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LTR bitchy in public(friends, family)

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January 7, 2019

Hey guys.

In my LTR I got sloppy for past few months, didn't passed a dicent amount of shit tests, failed allot on complacency test. But got my shit together and now I'm more focused and I do better. But one thing bothers me. My LTR at home is nice to me, we have sex whenever I want, so no problem there, but when we out with friends or her family here inner bitch shows up (started not long time ago).

She is acting like I'm not there. Ignoring me most of the time, and some time jokes really badly. Something like "I always got lucky playing cards, and always unlucky with finding love". Friends even say to here that this shit is not funny and you should not do this kinda stupid jokes in public.

Most of the time I'm ignoring it, but I do think that I need to bring it up. I want to say that I will not tolerate this shit, and she should pick here words and act like an adult and not a spoiled brat.

Actually, I know that she did this thing with her EX, so it's kinda a pattern here.

But I'm not really sure is it good to bring it up? or should I just ignore it and pass here shit test, be more Alpha every day and this will end?

And if so, maybe some tips how should i bring it up

There is an underlying story. She moved with me to a new city 2 months ago as I got a job. And she left her family and friends and a job. She is angry at me(but not saying it to my face) and for sure she blames me that her life quality dropped. Now she got only me as in before move she had ( Me, Family, friends, and job that she liked) . Maybe I'm just trying to rationalize here, but I do think it is a big part of her actions.

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Title LTR bitchy in public(friends, family)
Author Grfokpr
Upvotes 11
Comments 78
Date 07 January 2019 12:20 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red53 points54 points  (23 children) | Copy

Intentional and overt public displays of disrespect are flagrant offenses in the same bucket as cheating as far as I am concerned.

They are to be dealt with swiftly, mercilessly and with zero regards to the relationship or her feelings.

[–]alphabachelor12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy


These are huge red flags.

Get out now, OP. She will get worse not better over time.

[–]starky0000012 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don’t agree with the get out part. Right now. It’s new and if you’re high value you can mold a woman to be whatever you want. If she’s valuable to you with a couple red flags. Address the boundary immediately.

If you are high value and have your shit together you can turn a new LTR into anything. And if not then you leave.

[–]alphabachelor4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I disagree.

She’s unhappy with the relationship and her default reaction is to be a rude cunt in public?

Sure, Chad her if she’s a plate and if she improves keep her around. But not for a LTR.

Ain’t nobody got time to deal with a cunt with junk in her head that’s supposed to be LTR material.

Water seeks its own level. This behavior speaks volumes about her character. This will be the first of many fires OP will have to put out. There will be many many more.

[–]Grfokpr[S] 5 points6 points  (19 children) | Copy

She will say that it was not intentional and she didn't even think that this kind of a joke could hurt me... blah blah blah and I will look like a butthurt boy...

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red16 points17 points  (7 children) | Copy

This weekend I was at my GFs for their Christmas party. They do a white elephant deal. I happen to get #1 because I am awesome. Having #1 means you get to steal whatever item you want at the end.

Hailey is my GFs sister who is 7 months preggo. She had been a bitch to everyone all day, including my GF and her husband.

At the end she had the item I wanted. A large clock to hang in my office, so I stole it from her.

As I was walking away with my clock she says:

“I was going to hang that in my kids nursery. You stole it from him”

My response was immediate and devastating:

“Dont worry, babies cant tell time”

She turned white. Her husband spat his beer out from laughing. My GF slapped my ass to say thanks.

You need a little Kevin Hart in you. That is how you deal with shit tests. Not by complaining like a faggot.

[–]alpha-zach4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

Help me understand something.

In your first post, you said deal with it swiftly and mercilessly. My take on that, is tell her to cut it out or leave. Hard boundary.

But in this story you relate to passing a shit test.

My assessment of OP’s problem was more that he needs to deal with this situation like a shit test. Ignore, AA, or pressure flip. But your first post seemed different from that by setting a hard boundary.

Setting a hard boundary is different from passing a shit test to me.

What am I missing?

[–]Kpwn885 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

What am I missing?

She made the whole "clock was for her baby" up on the fly to try to garner sympathy points from the crowd and possibly emotionally manipulating him to let her win. Pregnancy 101. He called her out on her bullshit in a very tactful manner without looking like an asshole in mixed company.

