My boyfriend has been harassed

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January 26, 2019

So my boyfriend is on this college team and there is this coach (Let's call him X). He is also gay, kind of like the same age as him, and the whole team has a really good relationship with him.

X is clearly into my boyfriend and keeps hitting on him, knowing that he is dating me. He has been very uncomfortable and touchy in a disrespectful way. Also he keeps commenting on my boyfriend's pics.

My boyfriend has told some of the head team members, but none of them seemed to care about it.

As his boyfriend, I advised him to unfollow him on social media and keep as much distance from him as possible. Since I've been harassed and this really helped me get some distance.

He agrees with me, but never really did it. Even though I said it more than once, and I noticed he actually got angry with me having said that. Not only that, but he also likes the pictures of X, and likes his comments when X comments on his posts.

I know the victim is never guilty for what the other people do. But I really would like to understand my boyfriend's attitude and what can I do to help him.

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Title My boyfriend has been harassed
Author gabot98
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Comments 3
Date 26 January 2019 01:10 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]wingedagni2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you think your boyfriend needs help? Sounds to me like he's in a pretty good spot.

He probably has a crush on his coach, and likes the attention of someone hitting on him. Who wouldn't? He's clearly attracted to the coach, and the coach to him. They share the whole sports thing. They're the same age.

What you are doing isn't a red pill at all. You are nagging him. Instead of trying to be better than the guy that your boyfriend has a crush on, you're just trying to somehow keep your boyfriend separated from anyone who is potentially better than you, a strategy that will never work.

How about you try to improve yourself, and either your boyfriend will like you for you, or he'll leave for someone he actually likes.

But I really would like to understand my boyfriend's attitude and what can I do to help him.


Understand your boyfriends attitude? Your boyfriends attitude is he's actually attracted to someone that shares a lot of his attributes, and then he comes home to you who complains and bitches to him about it.

Wake-up call. Your boyfriend isn't being harassed. He likes it and is participating in it.

Second wake-up call. Stop being a bitch. The only thing you can control is yourself. Make yourself better.

[–]brotherfucka0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's easier to say you were harassed than to confess you cheated.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's his own person and he does not take orders from you. Be a man and move on.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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