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Male androgyny and "pretty boys." Advice? Theories? Feedback?

by [deleted] | May 14, 2015 | altTRP

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As a pretty boy myself, it's been DIFFICULT and not easy over the years. Contrary to popular belief. I got into thrash metal, not glam metal, and I can't write a glam metal song without rewiring myself and suspending disbelief. I would kill to be in a band like Steel Panther right now. (/r/SteelPanther)

I'm in my early 40's and it's very, very different. I still look 25!!! There are guys in their 20's who look older than me. I still have a full head of hair. No beer gut. I'm rail thin. I can't grow facial hair. In fact, God didn't really give me body hair, so I shave off what little hair I was given.

It's also been weird as I got into my 30's and sustained my looks, so many women were hitting the wall and flying by me in the looking-older department. These were women I was interested in my 20's and they wouldn't give me the time of day.

I'm definitely not taking my looks for granted anymore. I watch what I eat and exercise regularly. Women in their 20's have no problem getting acquainted with me IRL but I do feel like that ageless vampire that's been around for eternity and seen a lot of things. For online dating I lie and say I'm 26 on my profile. Otherwise it's one worthless hag after another grossing me out.

I know I'm not alone. But I only personally know of one other guy who's in his mid 40's and in the same boat as me. There are not a lot of guys out there in this category.

So TRP is all about gender roles. Being a pretty boy makes you look like maybe you're one of those progressive types that wants to bend the gender roles. Like maybe you want to be the submissive homemaker and get "pegged." Well, no, I don't. But I'm not going to hot-glue cornflakes to my face to give up my "pretty boy" looks either.

One thing I think I'm doing right is taking classes at community college. There's a lot of young pretty girls at community college.


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Title Male androgyny and "pretty boys." Advice? Theories? Feedback?
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Upvotes 3
Comments 2
Date 14 May 2015 09:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit altTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203183
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/altTRP/comments/35zrai/male_androgyny_and_pretty_boys_advice_theories/
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wait, are you into dudes at all? Just wondering because you're on altTRP. Or maybe I'm missing something.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm really lost OP. Alttrp is for bi and gay men. While I'm not ruling out that you could be bi, talking to us about pretty girls in community college is not going to be something within our expertise because we are men interested in other males.



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