This sub is about upping your Alpha mating game in your LTR. As you should know, this game is played 24/7. Here are some things I've read, learned, tried and accomplished that help my Alpha'ness at work, which also helps at home. Of course, not every thing here applies to every person, job or event. Use your discretion. It doesn't matter how important your title is, it's how important you make yourself.

  • Walk Tall - Cock first, shoulders back. Doing Lat Pulldowns and Overhead Press are great exercises for this. Walk around with purpose wherever you go.

  • Dress Well - There's a 20-something guy here that always where's a button-down and slacks (which is on the upper end of our style), but the shirts are baggy & wrinkled and the slacks are loose-fitting & out of style. Point is - Dress nice! Polos aren't white-collar work-chic, I don't care how many tradeshows you've been to. Slacks and a button down are my go-to. Make sure your clothes are fitted, clean and pressed. Get metal collar stays, they work. Spend more upfront on wrinkle-free shirts and save money on dry-cleaning. Get shirts that fit your frame (hint, they're not in sizes S, M, L)! If you're fit, then you need "Athletic/Slim Cut". Consider tailoring them. Get a work-sexy sportcoat and have it perfectly tailored. That will dress up any outfit. Get your shoes shined and have an insta-shine sponge in your desk. I wear a tie once a week. I only see the owner in a tie on occasion, so I'm mirroring him. Point is, look like you are a top dog or should be considered for the position. The right clothes, the right fit, the right care. Trust me, your SO will appreciate it as well.

  • Talk with Everyone - I'm not saying to spend your day gabbing. Do NOT be that guy. But have a good rapport with anyone you come in contact with at work. Remember their name, position and some personal fact. Alphas tend to be extroverted. Amass your allies all over the company.

  • Up Your Skills - Take a class on one thing that's important to your success. In our $100M firm, I am the known as the Excel master. It's almost more important than my degree. Find an online class or video series to learn more about some software or process that can make you more valuable in your current and future roles.

  • Cleanliness - Whether your subordinates or bosses come into your office, what's the impression they get? Do they see a clean desk from someone they can trust to stay organized and on top of everything? Or do they see a mess everywhere, conveying that you're not on top of your responsibilities?

  • Lead - If you're a manager with an assigned team, then make sure you're "leading" the people, not "managing" their numbers. Humans want a boss they can trust and follow. The majority of American workers would rather get a new boss than a pay raise. What kind of boss are you? If you don't have a team beneath you, then create one around you. I don't manage people now. But I did create a weekly meeting of our mid management. They were all whining about direction and clarity but no one was standing up. I'm the newest and youngest here, but I Alpha'd up, created and manage these meetings. If your leaders aren't leading the way you want, please accept that as the reality and choose to lead by example. Someday, you may actually be the boss.

  • Take Notes - Always, always write down notes. Notes on your phone look like you're just playing. Notes on a pad are faster and let you keep your eyes on the audience. Never walk into your bosses office without a notepad. Whether you're an operator, sales or managers - we all know what it's like to forget a key part of task/meeting OR to try to tell someone else what to do, watch them not take notes, and watch them miss something crucial. Be reliable.

  • Take the Pressure Off - Your goal for your bosses/customers is to take something off of their plate. Everyone is overworked and stressed. Let your bosses/customers know that when you touch something, that it's as good as done. They can rest easy as soon as they know that your'e on it.

  • Be Entrepreneurial - Start a side business at home or lead like an entrepreneur/boss at work. Unless you're in a company of 1/2 M employees where any step outside of your perfectly worded job description results in pandemonium. I've found that most customers/bosses want someone that knows how to get their assigned role done AND has a leadership/entrepreneurial quality to them. Why? People don't just turn into leaders when they get a new title, they are leaders 24/7 regardless of title and position. When you genuinely want to see the company grow, take unique steps to get there, are willing to take risks for what you believe, and see your projects through to completion ... then you're a leader.

  • No Rough Drafts - A successful buddy of mine gave me this tip. There's no such thing as a rough draft. If you're showing a draft to team mates or bosses, it better look good. Make sure there are no typos, that it's visually close to the final and that you know what the next steps & feedback are that you need to complete it.

  • Complete Things - Too many employees bounce between activities without finishing them. Be the team member that is known for finishing projects. In school you could get something "mostly" done and still earn a B. Here, it's either complete or worthless.

  • Let Your SO Watch You Work - She supports you through the long hours, sleepless nights and career stresses. She believes in you. She trusts you to support (on some level) the family. The women love to watch us do what we do best. I used to work at a vacation place. There was no greater power than walking around a group of bumbling tourists while I had a clipboard and walkie-talkie. I could get away with anything. It was glorious to watch the ladies tingle when I barked orders to everyone. I'm now doing the white-collar corporate stuff. Even now, my SO loves swinging by and seeing my cool office or chatting up my boss or sitting back and watching me finish up report. Point is, she supports you and (to some level) she gets the tingles watching you work.

All our MRP activities are meant to improve us from the core of our being. They're not something you turn on and off depending on whether your wife or kids are around. I used to work and crave validation for my projects as they were ongoing. RP me doesn't need those little cookies. Work with confidence that you're heading up the right path. If you're unsure, then seek clarity. Manage expectations and meet deadlines. Practice leading, maintaining frame, outcome independence and more at work. Build your careers so that your wife can get the tingles thinking about the impact you're making at work, how well you provide for the family ... and still find time to ravage her like a caveman.