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Take this deal or not

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October 28, 2018
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I discovered red pill a few months ago and have been swallowing it -- reading, started my MAP. I've been a complete pushover beta.

With my new way of looking at the world, I recently discovered my wife is having an affair. Married 14 years. Both in early 40s.

I've realized she never was attracted to me and hates my attempts to be emotionally close. So our relationship has been me chasing and her throwing up roadblocks -- extreme disrespect, which I was beta enough to accept.

The thing is, she just accepted a new job and is set to make a lot of money. Up until now we've been equal earners. I've never been a beta bux but she leans on me for support in a lot of other ways, as she's an immigrant.

She is begging me not to divorce. I have no interest in an emotional relationship with her -- I lost all attraction when I learned of the affair. I have no hope that we'll "fix" this. She will never divorce me.

The deal is very clear, though mostly unspoken. We stay together to raise the kids and so she doesn't lose face with her family, and I provide the same support I always did. She'll support me financially -- I'll work, but her new job is in a high-cost area and I'll probably shift to something low-key. I can spin plates. She claims she'll be faithful, but let's not kid ourselves. She's up for sex, though I'm not.

I do think her active disrespect will stop, as she has no more emotional leverage over me now.

This is not what I expected of my life. It's not my idea of marriage and it's hard to accept.

But in some ways I'm in no hurry to divorce -- the option will always be there, and I should come out fine if and when it happens.

Anyone have thoughts?


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Title Take this deal or not
Author MarriedRedEnough
Upvotes 12
Comments 73
Date 28 October 2018 12:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203846
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[–]IRunYourRiver38 points39 points  (18 children) | Copy

You have reached the rare Marriage 3.0. Kill the puppy, take the alimony, and lead a better life.

[–]markpf735 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Take the child support too

[–]jakethesnake50002 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I couldn’t have said it any better than this^

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

You guys are so fucking ignorant.

Divorce will average the last 3 years income to compute CS and Alimony.

Alimony is BS with equal incomes.

All states are nearly 50/50 esp when it comes to custody.

50/50 and equal pay equals no CS to either.

Divorce her yes. Enjoy your new life yes.

But you top votes fags posting in here divorce rape are fucking tools.

Once the gloves are off this woman will likely get primary custody with joint managing 50/50 with OP.

Guys like me are a rare breed. OP is not one of them.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

https://www.facebook.com/TFRMAZ/photos/a.1471986976387148/2170280886557750/?type=3&theater

Link to some stats. Fathers custody 17% of time and then only 31% of those were awarded child support. Reverse divorce rape is not very common.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I do not consider reasonable CS divorce rape for either man or woman.

I consider any and all alimony the only divorce rape.

I see absolutely no reason why a woman should benefit from a man’s resources once they are broken up. Alimony does nothing for the children it is for the woman only. That is the definition of divorce rape in my book. I also see why no man should ever get alimony. He should not benefit from her resources in the event that she is the breadwinner.

I see absolutely nothing wrong with 50-50 split of all assets and debts etc. It takes two people to have a marriage it takes one person to destroy. It takes a sperm and egg to have a child therefore each party should get 50-50.

Anything else or more is a bum deal.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Father Rights groups have a significant number of women in them too. Fathers are not the only parent that is subject to parental alienation.

Father Rights groups and other Parental Alienation groups are against any custody agreements that keeps a father or mother away from their children only to support the divorce lawyer/Family law profiteering complex. Thankfully, with time and education the older archaic (Marriage 1.0) rules designed to punish men for divorcing and overly benefited women are being done away with. Blue pill equalism has actually helped in this regard, but feminist groups and divorce lawyers still oppose giving fathers equal rights as they want to keep $$ flowing and retain unjust power for women. There are lots of women that do care more about their kids than their egos too, which helps.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wait, what? So she'd likely get primary physical custody?

She hates spending money and I doubt she'd want to fight in court over custody.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

What do you mean by Marriage 3.0? I see some threads and articles about it, but wondering how you mean it here.

[–]IRunYourRiver0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I'm using it mostly tongue-in-cheek in this case. Marriage 2.0 refers to the current incarnation of the institution where women derive financial benefits of marriage without needing to adhere to the corresponding responsibilities. In your case, you don't provide the financial benefits - at least not solely or mostly - so you don't have nearly the risk in a divorce. In other words you've surpassed Marriage 2.0. That's why I was calling it Marriage 3.0.

