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Best parenting books for new dads?

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January 17, 2019
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My wife and I are having our first child in September and I'm trying to find some decent parenting books for raising RP'd kids.


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Title Best parenting books for new dads?
Author burtcokain94
Upvotes 11
Comments 24
Date 17 January 2019 03:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]InChargeManRed Beret15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

IMO it isn't about raising overtly RP kids, it's about being a good role model and guiding them to develop the characteristics to make them happy and successful in life.

[–]SeamusAwl4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

guiding them to develop the characteristics to make them happy and successful in life.

Absolutely true. My youngest quits everything at the slightest hint of negativity and runs off to sulk. Obviously this is a negative behavior that needs to be fixed.

My current attempt to change this behavior is this:

She saw this giant teddy bear that she "really wants". I told her no, but come back tomorrow and ask me in a more creative way. I may still say no. But I might not. Keep trying daily with a new creative way until I either say yes or you give up.

[–]Tbonesupreme0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would encourage inter-sibling competition. Family games, etc. If she runs off when things aren't going her way, make her sit and watch everyone else play and enjoy themselves.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

learn how to operate your baby first. you have a long way to go before you get to "kids"

[–]CasperTFG_8083 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What happens in the first few years will effect your kids less and you and your relationship more.

An often used torture method is sleep deprivation as it causes an individuals psyche to break allowing them to let down barriers. Think about that when a crying baby has you all up 6 times a night and you try to keep your frame.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol, I think one of mine might be defective.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy

Make sure you know your wife’s love language. It will pull you through those challenging first few years.

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

WTF.. Never expected this to be your comment. Take your upvote for doing the unexpected.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

/s

[–]Tbonesupreme3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I thought it was obvious....

[–]suprathepeg7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sidebar, lift, lead, hold frame, don’t get oneitis etc. The basics are all the same. What I’ve learned about dread, MRP etc is really only about sexual dynamics if viewed from the perspective of sexual dynamics it actually applies to all aspects of how you live your life.

Three blind spots I think parents really gotta watch out for with their kids is diet, social media and video games. Kids have zero natural resistance to these things as they are engineered to unnaturally appeal to biological triggers in the human body. So many people say my kid only eats insert shit good here, total failure in maintaining boundaries. Hard battles fought early often need not be fought again.

[–]WesternhagenWinner3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure why TFA no longer posts here, but there is a lot to look at on his site:

https://thefamilyalpha.com/

[–]Kpwn883 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

First book you should read is Rollo's third book, Positive Masculinity so you have a good understanding of what you are up against.

Next, I'd recommend you start diving a little deeper down the red pill rabbit hole beyond intersexual dynamics. There are other things besides feminism used against you and your family. You want to set them up for success and give them every little advantage possible. For instance, breast feeding has shown to give kids higher IQs, stronger immune systems, and overall better emotional health due to the hormonal bonds with their mother.

Beyond breastfeeding, what you feed them is going to have a huge impact on their development. The ruling class is well aware of this and that is the reason a happy meal is cheaper than a bag of organic carrots.

When it comes to teaching them values, the best thing you can do is lead by example. When their dad is stepping up, taking charge, and mommy respects him, it set the tone for a stable home and gives the children proper male and female role models to emulate.

Now as far as teaching goes, my suggestion is to throw out your TV. They don't call it "programming" for nothing. At the very least, severely limit screen time and prescreening everything they watch to make sure it isn't filling their head with nonsense.

Their are books out there to help with the parenting process itself to help, but they aren't necessarily red pill per se.

For dealing with children, I'd recommend Ignore it! by Catherine Pearlman and No Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Seigel

[–]Tbonesupreme2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Breast feeding has little to no bearing on IQ in children. Sibling and twin studies have proven that myth false.

However, the mother's IQ does correlate with breast feeding. The higher the IQ of the mother, the more likely she is to breast feed. The IQ of the mother DOES correlate with the IQ of the child.

It does help the child's immune system, though, and the bond does improve - so it's still worth it.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Breast feeding has little to no bearing on IQ in children

Actually, yes it does: https://www.thelancet.com/journals/langlo/article/PIIS2214-109X(15)70002-1/fulltext

But hey there are studies swinging both ways so I guess who knows? I guess you'll have to dig into who is funding these studies to figure out why they have conflicting data. Of course, studies claiming that it doesn't, wouldn't have any reason to hide their data, would they?

[–]Tbonesupreme1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I explained WHY. Children that are breastfed have a higher IQ. That is true. What's not true is that it is BECAUSE of the breastfeeding. High IQ mothers are more likely to breastfeed. High IQ mothers are more likely to have high IQ children.

There are multiple studies to prove this. The study you posted does not measure the IQ of the mother, nor does it include sibling and twin studies. The ones I've read do, making them able to rule out breastfeeding as statistically significant, when the data is normalized for IQ of the mother.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for clarification.

[–]redwall921 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Boundaries for Kids (by Cloud and Townsend). This book takes the concept of "you do you" and applies it to raising children. Has a Christian bent/foundation, but the "you do you" still bleeds out of that book if you remove the biblical/God references.

[–]CaliEd2561 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

James Dobson books. More of a Christian slant, but advocates raising kids in a traditional 1950s fashion.

[–]Jupi_ter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I agree with Persaeus, start figuring out babies, worry about raising your own Alexander the Great after. They are very simple btw. Full stomachs, clean bums, sleep and a sprinkle of entertainment do 95% of the job. Keep it really simple.

Ensure your partner figures out lactation and has support if things go wrong there. This can have a significant impact on the well being of your child for the rest of his life. Lead and you and your family will have an amazing time. It's not a time to be Rambo, it's a time to be a grounded, empathetic, confident man. Good luck.

[–]4percent33811 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

First 6 months are the hardest. Don’t waste your time with anything that doesn’t focus on the first 6mo at this point. Sleep will be your biggest challenge. Get the kid out of your room as soon as reasonable, like when it starts to sleep 4hrs+ straight. More milk/food =better sleep. Give wife a break to sleep from 8-11pm and tend to baby sometimes.

Don’t get up at night, let her do that and you only as last resort. Someone needs to be fresh.

You want RP family? Read the Bible.

[–]TheBlueStare0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Screamfree Parenting, the book teaches keeping frame while parenting. It doesn't call it frame but that is essentially what it is.

[–]onefiftynine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There’s no good book for new dads, because the reality isn’t something that our culture can admit: most dads don’t love their kids in the same way as moms for the first 6-12 months. Which makes sense, they have a 9 month head start on the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, you’ll be perfectly prepared to murder anyone who threatens them, but biology won’t kick in and tell you how awesome this relationship can be until you can actually interact with them.

Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life has some good parenting content about the value of fathers and discipline. Protecting the Gift is a critical book about self defense and the realities of an often cruel world. But for now, knowledge and practical skills are much more important. So read:

Happiest Baby in the Block before they’re born to help you survive the fourth trimester. Yes, it’s a thing.

1-2-3 Magic before they turn one to start thinking about discipline.

Oh Crap! Potty Training before 18 months to teach them to take control of their body.

A side benefit of reading these books is they’ll introduce you to insane parenting culture. Not because they advocate it, but because half of the text of each is spent debunking the stupidity of modern parenting trends.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“Raising Men,” by Eric Davis

Rollo Tomassi’s Rational Male series, 3 books, in order, with focus and extra reads on 3rd book.



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