Not exactly "merciless" but the best way to handle that situation for sure.

[–]alpha-zach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely. I was trying to understand how this related to OP and saying that he shouldn’t tolerate public disrespect, deal with it quickly and mercilessly.

I think the commenter cleared it up.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

My comment to the pregger was both passing a shit test and setting a hard boundary.

“Dont fuck with me”

Both can be done. It all depends on the response.

[–]alpha-zach3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

True true. Passing a shit test really is an indirect way of setting a boundary. “I’m better than you at this game. Don’t try me.”

When people talk about setting a hard boundary, I envision a direct communication. “Don’t do this or we’re done.” But I think you can only do that when you have solid frame or it’s just such a big deal that you won’t tolerate it, with or without them. It’s really in the ultimatum category, which is generally frowned upon by TRP unless you are OI, have abundance, and have the frame to pull it off.

I think OP is getting the idea that he should be direct. But without frame, which he clearly is weak in, due to circumstances or whatever. I don’t think it’s going to work. An indirect approach like taking her out again but getting better at banter would be the way to go.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hard boundaries can only be overtly communicated from a position of power.

A person in power, rarely has to overtly communicate hard boundaries.

[–]alpha-zach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good stuff

[–]helaughsinhidden6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You lack an abundance mentality and are in her frame. Clearly she isn't concerned with being dishonest and blowing you off with weak excuses because she knows you want the relationship more than her.

You totally skipped the part that said "Zero regards to the relationship" like it wasn't there at all.

[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

"I always got lucky playing cards, and always unlucky with finding love"


she didn't even think that this kind of a joke could hurt me

She is right, it shouldn't have hurt you and you should have said something like, "Remind me again why I keep you around?"

[–]Grfokpr[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah, I failed there I know.. but I just thinking now do I need to bring it up (it's actually 6 days after it happened) or just leave it as it is and just pass other shit tests that will come for sure.

[–]Bedtimeshine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Handling things in the moment is a skill every man needs to learn.

[–]Kpwn883 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Woman: If you were my husband, I'd poison your coffee.

Man: If you were my wife, I'd drink it.

All is fair in love and war. Stop being a pussy and have some fun.

[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

just leave it as it is and just pass other shit tests that will come for sure from other girls.

Honestly, she is an LTR. Withdraw attention and do other things. If and when she asks why you have been distant lately, own it and casually tell her that you are tired of her disrespect and go do something else.

[–]Tbonesupreme1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good reply:

I'm always unlucky at cards. Every time I need a queen, I get this bitch.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Watch what they do not what they say.

[–]trpaxiom1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Call her out on passive aggressive behavior. That shit is intolerable when they try to backtrack.

[–]rocknrollchuck1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"She will say......"

Watch her actions, don't listen to her words.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Next time she does it, say "Hey, can you guys believe I'm still with such an ill-mannered cunt?" If she complains, say, "Hey, I'm just kidding! Sheesh, can't you take a joke??"

Actually, you need to just leave when she starts that shit. Once. Then, ghost her ass. It doesn't matter if you look'll also look like a dude that just dumped a bitch.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine20 points21 points  (12 children) | Copy

It’s a nuclear shit test. She only does it in public because she knows you don’t have the balls to challenge her. This way, she can express her realz feelz in front of other people- not at home.

Of course she’s mad at you. Awalt. She moved away from friends and family- lost everyone in her life. She had visions of sugar plums dancing in her head and living in the life of a princess being whisked away to some unknown land, but instead, reality set in and she ended up living in a one bedroom apartment with a faggot who can’t stand up for himself.

If you care about her, be a strong leader, keep her in line, be dominate, tell her the way it is. Spank that ass. You’re her daddy now, keep her in line.

Stop ignoring this. She’s challenging you. By ignoring it, it validates that you are a pussy.

[–]testy683 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

But ask her first if it's ok if you lead. And make sure to get her permission. It might make her mad if you don't.

Have you started lifting yet? Numbers?

[–]suprathepeg2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Grfokpr[S] 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy

She made me feels that I'm at fault that she feels bad, because I took her with me in a new city. Which made me soft and I let her act with my like with shit. Well no more Mr nice guy from me. If she wants to disrespect me then she has to find someone else who will tolerate this. Thanx for advice

[–]alpha-zach5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

Slow down OP. You’re sounding like you’re going Rambo. I think it’s more of a shit test situation.