In my first reading, I missed the part where you would need to move for your wife to make more than you. My take on it is that you should do what you want in the absence of alimony. There's no guarantee you would get it unless you burned more precious years with her. And those years are ones spent denying your own mission. But, think it through. Custody, living expenses, bachelor living in the two places.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My fear about the new place is that it's expensive. I don't mind living there, but if we split and things don't go my way, my salary doesn't support me very well there. Was thinking of asking for an upfront payment from her now -- before we move -- to protect me in that scenario. It would be worth about two years' rent in the new place. That money would be removed from consideration from any eventual divorce settlement, possibly by way of post-nuptial agreement.

That would be a buffer to let me get myself established. She wouldn't be thrilled, but I'd probably get it.

A lot of trouble to go through for a failed marriage. But again, there's a lot of money on the table. I'd rather her have the high-paying job than not, as it ultimately benefits my kids and myself.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

can't answer on marriage 3.0, but i assume it is where the man gets the benefits of the system .

I am curious as to the lack of commentary on YOUR sex life. If you can remain emotionally detached, why can't you remain "in business" with your hoe and enjoy endless pussy on the side?

I would be including in the deal that you are free to crush whatever / whenever you want. And for what it is worth i would not go back 'there'.

You're in contract negotiation. I'd be pulling out all the demands now. You have all the leverage.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Everything you mentioned, she's up for it. Would probably gently nudge me toward her willing friends, as she's done that before and I was too retarded to see the unspoken offers.

She'll do the deed with me, but since I found out she's been getting railed by a strange dude, I've lost desire for her. Maybe after some time passes I could go there. Or BJs or something. Not keen on getting an STD.

What do you mean by "go back 'there'"?

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

sex with her.

If you look at the relationship, she gave away her right to you in marriage. You are offering you in partnership. Its a financial and logistical arrangement. So go back 'there', refers to sex with her as you will confuse the relationship.

An affair is a deal breaker for me. I would rather be poor and have my honour than living some fake existence with a cheater. She crossed the line that firmly says, "i don't love you, i don't respect you etc". Do you really want to be around that?

I think you are fooling yourself that the deal will make you happy.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

OK, we're on the same page now.

All of what you said is right.

What makes me consider it is the possibility of keeping my kids and myself under the same roof full-time, without exposure to mom's strange men. And also having plenty of resources to raise them and plenty of time to spend with them.

You're right that it would probably not make me happy. I do think that having unlimited strange pussy could help the unhappiness to feel better, though.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Well what is nice is you can give that a shot. I'd be hammering strange fwiw.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Trying to arrange some as we speak.

[–]mabden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Check out Talk About Marriage - Coping with Infidelity website and the thread called - The Charade

There are similarities and differences to your situation, but at first this guy seems to have it together, but then seems to fall apart the longer you read through the thread.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Right now we're equal earners and there would be no alimony. I'd try for 50 percent physical custody of the kids and if so, nobody would pay child support. She probably agree to that rather than spend money fighting.

Only if she takes the new job, at 3x current salary, would alimony be in play. That would involve me moving to another state with her. Practically speaking that's possible, as I work from home and have no family where we live. But it would mean staying with her a while longer.

That's pretty much what my original post was about. I don't see any happily-ever-after outcome for the marriage.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill17 points18 points  (3 children) | Copy

What do you owe her to save face when she wronged you?

Even in cheating you have her on the pedestal. Google divorce 180 and divorce her anyway

[–]mabden1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

The OP dosen;t owe his stbxw anything. Her desire to save face is pure leverage.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Correct. I don't give a fuck about her saving face. Was just explaining her motivations.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You do you brother, but from my perspective it looks like you are worrying about her needs before yours.

[–]Redpillbrigade1716 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

Keep waiting to live your life. You’ll get a chance someday. Maybe. Ah, wait... this IS your life. You’re just living it fulfilling someone else’s agenda...

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ahhh ... that hits close to home. Nail on the head.

[–]readytheharpoon22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ome thought and one thought only: This is retarded.

[–]MRPFuckMe18 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You talk about extreme disrespect and an affair. Fuck that bitch. Free yourself. Who cares what happens to her?

[–]mrpthrowa16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

The length to which the male hamster spins to keep justifying a oneties...

Unbelievable.

[–]GC0W30Fat, needs discipline6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Meet with a divorce attorney locally.

Also get a quick consult with a divorce attorney in the state she'd like to move to for work.

Based on their advice as it relates to your child support/alimony, bail out as soon as doing so won't lower your financial outcome.

