I think my original post was deleted but basically I had 'the talk' with the wife. Saying she needed to get off her ass and get a job. (married MANY years, no kids, she's never worked).

She threw EVERYTHING in the book at me that I predicted and then some. Accusing me of not caring, bringing up past shit, making excuses, tears, threatening to leave.

Thanks to all the advice I had in that thread, the recommendation of the book 'When I say no, I feel guilty' and some really nice chat in theredpill IRC today (I knew this shit was going to come up soon). I remained STOIC, calm. She did not break my frame. I did not lose my temper and lose track of my point. I was prepared for everything that came my way - I had to try not to laugh at how accurate it was to what was predicted due to TRP teachings.

I did not give into her tactics. I either ignored what she said and remained silent, or parroted back what she said "you're saying X, I'm just saying you need to get a job".

This is NOT over by a long shot. She is still sulking and acting like an angry teenager. There is no guarantee she will actually get a job. But this is a great first step. I could see it in her eyes, she knows I will burn this marriage to the ground if she does not start pulling her weight.

So, thanks again. Gotta stay strong for all the mega shit tests I can feel down the road here. Will be leaning on you guys for support.