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Did you tell your wife about red pill?

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December 22, 2018

As the title says, did you tell her? Which situation were you in and why did you tell her? What were the results?

Reason: I (longtime unplugged) am in a very good LTR (cpt - 1st mate, started after I completely unplugged) with a woman who's a complete green flag, red pill principles apply to her + relationship. We're thinking of having kids, and sharing the knowledge would make it much easier to discuss parenting.

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Title Did you tell your wife about red pill?
Author serious_bs
Upvotes 11
Comments 40
Date 22 December 2018 10:43 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]WesternhagenWinner39 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy

You are not playing on hard mode yet. After you have been married for a few years, you will be. That is when you will be glad you kept your mouth shut.

[–]NightFire450 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gave NMMNG as the book suggests and read Rational Male in plain sight. I wouldn't say discuss what you're reading but no need to hide like a scared man. To each their own though.

[–]Grimsterr19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, I told her all about it, right after I taught the dog trigonometry....

[–]friendandadvisor4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let me guess...the dog understood what you were talking about.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret63 points64 points  (2 children) | Copy

From a upcoming post I'm writing:

What are Some Problems with the Books on the Sidebar?

NMMNG suggests that you tell your wife about your NMMNG exercises. We see this question on AskMRP all the bloody time. “Should I tell my wife about NMMNG?”

You do not talk to your wife about red pill. You do not talk to your wife about NMMG. You do not talk to your wife about your MAP. You do not talk to your wife about your gains. You do not talk to your wife about Reddit. You drink your cup of STFU. Every time you feel the urge to talk about your gains or how you’re changing, you need to beat that urge down with a stick. Punch yourself in the face if you have to.

“But why, Steel?” Look, I’ll break it down for you. Going to your wife about reading NMMNG or saying “look at my gains” is like going to your mommy for validation. Even worse than that, you are in her frame when you do that.

Don't talk about fight club.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

The reason they ask if they should tell their wife about NMMNG is because they instinctively know they SHOULDN’T.

[–]RedPillCoach7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Looking forward to that post. Even the guys at NMMNG have concluded it is wrong to tell the wife about it as Glover recommends.

MMSLP has been oft criticized as blue pill and not Red Pill.

WISNIFG is a long, tedious slog through hundreds of pages of transcripts that could have been summarized much better. His advice could have used a lot more STFU as well.

[–]parkerfiveone29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ishouldhaveacigar11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy

My wife actually told me about MRP. Yea, I was so pathetic that she suggested it. Of course, I’m glad she did, and I’ve been transforming for about two years now.

I certainly agree that, as a general suggestion, we should not tell our women about the pill.

My wife knows about it, and she has definitely used her knowledge of it to elevate her shit testing abilities.

My wife is a Reddit enthusiast and still lurks the red pill subs. Soon after I realized the value of “Don’t talk about fight club”, I created an account that she didn’t know.

I also, accepted the challenge of having to learn how to pass shit tests anyway and not give a fuck about her knowledge of red pill. Once, as we were getting ready to go out for dinner, she said to me, “You can go use your dread game shit on someone else, because it’s not going to work on me”! I replied with a big grin and a chuckle, “You haven’t seen dread yet. I’ll be downstairs ready to go when you finish getting ready”. On the way to the restaurant, she apologized and expressed that she gets scared with all the changes I’m making. I assured her she will benefit from the changes.

Bottom line: Yea, not the best idea to tell her about red pill. But if she knows about it, you still use the strategies here; only you can fuck it up.

[–]RedPillCoach9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy

the challenge of having to learn how to pass shit tests anyway and not give a fuck about her knowledge of red pill. Once, as we were getting ready to go out for dinner, she said to me, “You can go use your dread game shit on someone else, because it’s not going to work on me”! I replied with a big grin and a chuckle, “You haven’t seen dread yet.

Excellent example of why not to talk Fight Club.i Notice how she uses Red Pill not to improve herself or the marriage but to CONSCIOUSLY Shit Test her husband even harder.

When some argue it is a war between the sexes they are not kidding. When Rollo writes that for one sexual strategy to prevail the other must lose he is not pulling it out of his ass.

[–]ishouldhaveacigar2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, definitely not a good idea to talk about fight club. While passing this level of shit tests have made me more confident, I would have rather not have that to deal with.

Nonetheless, swallowing the Red Pill and applying its strategies has elevated me to another level, and my marriage just happens to be benefiting from it.

