Because from what I know and what I learned about myself Saturday night I see it as fitting my personality and skillset as well.

Later PART III: Parks of fun , quick signs of return to form.