Since the advent of /r/askMRP I've been paying a lot more attention to the new guy posts. The questions inevitably come down to the stress the new guys feel when they challenge the frame of their wives.

Things like that boil down to either, "My woman isn't respecting me, and I'm distressed," or "My woman isn't attracted to me and I don't recognize the signs for what they are."

For those new guys, hear this now: If you care, you've already lost. Your woman is in control and you are not. Review the Principle of Least Interest.

For the rest of us, the Principle of Least Interest is really the keystone, if you think about it. It is the psychological principal at the core of OI. A "zero-fucks-given" attitude is knowing that you don't need her like those blue pill fucks do; that you can always be happy without her; that she is not a snowflake. This is the Principle; you care less about the relationship than she does. And even more importantly, you care about you more than you care about her.

Once you get to that point, shit tests are almost comical as you offhandedly destroy them. Comfort tests start to be recognized as your woman inviting you to initiate. She can't break your frame because, quite frankly, what she does or says is just not that important (barring crazy shit of course).

You no longer worry about what she'll think of your choices and decisions; if she has concerns, she'll voice them; if not she'll go along compliantly. The miracle of course is that women like this arrangement and settle into it.

Or they don't. They fight you, they struggle for control. They carry on, trying to value themselves as men would, drinking the feminist Kool Aid to varying degrees. But you have a secret weapon: The Principle is your ally. As they try to resist, your psychological jujitsu kicks in and you grow even more disinterested in their bullshit, heaping value on top of riches in the gym or at work or with your buddies in whatever badass pursuit you share. The resisting woman either puts herself out of your life or she shapes up; the choice is hers and you don't really care since you have probably got your abundance on as well (and women are likely trying to get your attention).

Keep in mind you can take it too far by over-dreading her inadvertantly or driving her off with your indifference. How much it takes to fuck up in this way is different in each relationship, so be mindful. On the other hand, if it only requires a small amount of indifference to drive her off maybe she's better off gone.

So think on that brothers when the shit tests are coming in hot and heavy. Ask yourself, "Am I really that interested in this game? Do I really care?" For the answer makes all the difference.

[Edit: corrected sloppy spelling]