I had a fairly RP upbringing (really alpha dad) and grew up in a more conservative culture (Russia). When I came to America and started having to shut up rather than say common sense stuff (RP), I felt ashamed because I thought I was some backwards immigrant who doesn't know how to be civilized.

I came here a few months back from one of those "what is the worst subreddit" threads and I have to say, thank you. Up until I came here I was trying to brainwash myself into a BP mindset out of a misguided idea that Americans are expected to act this way (misguided because the expectations are real but come from people who need to be ignored). Now I realize it's just a symptom of cultural decay. I went back to my upbringing/instincts and honestly have never been happier or more successful.

By the way, I am not trying to shit on American culture. My family came here with antiquated and rosy visions of a Mad Men style America in our heads , but New York has a toxically liberal cultural environment these days. The actual American men I met (to me this is someone of western European background who lives in the interior) tend to be much more culturally fit than white New Yorkers.