Also, 6 days ago? And you’re still thinking about it? She feels your butthurtness. You are losing more and more frame. Hit the reset button.

If a little kid punches you in the arm, you laugh. Maybe tickle them til they piss their pants or push them hard into a soft spot like a couch. If they punch you in the balls, it hurts, but you tell them immediately not to do it again, shake off, and forget about it. You don’t punch them back. You don’t stew about it for 6 days and post online about it. Then bring it up 6 days later with a no more mr nice guy attitude. You let it slide and move on with your life.

This is because you have frame over the little kid. This needs to be your mentality with your LTR.

You fucked up by not dealing with it quick, not her. She was just being a little kid.

[–]Grfokpr[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Thanx , for this ;)

[–]alpha-zach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]alpha-zach1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I actually like when my girl does this stuff.

A. I know it’s bullshit. She’s head over heels for me.

B. It gives me an open door to be a complete ass and dominate her with my banter and wit. Huge turn on for her. Great sex after.

C. In many ways, it takes us back to earlier days when she had to shit test me to see if I was dominant enough for her. It’s a sort of refresher on the stale day to day relationship stuff.

I’m starting to wonder if she really likes you more than you realize, but you have insecurities you are projecting on her. She fucking moved away from home for you for fucks sake. Also, watch her actions, you fuck at home, she’s respectful at home. But then you go out, she’s prob drinking and being playful. So she threw a few shit tests at you. In the past, I’m assuming she did this, and you passed them. But you’re having a rough time with the move/job and getting in your head about how she’s feeling about that.

I’ve had more than my fair share of situations where I’ve thrown a few playful jabs at someone with insecurities, and they take it personal. I really was joking and meant nothing by it.

It’s perfectly reasonable to think she was getting turned on by you and being out with friends, and she was throwing a few flirty jabs that you filtered through a paradigm of insecurity(NNMMG) and then told us your one sided story here.

Consider these things OP. Get it together. You got this.

Edit: I read some of your other comments, and it’s painting a different picture. I’m less convinced this is her being flirty. Still, get it together. I think your insecurities are definitely amplifying this situation to a degree. Once you do, you’ll be able to enjoy her not doing this stuff or enjoy beating her at this game when she does.

[–]Grfokpr[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

erfectly reasonable to think she was getting turned on by you and being out with friends, and she was throwing a few flirty jabs that you filtered through a paradigm of insecurity(NNMMG) and then told us your

You are on point, she is doing it only when she drinks. I do think it's not flirty but rather hidden anger, that comes out only when she is drunk. She, her friends and family basically accusing me that I took her from them so this topic pops up every time and I'm actually pissed at that.

[–]alpha-zach0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

That’s an interesting revelation.

Deep seeded issues there. She’s regretting a choice she made. Def need a heart to heart or it’ll be a big deal later.

Might wanna get advice from a mod on this or open another askmrp question with this concept. Dealing with this TRP style is something I haven’t come across. Might be out of my depth.

I’d come at it from a captain perspective at the least.

If you ask the question let me know. I’d be really interested in the answers you get.

Edit: In thinking further, I would say something like, “I need to know if you’re all in here. We moved. You seem to be regretting that. This is my path. I don’t want to find out later that you’re regretting this. I want to continue with you, but if your heart is somewhere else, let’s not drag this out.”

[–]CaliEd2561 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. She may be regretting her decision. I would be very open, straight up “Do you still want to live out here with me?”

Her - Why do you ask that?

“Because when we’re out with friends, you act like a cunt, and I’m not going to be in a relationship like that.”

She apologizes, starts crying and gives you all the feelz of missing her friends/family.

OR she pushes back hard and says “Fuck you motherfucker, I moved my whole life for you.... blah blah blah...” and she’s just being the controlling harpy that her ex put up with. Aka your relationship is over.

You could AA or STFU, but when she’s being blatantly disrespectful, I think it’s better to hit them right in the face with the truth. Rattle her cage, and see what comes out.

[–]Kpwn886 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

She made me feels


[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

“She made me feels”


[–]broneilbro7 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy

I had a girl that I’m seeing do this. We have been dating for a month or so and we were out with her friends. She starts saying how she’s single and wants all this stuff while I’m sitting right there next to her. I’m not reacting and just staying cool.

