Me: Age 57. married 33 years. Classic Nice Guy. 5'8", 150lbs, 19% BF, six pack and good muscle definition. Strangers guess my age at 42. Low T (but have prostate cancer so T injections are a no go). work from home, but have hobbies that get me out of the house (car clubs, shooting, pool).
(TL;DR: Good sex, but major religious differences.)
Just discovered RP and MRP after reading NMMNG and The Way of the Superior Man. The main focus of the recommendations in MRP seem to be focused on getting more sex. My wife already has a stronger sex drive than me, never says no when I initiate, and is up for most things (except threesomes, but that's another story). 2-3 times a week with oral, toys, and occasional role-play.
My main personal issue is recovering from Nice Guy Syndrome and Blue Pill conditioning. Joining a Nice Guy recovery group in a couple of weeks. The main relationship issue is that we have major religious differences--she's a conservative Christian and I'm agnostic. I played along for years and finally told the truth about my [non]beliefs and differing world view about a year ago. This led to her disrespecting me, mistrusting me (since I obviously must not believe that marriage is sacred), and explaining my thoughts and behaviors as the active work of Satan.
If have been attending philosophy meetups, yoga classes, a secular Buddhist group, and began a personal meditation practice--which all align better with my world view. The meetups in particular have been a great outlet for deep conversations with others about life and the universe that I simply cannot have with my wife anymore (without them turning into a debate about The Bible). I've also received a lot of affirmation from females in these groups (a Nice Guy weakness) and have begun to fantasize about a new life with more compatible companions. After my wife has attended a few events with me and observed my interactions, I can sense her dread. However, it just seems to drive her to more Bible reading and Christian relationship books.
The sex is still good and frequent enough, but it feels shallow because we don't have the personal closeness that we used to have. I used to think that I could influence her to soften her religious views, but I now doubt this possibility. I don't look forward to 30 more years of this.
Can MRP help me?