So, my sister ("Stacy") has been married to her husband ("Albert") for about 4 years now, and they have 2 kids together. Albert is a very typical Nice Guy, from a quiet, conservative, Christian family. His dad is a typical beta, and so is he for the most part. When they married, Stacy was a virgin minus a handful of "minor encounters" (as far as I know only one previous BF fingered her once but she stopped it).

Now, over the years, she's complained to my mom about how she just wished Albert would "take charge more" or "lead the household" more. Being conservative Christian and non-feminist, she's coming from the "women should submit to their husbands" Biblical narrative, which is fine. Anyway, so, ever since swallowing the red pill about a year ago I've been thinking about this situation from time to time and how I might help them out.

I know it's generally not advised to go pimping TRP to plugged in guys, but I think at some level he knows that good Christian husband should "lead" the house, but I think he just doesn't really know how to do that, and on top of that, I think he's definitely got the "I'm afraid of pissing of the wife and having to sleep on the couch" mentality. So he plays it safe, does pretty much what any good plugged-in beta would do to try to "keep her happy".

What's worse is that he works all day (as an accountant for a small accounting firm) while she's a 100% STAHM. She got her "MRS" degree in art from the same college as him (where they met) and uses that to hamster why she sits at home and works on "crafts" all day, raising the kids and "doesn't have time" to do things like dishes, cook dinner, clean up, etc. So she makes him do all of that when he gets home from a long day at work. Classic story, etc.

Anyway, they live in another state and only visit a few times a year, so I've never really had a chance to take him out on a guys night and try to plant some seeds, but I did buy him NMMNG and MMSLP for x-mas. I didn't get much of a chance to really explain it to him either or even drive home the point that these aren't just some random "self-help" books, and the look on his face when he opened them was kind of like "oh that's nice kthanks... next".

So, I was originally thinking of sending him a message on FB something along these lines:

"Hey man, you get a chance to start reading those books? I don't want you to get the wrong idea, but they were life-changing for me and literally saved my marriage from the brink. I'm not saying I know of anything wrong with your marriage, but I sure could have used those books a few years ago before we started having problems. So, just wanted to help a bro out. Ok, so obviously I'm doing it for my baby sister, you caught me. LOL. Only half-joking. :P Anyway, let me know what you think or if you have any questions. Happy New Year. :)"

I was also thinking about sending him Ian Ironwood's Dude, got a minute? link, but I'm afraid the language and dirty pics might deter him. Especially since I'm an atheist and he knows it, he might think this is just some "bro you gotta fuck bitches and make money" and just ignore it. I was hoping there might be some kind of equivalent on Dalrock, but couldn't find anything.

Anyway, I'm open to any ideas or suggestions.

Update: I just talked to my sister more, and she said he actually did start reading the books today and seems pretty interested. She's encouraging it by saying things like "I want you to woo me ;)" with a semi-playful tone, referring to the MMSL book, so I think things are going well. I'll update with another post if anything interesting happens. Hopefully he'll read the books and feel comfortable enough to come to me with any questions. At some point I might even point him here. I've already pointed my sister to RPW and she likes what she sees so far.