Her friends start doing the WTF? And ask me I’m I hearing this. I say “That’s cute as I am single too and seems like we are in the same boat. Haven’t found the one yet (note doesn’t exist)” they are taken back by my lack of fucks. Apparently she had dated jealous betas in the past and that they would have flipped out at something like that.

Fucked her brains out that night and the following night. She is wrapped around my finger because her shit tests I can see coming a mile away now.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

New girl already doing this to you?

Better hire a PI to follow her around.

How the ass raping divorce going faggot?

[–]broneilbro14 points15 points  (6 children) | Copy

One of the girls. She dated man children before and I think my old ways would have lumped me in.

That’s cute but thank you for remembering my /u.

Divorce is going great. My prenup is paying dividends as her lawyer and my lawyer realize it’s a fucking brutal one. Pretty much I get to choose what I give her.

STBX is flailing trying to grab branches on the way down.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

+1 on flailing

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red-5 points-4 points  (4 children) | Copy

STBX is flailing trying to grab branches on the way down.

The fact you even wrote this tells me how deep in her frame you still are, how much a faggot you still are and how much work you still have to do.

[–]broneilbro3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

That’s cute just like that ego boosting red pill derived username.

More of an observation but whatever you want to call it is your choice.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

More of an observation

But why? Who fucking cares if your EX is flailing her arms as she falls down. There will be 1000's of men and finally the GOVT and YOU to catch her when she falls.

You come here and respond to OP. In doing so you site an example of some dumb THOT who is already shit testing you as an example of "how you can see shit tests a mile away" cause you are a fucking stud with a air tight pre-nup.

Listen bitch, wanna know how many times I get shit tested by women that I am fucking? ZERO. ZERO fucking times.

If a woman you are fucking is shit testing you on the reg, then you are a faggot. I dont care how much she fucks you the next two days.

The only tests you should be getting are COMFORT tests.

If women are shit testing you, and you are putting up with it you are a faggot with no AM, OI and options.

Any tinder or bumble THOT that would have shit tested me would have gotten dropped like a sack of concrete.

Bragging about nuking shit tests from a plate or GF or someone you are fucking is like the ultimate form of faggorty.

The only guys who should be bragging about nuking shit tests are guys who are putting in the work to save their marriage.

A plate who shit tests gets dropped.

Just like I just did with the mic.


[–]jacowezo10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

You talk too much.

[–]CaliEd2562 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Red blows up a lot, aka hard time controlling his feelz.

I think it’s funny as shit that she realizes how screwed she is with your pre nup. Imagine the look on her face when she is ready to cash in big, and her lawyer tells her she doesn’t get shit.


[–]lifeadept3 points4 points  (16 children) | Copy

Usually women try to make effort to give an impression that their men are high value (even if they think otherwise) - just to boost their own social status (high value men wouldn't be with someone low value, would he?).

Thus, as other already wrote, such behaviour is a clear red flag for me.

[–]Bedtimeshine2 points3 points  (15 children) | Copy

Yeh... disparaging you to other people in your presence is not a shit test. I’d would have told her that she’s also lucky that she has a soon to be ex that has god level suitcase packing skills and to enjoy the rest of her meal while I go pack her shit and then she can hit the fucking road.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy

disparaging you to other people in your presence is not a shit test

Yes. Yes it is.

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (13 children) | Copy

No it’s how she really feels.

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

In OP's case, maybe.

But when they're with a man that can come back just as humorously, it can be a little show off moment. She jabs knowing you'll jab back, everyone laughs, and all the girls around get jealous they can't do that with the faggot they ended up with.

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Essentially saying that she’s not happy with him, that he’s not good enough, and saying it infront friends so view him negatively... isn’t exactky a jab.

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Like I said,in OP's case...

If OP had options and believed he was the prize it'd be a different story.

I have a buddy who's highly insecure, his fiance does this shit all the time to him. She also wants my dick, and throws the same kinds of "put down" jabs at me when we're all hanging out. Difference is I either AA or jab back at her. I laugh, she laughs, everyone around us buddy sits on the sideline and sulks. Mentality makes all the difference.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Does she put you down to your face and put him down to othe people? because one is a shit test, one isn’t

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

One more time....the only difference is the way he takes her so seriously (bc of his own lack of confidence) and I don't (bc her words, no matter how serious she may or may not be, don't change the way I think of myself).

