Wow. I never thought I would see another post about marriage after [Dave in Hawaii] ( https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/14/relationship-game-week-a-readers-journey/) , but lo and behold, a great write up of Asshole Game in an LTR and marriage. The post is actually pretty good, and covers ground we are all familiar with. He considers Outcome Independence, Amused Mastery, and Agree and Amplify to be "Asshole Game," which is kind of surprising to me. The post has some really good examples of each as well. Overall, I am surprised and happy to see this post.

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when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”.

This right here is fucking gold. Wow... One short, succinct reply says more than an infinite number of hamsters banging away on an infinite number of typewriters for an infinite amount of time.

Edit: [Rhett Butler nailed it years ago.] (http://youtu.be/GQ5ICXMC4xY)