This article on Stoicism in Return of Kings is long and painful but many of us married guys going the stoic route will find it helpful.

You don't have to be stoic to have success with women because an attractive frame will work. There is also cocky/funny/confident/strong/leader etc. However, if you are emotional. If you are low on stoicism; then by far the greatest gains will be by shoring up your weakness! So whether you are going stoic, or not, take the time to read this article.

Some of the money quotes:

The essence of Stoicism can be found in passage XLVIII:

  1. “The condition and characteristic of [an instructed person] is this: he expects all advantage and all harm from [his mind and not from his environment].”
  2. “He censures no man, he praises no man, he blames no man, he accuses no man, he says nothing about himself as if he were somebody or knew something;”
  3. “…when he is impeded at all or hindered, he blames himself: if a man praises him, he ridicules the praiser to himself: if a man censures him, he makes no defense.”
  4. “…he removes all desire from himself, and he transfers aversion to those things only of the things within our power which are contrary to nature.”
  5. “…he employs a moderate movement toward everything.”
  6. “…whether he is considered foolish or ignorant, he cares not.”

Remember that it is not he YOUR WIFE who reviles you or strikes you, who insults you, but it is your opinion about these things as being insulting. When then a man YOUR WIFE irritates you, you must know that it is your own opinion which has irritated you.

When you have decided that a thing ought to be done and are doing it, never avoid being seen doing it, though the many shall form an unfavorable opinion about it. For if it is not right to do it, avoid doing the thing; but if it is right, why are you afraid of those who shall find fault wrongly?

As a goose is not frightened by cackling nor a sheep by bleating, so let not the clamor of a senseless multitude alarm you.

As the sun does not wait for prayers and incantations to be induced to rise, but immediately shines and is saluted by all: so do you also not wait for clapings of hands, and shouts and praise to be induced to do good, but be a doer of good voluntarily, and you will be beloved as much as the sun.