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"Married couples, what is the unspoken rules of a successful marriage?" thread on askMRP

by weakandsensitive | January 23, 2019 | askMRP

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The thread is a shitshow. It's a 101 of average dating/arriage advice sucks.

According to the top voted advice in that thread, all you have to do is communicate harder.

  1. What's the point of communicating if the other person has no interest in listening?

  2. Why do people imply that talking is the extent of communication? The majority of our communication is non-verbal.

Even the controversial comments were pretty terrible.

Buried in there though, was a link to Mark Manson.

Have a look. Look for gems.


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Title "Married couples, what is the unspoken rules of a successful marriage?" thread on askMRP
Author weakandsensitive
Upvotes 24
Comments 41
Date 23 January 2019 07:14 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203652
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/aj39sz/married_couples_what_is_the_unspoken_rules_of_a/
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[–]red88lobster20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

My father in law's advice was to agree with everything she says. Poor guy.

[–]Punishermp65 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

My FIL drops the "happy wife, happy life" line all the time. This is the same guy who openly refers to his wife as "the boss", and is terrified of upsetting her. He's also slept on the couch the last 25+ years, fucking pathetic. Weird thing is he's a pretty alpha guy when she's not present.

[–]Kpwn882 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

My father in law's advice was to agree with everything she says do whatever his perfect little princess wanted. Poor guy.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m not even going to click on that.

That’s not what we do here.

[–]framelessglasses8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You made the right decision. Don't ask me how I know.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

Cringing after reading a few of the comments... I can’t do it.

“Communicating more” just gets repeated over and over again.. the average beta male could never imagine nor believe that it comes down to attraction and biology.

[–]TheThirdT4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Communication" is how the male is turned into a beta (if he wasn't already one).

[–]Kidterrific3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Communicate more by saying less.

[–]Acerp32113 points14 points  (5 children) | Copy

Most of the keys to a successful marriage are on here.

1 Don’t marry a cunt

2 read #1

3 own your shit and lead. Very few women are going to leave you when you SMV is high.

Plus your self confidence is high which helps your frame.

4 Have shared values with this woman and never waver.

5 Fuck a lot. A man can’t feel like he’s got a good relationship when the sex is infrequent.

That’s all the basics anybody needs. Barring a something nuclear like loss of a child or fatal disease to one of you it should go on like this if you want it to.

[–]FoxShitNasty8316 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit... I fucked up at step 1

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Barring a something nuclear like loss of a child

This is what ultimately lead me to MRP. It took nearly 3 years through the guilt (nothing I could do, it was cancer), self-hating, depression, anxiety, leaning on my wife for support and to lead the family. Was so frustrated at how shitty I felt and how shitty our marriage was got me here. Now I'm pulling not only myself out of the hell we've been in but the entire family... RP is life changing. Sometimes a tragedy gives you an opportunity; just have to recognize it and take it.

[–]weakandsensitive[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

The keys to being wealthy : have money.

See, how easy is that?

[–]Acerp32110 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Funny. That’s how capitalism works. Acquire capital. Take risk. Acquire wealth.

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy

Blowjobs and anal.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

Not necessarily in that order.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

It is if you plan on kissing her afterwards.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Pussy

[–]Kpwn883 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your immune system, not mine. Have fun!

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha, it was a joke guys. Lighten up.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

My man. 😏

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

The saddest part is 4 months ago I would have been swallowing this crap and still beating my head on a wall of why my relationship life sucked.

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[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

right on, brother. same here. fucking crazy to see this shit from a RP lens.

[–]framelessglasses1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Only four months in, at least you quit beating your head up against the wall. Progress is progress, right?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

My life is already so much better. I'm just getting started and fuck up a lot, but at least I know when I fuck up.

  • My anxiety has reduced to a minimum; depression is gone
  • I Care about my fitness and physical appearance
  • My self-confidence increasing every week
  • I don't hate going home at night because I've started to be able to disconnect my wife's emotions from mine

[–]framelessglasses1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

my anxiety, I Care, My self-confidence, I don't hate.....

Great examples of changes to your "point of origin". Now keep it full throttle and don't look back.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I still lose control of my pulse and blood pressure sometimes but no outward banging any more! Yay progress.

[–]framelessglasses0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pulse and blood pressure isn't so bad. What I hate is when my hamster spends the night spinning my wheel. :)

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

The top voted comments all come across like a disney wishlist.

[–]threekindsoflucky8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Apologize early and often. It doesn’t hurt and it’s extremely beneficial to the relationship.

And don’t expect your partner to apologize for their part of a disagreement just because you did. It’s not a contest.

It's like a race to the bottom.

[–]aherrns7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

She has to give the ass.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think your problem is you are viewing this from a man's perspective. You should be looking at it from a woman's perspective. Fuck, I think you are supposed to BE a woman these days #metoo.

So once you correct your perspective, you will see all the talking is the best way to make useless husband do chores. Occasionally pepper in some sex, and your relationship will be cooked nicely. Serves 1.

[–]SeamusAwl7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have a look. Look for gems.

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You mean like "Fist bumps for farting"

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[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

LOL, all they have is the 5 Love Languages. Shitshow is the absolute correct description. My God the ignorance. The lies. The hamsters. The hamsters are everywhere. Negotiate with your wife. Yah, that will work. Schedule sex. That's a god one. Most important, do the dishes.

[–]aherrns2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you do the dishes, she will blow you. It always work.

[–]Tbonesupreme6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You all seem far less faggoty, now.

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because of people’s deep rooted need to believe.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Clickbait troll shit"

Too many fucks given in the Love Languages patter I see

[–]redismyfuture1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What's really sad is that these people truly believe talking and given trust will solve all their marriage problems.

Whatever, not my problem.

[–]Kpwn881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Communication implies Martians and Venusians speak the same language. They don't.

[–]BluBlac590 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Never let your wife's opinion of you change your opinion of yourself. Happy wife happy wife is for losers. If you want a happy wife, marry a happy woman. Never marry a single mother.



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