There is information about divorce as it effects you that no one on here can give you. There's no shame in sticking around for a month or three if it will net you $100K in income.

You DO need to kill the puppy the moment you can, though.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Going to do this exact thing.

[–]GC0W30Fat, needs discipline2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holy shit, someone on AskMRP actually following directions!

Best wishes, brother.

[–]bowhunter616 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

Kill the puppy, dude.

[–]Captain_pants44 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

You’re actually in a great position. You get to stay with your kids, and have a sparring partner to sharpen your skills, whom you can fuck when you feel like. Spin plates, work on yourself, and do whatever you want. The longer you hold out, the more alimony you’ll walk away with

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I have tried to think of it like this. Sounds like you have kids and understand.

The plates would make the whole thing go down easier. But the beta stench of my situation may limit me to a stream of 3s and 4s.

Staying married to her would be a bitter pill. Unfortunately, when you have kids together, you're never fully rid of the mother.

Anyway, glad someone can see what I was getting at originally. Wouldn't be the best situation, but I've seen worse.

[–]witnessthenomorebp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you think this is a good idea try this little experiment to see. Do a devil's threesome with her and the guy of her choosing. /S See how you feel after being a part of that. Then let that run through your head about how much she really held back with him because you were there.

Run.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (12 children) | Copy

Edit: A few more things.

I want to start over and rebuild myself.

Thing is, we were about to move across the country for her new job, to start in a couple of months. It will triple her salary. Filing divorce now means backing out of the job. She won't go without me because she doesn't want to leave the kids and because I'm her security blanket.

So my hamster tells me, from a practical perspective, maybe we can come to an arrangement for a while. I work at home, 100% location independent. Her money would pay for a lot of college for the kids, etc.

It's not life or death, though, as her career will grow over time regardless.

[–]WesternhagenWinner4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

If you can live anywhere, then go ahead and move, then hit her with divorce papers after you get there.

It is somewhat curious that she's willing to move cross-country if she's having an affair. Is she going to break it off with her affair partner? Ultimately this does not matter, though. You still have to pull the plug even if she has ended her affair.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because there's dick everywhere.

The chance of me ever trusting her or trying to build a relationship with her is zero. It's all practicalities now.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

The issue isn't just about this particular affair. She doesn't have genuine sexual attraction for me. She likes having me around for other reasons. But she'll have more affairs and not feel guilty at all. So as far as a "normal" marriage, it's a complete no-go. If any marriage were to remain, it would be strictly a business deal.

[–]wkndatbernardus0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like the clintons but, you aren't Bill. You're Hillary.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might run again in 2020.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

The fact that you're justifying staying with an unfaithful women for one additional minute is fucking crazy in and of itself. Add to it the fact that of all the hamster-produced reasons you could cite you choose paying for your kid's college!

Do you now or do you ever plan on living for yourself? Fuck the kid's college! They would have to be literally retarded to not be able to fund or finance their own education.

You get one go at this game of life and nobody will remember you in any meaningful way after you have checked out of the game.

You're being retarded right now. You're probably better than this.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Painful truth. Thank you.

[–]Chump_No_More2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm going to give you an alternative perspective.

The 'Stay Plan' is the same as the 'Go Plan'. Regardless as whether you're with her or not, you must work on you. Having her as the 'sharpening stone' to hone your Frame and MPoO does add a measure of value to your path and your mission. This woman WILL continue to test your Frame, she's doing it now with all the strong emotion. Use her as the metric to your progress.

Contrary to the other voices, there's no urgency here and you have the better hand. Do what it takes to make your hand better. If that means going to another state for a brief, measured period to 'sweeten to pot', then do not lightly take that off the table.

Get your head on straight, retainer a lawyer, and build your plan.

Given your circumstances, the next book you should be reading is The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene. Like right now!

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Love the post. I can see what people mean when they say I'm retarded -- I am, or I wouldn't be in this situation.

But there's a nagging voice that says don't rush. There's a lot of money on the table, so why not be practical about it.

[–]mrpthrowa5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude... You are retarded.

Think of greatness, thing of all the cool stuff you can do, explore, enjoy, bang women, climb mountains, meet new people, study new courses, work in interesting places, lead great things, start businesses, make money, have an all around awesome life.

nahh... live like a parasite because you still have oneties for your whore.

Fucking idiot. The men of this age. So dependent your brain wires up all sorts of hamster crap to make it feel like you are doing this for your own good. That she is the one dependent on you.