I do get the point you're trying to make, but you're making it based on her mindset, not the man's in question. See the problem with that?

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Her mindset determines if it’s a shit test or not. OP is trying to play it like a shit test when he needs to next her.

[–]Kpwn880 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You fail to see there's no difference.

[–]Bedtimeshine1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Because there is a difference. I fail to see a fucking dragon in front of me right now too.

Shit tests are way for women to size up a man to see how they feel. Shitting on her live in bf of a year+ and the relationship, in public, is not a shit test. It’s should be handled with a next, not A&A...

[–]Kpwn881 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's the same thing. If she's not sure or not happy with you, she's going to treat you like shit and see how you respond aka a shit test.

That's a sweet dragon btw... wish you could see it.

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn’t treat him like shit. In private she’s seemingly a great gf. In public she wants other people (including her family) to know he doesn’t satisfy her. Most women lie the other direction. It’s not a shit test. OP needs to end it... not mistaking think cheeky one liners will make her want him again.

[–]Tiway224 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Plate her, don’t date her. Disrespect and bad attitude in public is something nobody should put up with.

Bang her in private and leave it at that. You can do much better for an LTR my dude.

[–]chachaChad3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh please... If you think she's angry about moving to a new city with you, talk to her about it. Why are so afraid of her? There isn't anything she can say or do to hurt you. If she's being passive aggressive, don't just stand there and take it. Say, in a curious non-judgemental tone, hmm... "Seems like you're angry with me. Is there something you want to talk about?" Then let her vent. She blame everything on you and paint herself the victim. Fine. Stand up for yourself in a calm manner. Remember, you didn't make her do anything it was all her choice. Let her talk. Let her vent her emotions and burn herself out. You be a rock. No matter what she says, you've got this. She's talk and talk until she hamsters herself out.

You're not going to pretend-alpha your way out of this. You don't have the chops. Let her know that if she's not happy then she should do something about it up to and including packing up her things and going home. You don't have time for this. You have a nice life. If that's not good enough for her, that's her problem.

[–]RedPillCoach4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a serious offense that must be dealt with as soon as possible. The only question is whether you make a huge public scene with a nuclear public put down or you take her aside privately and demand this behavior stop immediately (or the relationship is toast).

She is angry at me

A passive aggressive little bitch who is deliberately undermining or embarrassing you must either be made to understand that she must quit or be defeated. Why are you tolerating this behavior? Are you a man or a defeated little boy?

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Also sounds like maybe you had some covert contracts about the two of you coming into this new city. Have you fully discussed beforehand what she would be doing? Are you planning things for both of you to do such that she is entertained and enjoys the ride? If she’s not busy enough doing something that fits with the plan, then her frustration and bitchiness comes out in crappy ways like this.

[–]red_matrix1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

Sounds like she has lost respect for you and is looking to start a fight or excuse to cheat. This LTR is on the rocks, you need to deal with this head on and fast before it crashes.

[–]Grfokpr[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

But how, do i just bring it up and say you will start doing this again we are done?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Demonstrate, don't explicate. There are obviously some things you're not doing enough of for her to overtly shit test you like this in public. Game her more. You know the situation better than anybody, just tell her you will not disrespected. Dont give her an ultimatum. Remove your attention from the situation and focus on yourself. Game other women, if you need to get your needs met elsewhere, do it.

[–]red_matrix2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s clearly walking all over you, and doesn’t even fear you getting upset or mad. You’ve lost frame completely. Start by setting boundaries, make them very clear and work on your game, you’re losing her. Trust me - she knows what she’s doing.

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Don’t bring it up, she’s waiting for that. The next time she pulls this shit you call it out right then, but don’t do the beta rage baby bullshit. Your goal is to embarrass her, and for fuck sake do not waste any time on logic or reason.

Stay calm, be amused not angry. But most of all be mentally prepared to end that shit even if it means tossing her aside. Treat her like a bratty little teenager. Extra points if she cries.

[–]Grfokpr[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This is a hard one for me. From one side I want to bring it up and tell her that she crossed the line and I will not tolerate this behaver, that I will have a good relationship with her or without. But from the other side I'm ready for her shit and next time I will stand up for my self.