[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent example of why not to talk Fight Club.i Notice how she uses Red Pill not to improve herself or the marriage but to CONSCIOUSLY Shit Test her husband even harder.

This has happened consistently with my wife since she found it on my phone (while snooping to see if I was cheating on her). When she gets bitchy, she will let them fly. I still don't know why she still does it as she knows her words don't effect me.

[–]Vouch33r20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

You will seem fake in her eyes forever. Don't talk about the fight flub. Lead by example

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy

“sharing the knowledge would make it much easier to discuss parenting.”

You haven’t swallowed the Red Pill.


[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well he is right about that. But from my experience, you do not need her knowing about RP to be a better parent and the flip side of her knowing is very much not worth it.

[–]friendandadvisor2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Q: Isn't 'faggot' a little harsh?

A: Yes

Q: Is it harsh enough for faggot OP?

A: No

[–]robertwservice197425 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy

I didn’t tell her but she found out through my 18 year old son. (Have since had the bros before hoes talk with him.)

Results: more shit tests, some of which are pretty damn funny.

Today I left the toilet seat up after taking a piss. We we’re headed out on the town and she refused to go until I put the seat down. I said no. She said RP made me do it. I left without her.

If I had a time machine, I would go back and keep my mouth shut.

Bottom line: It created more problems.

[–]jamesbond81817 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn good thing u left without her

[–]red88lobster6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can teach your kids redpill knowledge without asking mummy's permission. Show them through your actions.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Helllll no. I cant think of a better way to muck up a good thing.

[–]MrTrizzles8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Talking about your self-improvement is a tacit acknowledgement of your failures.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Words are very unnecessary, they can only do harm.

Enjoy the Silence

[–]JDRoedellRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Redpillbrigade174 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

How exactly sharing “ the knowledge “ would make parenting easier?

Remember she only cares about what she sees you do and how you act. Sharing your theories about life and why you do what you do will likely have a net negative effect.

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Red pill works on women whether they know about it or not.

You can talk about anything, if you have FRAME.

You want to "share the knowledge" not because you want to "discuss parenting" but because you want validation, confirmation, "don't worry, you're doing this right".

In short you lack frame & SMPO.

Not talking about it makes it easier for men without frame to fake it.

[–]470_2_700_nm2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think you have a unicorn on your hands.

What the fuck are you going to tell her about? You don’t know shit about red pill.

[–]r_u_a_badfish22 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I didn’t have a choice. Wife found out about red pill on literally the same day I discovered it...I left the Reddit sub open in my phone and she saw it and started reading the side bar (lol). Yeah she hates it and shit tested me hardcore about it. But I did not give it up despite her hatred of red pill theory (the concept of “dread” really offends her).

Fast forward one year. I’m still studying and practicing RP theory and she still hates it. I don’t give a fuck anymore. I read RP books right in front of her. Why hide it at this point?

The way I see it is that RP is about me. It’s about my improvement. I gives a fuck whether she likes it or not. She’s still with me. Sex quality and frequency has only gone up.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Has only gone what....

[–]r_u_a_badfish20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


Don’t k ow why I missed that last part word.

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus fucking christ, you god damn shit fuck piece of an idiot sandwich, which part of "DON'T TELL YOUR FUCKING BROOD ANYTHING" didn't you get?

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well all the married guys on Redman group wives know about red pill. Rolo is married.

If you have to post this question you should definitely not do it.

[–]meivanlee1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife sees all my stuff.. I’m active on Instagram @ivanleejackson

I don’t hide my name in these forums..

That said I’m consistent .. I’m always trying to improve myself and others so for me to be in here sharing my energy and thoughts is consistent with who I am.

Plus I say everything I’ll ever say here in front of her and any other human. Being authentic and true to myself is one of my calling cards.. I agree with a lot of redpill tenets , not even towards marriage but in regards to just being a man / leader. So zero shame in my game being here.

[–]Auxfite2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A wise man learns from others mistakes, a fool learns from his own.

Never talk about RedPill to women. The only reason I told my ex about it because she’s the reason why who i am today and how I found the RP. She has BPD and couldn’t believe the changes i made and was become more attracted. But the shit test just couldn’t stop she thought it was fake and I will definitely not tell any women about it.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

My wife became suspicious at the first changes. Then she hacked my kindle and read all the books I was reading.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You're still plugged in.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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