Wife is going to happy hour with some guy friends

creating_my_life · 2018-12-10T01:49:02+00:00

I clearly need to raise my attractiveness.

What's your bodyfat right now? How many days a week do you go to the gym? How strong is your frame? What goals do you have?

But am I being a beta pussy about this or do you think this should be a boundary?

Why isn't she afraid of losing you? Why do you care so much? If she's going to cheat, she's not going to announce it by going out with a group of guys.

You need to focus more on you and less on her. You sound needy and insecure, and THAT is really fucking unattractive.

tikitheman · 2018-12-10T05:38:27+00:00

I work nights. Ltr used to go out a lot when I was at work. I got my shit together and now she camps out in the car at my work. Its some silly clingy shit but thats what dread, and being the prize, makes woman do.

And yes I have banged her in the parking lot a bunch of times on my lunch break.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-12-10T16:54:53+00:00

Have fun sweetie. Don't do anything I wouldn't do.

screechhater · 2018-12-10T18:17:57+00:00

For all your frame less pussies- DON"T FUCKING MATE GUARD

slap her ass and tell her to have fun

red-sfpplus · 2018-12-10T12:49:09+00:00

The thought of me being such a faggot ass pussy to my wife/LTR that she has to go out drinking with another man or group of men to get her needed feelz and tingles makes my skin crawl of failure.

Whether she is physically fucking them or not is irrelevant. Emotional affairs are worse than physical ones in my book. And believe me, I know.

You have alot of work to do.

Edit:

Story Time:

My current GF Mandy and I have been dating for about 6 months. Previous to that she was married 10 years to a beta who would never let her go to work functions, called her if she was 10 mins late from getting home, etc.

A few weeks ago they were having some work function celebrating our military. She works for a military supplier. Anyway for a few weeks she was telling me about it, etc. I told her to go, have fun with her coworkers and network.

She pushed back saying it doesn’t feel right and that she was never allowed to do it before. I reminded her I am not her EX and I said do what you want, but work social events are important. Yes there is drinking, I dont care. Go and have fun.

She checked with me a few days before and asked if she could go again. I told her yes, and she should go even if I said no. To live her life.

Anyway, she went, stayed a few hours. Got a huge text telling me how fun it was, she never got to do that, loves how I am not controlling, confident, how I didn’t check in on her, etc.

None of the words she said compared to how hard she blew me the next day.

Be the prize.

Its on them to stay faithful.

friendandadvisor · 2018-12-10T19:32:36+00:00

All of these fucks here accusing OP of mateguarding, so few, if any, telling him to 'get 2 in the kitty'. Also, he didn't ask if he should beat the shit out of her, and forbid her going out. He wants to know if this should be a boundary. If this is answered, he may then ask for your help.All these assholes parading their great Alpha-ness without helping OP...

OP: This is a red flag, but, not necessarily a boundary.

First, you cannot forbid her to go, since she may call your bluff.

Second, you must not whine, or hint that she shouldn't, or that it would make her uncomfortable, since you are in such shit shape, and it would make her despise you even more.

Third, get ready for her to come home with semen on her panties.

Fourth, lose the fat and read The 16 Commandments of Poon, and the sidebar. Lift!

screechhater · 2018-12-10T18:14:36+00:00

Chill out

"Home" last time by 7pm, sounds like she has some boundaries of her own, and is not sending out to many signals to the fellows

It's important not to "mate guard" and show enough confidence as a man to slap her on the ass and say have some fun, and realize she might get home tipsy, ready for a little action

Listen up- view this and tell yourself it's time to manage some of your expectations and get to work No one can take care of yourself but you and to be honest, the promotion means nothing compared to your health, but it does help fight "hypergamy" and branch swinging, because you are improving so find a good balance

Back to the wife- a lot of guys will post all kinds of shit about her fucking Chad or she is cheating, but in reality, this is not really your concern

Your concern is you and if you are lacking confidence, start Dread, hit the gym hard, wardrobe, cardio and take some interest in taking care of yourself all around

I will tell you, I have been through a tantamount "main event" that would have broken most of the pussies posting shit on this sub, and I survived, (and thrived) because my "give a fuck-o-meter" was tuned up well work on the "not giving a fuck"

It's important to remember that you are here to work on you

If you are having a tough time putting all the nomenclature together- Remember that you are going to look @ a lot of your past, present and future with a different perspective starting now. It's a "Red Pill Lens" IF you have not read Rational Male, the time is now

Frame, confidence in you, exercise and passing shit tests are huge in attractiveness. I would conjecture that AA/AM most shit tests with tact and timing responses well, will be your best weapon

Peter_B_Long · 2018-12-11T21:15:57+00:00

You can't expect respect if you don't respect yourself. You're not owning your shit so your wife is finding some juice in her life by going out with other people.

Fogghhat · 2018-12-12T03:45:40+00:00

Is it REALLY just her and a bunch of guys? Will there be any other women there?

What does she do? Are these a bunch of omega engineers? Or are we talking warehouse foremen?

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-12-10T02:11:04+00:00

There’s only one reason a guy wants to be friends with chick. He wants to fuck her. She’s probably fucking the alpha of the group.

She’s definitely getting good feelz & tingles ^tm from this group of guys that you aren’t providing. I’d be concerned.

Fuck no. No fucking way.

Problem is that anything you say will come across as needy and insecure. I’d make fun of her. AA and cocky. Meeting your little accountant nerd friends? Let them figure out the tip...

Once you improve and up your SMV, hard boundary about this bullshit.

Edit: Is she ovulating right now? You’re tracking,, right ?

IRunYourRiver · 2018-12-13T04:28:52+00:00

Something else about the scenario is bugging you. Drinks with co-workers of any sex is really not a big deal. Especially a group of them. But you have some unstated reason for thinking this isn't okay. You can tell us if you want, but it doesn't really change the situation.

So, what do you do? I'm somewhat at a loss too. But this is where some self awareness helps. You are in one of four states that only you can judge. 1) Not strong enough to set a boundary. So it's literally impossible for you to do anything about this at all. Response would be lift, sidebar, OI, and live to fight another day. 2) You're strong enough to set a boundary, but not strong enough to NGAF. So, you can set a boundary. This is probably the most unstable situation. 3) You're strong and confident. She's dreaded or at least attracted enough to you that you don't need to do anything. 4) You're in redpill hyperspace. Go to your plate's apartment while your wife is getting drinks with the guys. Because monogamy is for losers.

I suspect you are at 1. But that's for you to decide.

Morpheus_TNTB · 2018-12-15T06:23:14+00:00

No actionable statistics other than the 25% BF. You're a fatass that should be worried about the harpy being railed by Chad Thundercock.

FFDGTDS · 2018-12-10T15:57:39+00:00

I have never suspected cheating.

Never read "Women's Infidelity" have you?

Bedtimeshine · 2018-12-10T18:08:43+00:00

Fight fire with fire by having female friends you drink with. If other women don’t want to be around you... then good. Boom. You just found the real problem. And overall, don’t be scared. If she crosses a line, drop her. Hiding from possible pain is weak.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2018-12-10T12:22:41+00:00

You should put a monitoring bracelet on her. Maybe even make her wear a headscarf hijab so other men can’t see her.

/s

Get a life bro.

throwawaystarkness · 2018-12-10T14:34:36+00:00

You should just tell her no. If she bucks, tell her she has to be home by 7pm and you won’t be home if she’s a minute late.

Title	Wife is going to happy hour with some guy friends
Author	TheBlueStare
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Comments	94
Date	December 10, 2018 1:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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