She is literally climbing strange cock you know about, and probably gurgling on more cum that you don't know about, yet you're hanging around like a dependent kid who needs his mommy's titty.

You're despicable, you are the epitome of beta.

[–]marv86kw0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck that bitch.

Reread what you just wrote, all you thin about is what she wants.

Your being a pussy.

[–]witnessthenomorebp0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Who. Fucking. Cares. About. Her. Career.

Her new career will happen where you are at if she is willing hard enough at it and none of that will pay for college etc since it will be 50/50.

Who. Fucking. Cares. About. Her.

You do.

She doesn't care about you, it's obvious. But I've been where you are, only I was still blue pill for years. And regret every second spent working to win over someone like her.

Get. Out. Do it for you AND your kids.

Good God.

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can you wake up the day after your "deal," walk to the bathroom, look yourself in the mirror, and respect the dude looking back?

I think your path lies in the answer to that question.

[–]ParaXilo3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Kill the puppy.

so she doesn't lose face with her family

Sounds like not your problem dude.

It's not my idea of marriage and it's hard to accept.

So don't. Why are you accepting something you don't want? Is this your life or not?

[–]BigAjax2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I don't think you're as retarded or hopeless as others here do. It's good that you can be pretty clinical about this and see her for the cheating slut that she is, and (up to a point) you're willing to think pragmatically on behalf of yourself and your kids. You aren't moping around hoping to win her back, etc. Your plan would actually make sense, if what you truly wanted out of life was to be able to spin plates on some miserable bitch's dime. In that case, you've hit the motherlode.

Problem is, you're doing this in part for her. The stuff about still serving as her security blanket and helping her save face with her family, is retarded. You owe this animal less than nothing. More troubling than that, though, is that what you say ("not my idea of marriage and it's hard to accept") betrays that you are acting against your own priorities, preferences, etc. That's some serious beta shit. Why on earth would you lean toward choosing a path that is so unpleasant for you when better options are available? Congruence is at the heart of frame and you are opting to piss away any semblance of having a frame of your own. You'd be doing all this shit asshole-deep in your whore wife's frame.

If you divorce her and stay equal earners, it's pretty likely you'll get divorce-raped a bit. So what? This forum is littered with guys who took the L in worse circumstances and built excellent lives post-divorce. No reason you couldn't do that. Anyway, if you're so willing to abdicate your own frame, your hamster is going to have an easy time convincing you of all kinds of shit that actually works against your own interests and your life is going to turn out to be nothing more than a miserable slog to the end.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

if what you truly wanted out of life was to be able to spin plates on some miserable bitch's dime.

I can think of worse things. But it's a pact with the devil.

The stuff about still serving as her security blanket and helping her save face with her family, is retarded.

These are not things that I give a fuck about. She can rot in hell. I mentioned them to make it clear why she would still want to keep a guy around who is spinning plates on her dime.

Congruence is at the heart of frame and you are opting to piss away any semblance of having a frame of your own.

There's the rub.

If you divorce her and stay equal earners, it's pretty likely you'll get divorce-raped a bit.

Why would that be? She already earns a bit more now, but not that much. I'd be negotiating for 50/50 time with the kids and no child support.

[–]BigAjax0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you divorce her and stay equal earners, it's pretty likely you'll get divorce-raped a bit.

Why would that be? She already earns a bit more now, but not that much. I'd be negotiating for 50/50 time with the kids and no child support.

Great if it works out that way and all the more reason to not bite into that shit sandwich you've been assembling for yourself.

[–]seedster51 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds vietnamese

[–]Captain_pants40 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

3s and 4s lead to 5s and 6s, and so on. Abundance mentality is real. Don’t go Rambo and pull the plug too early; I did this and regret it. Your situation sucks but you’re in an optimal position to make good gains without giving anything up

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can you talk about how you pulled the plug too early? PM is cool if you don't want to be public.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You were always a beta bux and still are--- don't fool yourself. She counted on your share of the money for her affairs and on you for citizenship. Even women that make big $ still consider your money as hers, so if you divorce, her income goes down. She has financial incentive to keep you around still. She says she'll never divorce you, but once she has her new job and the kids in a new city... good luck. Your leverage on her is now. Any deal made now will hold no water whatsoever in your new city. Hypergamy doesn't care about promises or that you are the father... never forget the nature of women is manipulation and deceit to get resources from cucks. You are so deep in her frame this is just you LARPing at MRP.