Actually other day we were drunk and she said that she feels guilty that she is acting like a bitch lately. I didn't bring that conversation. So i do know is it a good thing, does she wants me to tell her that yes you are a bitch and fuck you if this going to last?

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don’t fucking get it still trying to reason and logic your way to establishing a boundary.

You are such a fragile little thing aren’t you? Standing up for yourself is butthurt. Verbally defining an obvious boundry is bullshit.

You need to toss her attitude back at her with a heavy dose of humor and amusement.

You got a long way to go and that you don’t get it is the reason you’re even dealing with this kinda bullshit.

[–]CaliEd2560 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“I’m not going to be in a relationship like this.”

Make sure you mean it.

[–]BluBlac591 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The whole world can see you as alpha. But if you're with an angry narcisstic bitch you can't change her she will always try to belittle you. And if you stay with her long enough she will win. Its like the constant drip that erodes. Send her home. You said its a pattern, so it's not the move. I can see false accusations in your future. Women like this always escalate. What starts as jokes and snide remarks only has one way to go. Be strong enough to know that you can't change her. Ask yourself how long do you want to put into her when you can be SAFER and more content without her. Move on,. Do some dating. Find a woman that will be an asset not a liability.

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a tricky one because you can easily get rattled and show that you’re butt hurt.

What I think is the problem here is a general weak frame. If you see her as a little girl throwing little jabs in the playground you would know what to do. The standard responses to fitness tests. You just can’t take her words seriously.

If she is first and foremost your sexual toy as she should be, and if you socialize with others because it makes sense for you and what’s important to you and your life and your frame, then all these little jabs would matter very little. Your verbal game would develop that you’d have such tough come backs to her crappy put downs that she wouldn’t even start them.

You say you have sex every time you want, but what kind of sex is it? Do you make her cum? Do you fuck her in the ass while you hold her hair and push her face in the pillow? Have her feel your dominance ? Make her eyes tear up while training her to deep throat you and not gag?

Become her sex God. From there on out her feels should change and not treat you like a piece of shit.

[–]twllll0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My ex girlfriend used to do this all the time with me, making some comments, like calling me ugly in front of my whole family, and I used to pass her shit tests, agreeing and amplifying, but its sucks... I believe the cause was her insecurity with herself, and also a lack of social awareness... after some weeks, I told her, that I didn't like this stuff, and she responded that she wasn't doing that, she denied her actions, but thank God stoped to act like a kid, at least in offending me. I recommend you to talk with her, but you must have the control of the relationship in your hands, she must see you as the man she can't lose, and then consequently after your advise about that kind of behavior you disapprove, she will change. Point out the common sense, showing her that isn't a good thing to do with people who we love, but do that with calmness, she will make some drama in that talk, but keep calm and hold frame, she will catch the message.

[–]suprathepeg0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What are your stats? What dread level?

Your responses make it sound like you’re fully in you head have inserted your head up your ass and placed all of it securely up her ass.

First remove get out of your head, next get your head from your ass. That shit you smell... that’s the inside of her ass. You’re going to want to get out of there as well. Nothing in your life doesn’t belong to you. Including this shitty situation.

Take some deep breaths of that dank air and ask yourself. Are you worth respect in public? Are you owning your shit? All the rules apply to all situations. Do you respect your own boundaries?

If all of this was on lock you wouldn’t be posting this question here. Ask me how I know.

[–]0io-Tsundere0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't bring her along to these gatherings of friends and family if she's going to be bitchy, or just let her go to these things on her own. Depending on how old you guys are maybe she's trying to shame you into marriage or something. If the sex is good I would just focus on that and if you want to do other things with her, try to find activities where being bitchy isn't an option... maybe you guys can play tennis together or go swimming or something like that. Since she's LTR you can always decide to start dating other people if she's keeping up the whole "woe is me" act every time you go out with friends. I think the main thing is just don't attend any situation where you're not having fun and she's being a bitch. Find something more fun and interesting to do instead, with or without her. I think admitting that anything she says to people bugs you is going to come off as weakness and butthurt--a better move is just to not care or notice how she's misbehaving and nope out of there. "Huh you were taking? I'm watching the game here, see you in a couple of hours..."

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