I have an interesting situation that I've come across, and it's the first time that I'm RP aware of this type of behavior. This was 3 days ago.
Most recently I went out to spend some quality time with my buddies, nothing too long or over the top. I don't regularly do this, but was invited. I made it clear that I would potentially be going to do this earlier in the evening with no resistance. At the time of leaving, a shit test occurred and I basically STFU. She actually overtly communicated she was jealous I got to spend time with friends. The shit test continued with her bawling and crying. It was a mixture of comfort/shit test that I chose not to diffuse since I had given plenty of comfort for several days. I left, letting her know where the captain would be and about how long I'd be gone.
After leaving and joining my buds, I got a text from a different friend that said "Hey, saw your wife's fb post.... everything ok?"
Wife's fb post was: "Hey guys, I have a quick question I wanted answered... anyone know a family law attorney? Thanks!" Few comments on there, one which she said thanks I'll screenshot this for later use, but it was timed about 30 min after I left the house.
I know this was a large shit test and recognized it right away. She was heavy hamstering at home and I knew it. I chose to finish at halftime with my boys and head home. She had crossed a boundary and I was going to let it be known.
Got home. Didn't say anything about it. She was hamstering, I let her get out her feelz for about an hour. STFU mostly. She finished with her feelz and I said, "I got a text from a friend about your facebook post. Please take it down."
She hamstered again for a bit, I stuck with broken record "Please take it down." She did after I hit the broken record twice more.
I believe I made it clear with my actions that she had crossed a boundary. Since then she's been very pleasant and nice, and I got an enthusiastic BJ during shark week yesterday.
Last night I let her know a friend from out out town is coming in this week and I'm going to hang with him one day. She says, unprovoked, "You know, that post the other day... it wasn't about us. I hate when people are nosy (blah blah). It was about <insert actual legitimate issue her family is having>. I didn't word it in a way that it was about us, since it wasn't about us. I just hate nosy people!"
1) Put that post up to manipulate me to begin with, realized she crossed a big boundary and it was wrong... and is now trying to apologize for her actions in some way by rewriting history, and not taking ownership (AWALT) of her actions to make herself feel better (hamster time...), or
2) Concealing her true intentions.
Based on all her actions and not words, I'm confident it is #1. #2 is very unlikely given how many great feelz she's been getting lately and her unprovoked revisit of the boundary crossing. My question is: Would you call her out on her manipulative behavior or just let the hamster do the heavy lifting and forget it? What would you do? So far, I've just STFU and haven't mentioned it since the day of the incident.