Wife is a stay at home mom. She complains about having to fold laundry, but she enjoys her time sitting in front of the TV up in the bedroom alone for an hour while she does it. Tonight I suggested again that the kids should be helping with the laundry, at least folding their own clothes, and she started to get upset and then turned it back on me about how many of my clothes she folds and puts away, and why wasn't I helping. I told her to stop using folding laundry as an excuse to sit in front of the TV for an hour (I know it takes her twice as long to finish when she does) and make the kids help. Then she dropped a pile of my clothes she had just folded onto my laptop and stormed downstairs.
I wanted to run after her and yell at her, but I didn't. It's not that I expect her to stare at the wall while she folds laundry, I'm just sick of her deliberately going slow so she can have more me time and then complaining how overworked she is. It ought to take less than 10 minutes to finish if her and the kids were focused on it.
Was I wrong to call her out for watching TV? Was her response a shit test, or just disrespectful behavior? How should I have handled this situation?