A few questions: How old are the kids?
What are the divorce laws/alimony in this new location? How will any move benefit your job, your kids, and your personal growth?

If you don't have any really fantastic answers to these questions, then don't move at all and prepare for divorce.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I won't detail your private message to me here, but it's clear that you are qualifying yourself to her as the prize.

You still have not explained how this will benefit you now or benefit you for any future divorce in the new city.

[–]gameoflibidos0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ultimately you make your decision of how to lead your life and as a result you must accept what comes by your decisions and not complain about any problems that come as a result.

If you want an opinion on your decision, I think you're crazy and this BS will never work. You'll end up wasting 3 or 4 years of what could have been spent resetting your life and it will be a jumbled mess of trying to figure out how to lively happily in the convoluted mess you created for yourself.

As someone who has been down this road... I would leave now while you hold the leverage and hopefully evidence. As time goes.. it will become less and less relevant to her, what she did in the past and then if you try to divorce at a later date, she will not be nearly as agreeable to what you may demand as she will be now. So keep that heavily in your mind while making your choice.

[–]TheThirdT0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She is full of shit. Divorce her but offer her the same deal if this is what you want.

[–]Captain_pants40 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The part I regret is not taking more time in that situation to sharpen my RP skills, with my kids under my roof.

Don’t get me wrong, I have 50/50 custody and my kids are fine, but after seeing how effective an outcome independent and DNGAF attitude is on the ladies in the dating scene, I wish I would have stuck around a little bit longer to see how it worked on my ex wife (truly internalizing DNGAF took quite a bit of time for me).

My girlfriend now is everything that I’m looking for, and one of the reasons she does so much for me is because she knows I don’t care as much as she does. If it all ends tomorrow I wouldn’t lose a wink of sleep and she can feel that

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting, man. It's hard to NGAF when you have kids involved. That's my achilles heel.

[–]MrPurplePoison0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

One or two things to consider. Not all states are created equal with regard to custody laws. You need to figure that out ASAP. If you are moving to one that is unfavorable to fathers then act now.

Get yourself a lawyer, start counciling and cry about your feelings, etc etc. Most importantly focus on yourself. Lift, diet, squirrel away YOUR money. Work so hard on yourself that you can smile at the ugly bastard in the mirror.

There is no "deal" to take here. You are done in her eyes and with her making that much more money you will never be anything more than a pet, a house husband to do the dishes and care for the kids while she screws around. Until she finally is so fed up with your existence that she discards you while laughing about it with Chad #57. Hahaha finally gunna dump the chump.

So the question becomes how best to exit the situation. Get the facts for divorce and custody and don't hold back. If it is advantageous to stick around for a few months while she earns a lot of money so you can get a little kick back do it. Having that option and turning it down is a lot better than not.

But don't stay. You will be trading your life for her reputation (which SHE ruined by spreading HER legs). Take the gloves off. Save your soul.

[–]470_2_700_nm-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with you regarding being in no hurry to divorce from a financial perspective.

You have only to gain from this financially.

Mentally, from the point of view of your sense of self worth, I would have a tough time with this.

From the point of view of how well you can reform your cuckable beta ways, man you’ve got way more to go than you may think. Like a long uphill battle of owning it like a mother fucker from all MRP sidebar angles. That is no small feat.

It’s a good opportunity to shift the power dynamic, and build it to be what you want, but conventional wisdom around here is that you are rooting through the trash.

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Truth.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

Oh man you are in luck my friend

somewhere in the old posts is a guy handing it to his cheating bitch

I would kill the notion of getting a divorce, be mr compatible, go part time to be dad of the year and then divorce so she gets to pay you the support

Double indemnity

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Are you being serious?

There's a residency period before you can file divorce in the new state, so I'd have to wait it out for quite a few months.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

So what.

You been chasing her and she has gaslighted you for how many years ?

WTF ?

When do you live for you ?

[–]MarriedRedEnough[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I kind of like the idea. It's not without risk, but still.

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This it’s the nail on the head. The only real question is what do you want - you keep skirting around the issue.

Once you answer that question then you have your way forward and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

IMO there’s a huge difference between this situation moving forward in your frame vs. in her frame - my only concern would be that you aren’t far enough along to stay in your frame after the move.

Also if she goes for a post nupt that personally seems like the easiest way to mitigate risk if you want to take her for her money. Just add a no infidelity clause for her and not one for you.

[–]gonnafff-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry i stopped reading after your 2nd paragraph. Wake the fuck up dude.



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