So my wife's family pitched up on thursday. Sister, kid and parents. This was not really discussed with me and I did let her know about it.

Passed that shit/comfort test by telling her they are welcome to stay but she needs to discus it with me beforehand.

Fast forward to friday night. I am struggling to keep frame with a house full of kids, half senile bluepill father in law and the sisters. I don't want to go out as I am working saturday and am bushed from the past week.

Go to bed, find wife in the room. Earlier I had told her I am looking forward to tonight with her. She dodges out of the room to avoid me.

Fuck that, I am butthurt and lose frame. I don't say a word and I lock the door so she can't get in. Around 01h00 I hear someone trying to get in but ignore her. She doesn't make a noise because then her whole family would like to know whats up.

Find her sleeping on the couch this morning on the way to work. She is cold and aloof towards me and wants to know why I locked the door. By her tone and posture I can see she is primed for battle.

I answer her with a laugh "I forgot to unlock it after I was done" (masturbating)

She looked deflated, there was no fight!

I think I handled this morning correctly, but how do I maintain frame for the rest of the weekend? I must go home now but don't feel like it. The castle has been over run by peasants!