I’m 41. 6’1” tall, 225 lbs. Bench 335, squat 385, dead lift 395. Wife is 42, in great shape and attractive.
We're a second marriage. Been married a little over a year. Been together about three years. Found the redpill a short while back.
About a few months ago, I puked and have been exhibiting some needy behavior on an off. I know the extent of it and began to mitigate and have stopped. Reading side bar and applying my new MAP for about 7 or 8 days.
We suddenly went from hot passionate sex three times per week down to twice, then once per week over over the course of that time period. Now, I'm at a point we haven't been intimate in almost 2 weeks. I've read most of the side bar books, RM, NMMNG, WISNIFG, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, MMSLP, and recently picked up the Shogun Method for Married Men.
I've been initiating sex almost every day the last week and have been shut down. Didn't act butthurt and held frame. Last night did it again and got shut down. She gave me a speech about how she wasn't feeling it and expressed her feelings to me. She also said she felt bad about not feeling recently attracted to me and didn't want the marriage to fail. I calmly said ok, then I told her sex is very important to me and is an essential component to a healthy marriage. I told her that if our sex life continues to downward spirt, the marriage will fail. Then I STFU and went to sleep. This morning we woke up and she was cold and disengaging, so I brushed it off with an IDGAF attitude, and she went to get breakfast for our blended family children. I'm headed the gym and writing this post.
Looking for advice and comments and thoughts on my situation.