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Am I supposed to feel this way?

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October 25, 2018
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I love my wife, but I don’t get to see her as much because I’m working two jobs to fulfill my mission and pay off my debt. It’s eating at me inside because she’s everything I look for in a woman.

I miss her deeply and try to spend time with her as much as I can. She understand what’s going on and supports me deeply and that’s what’s makes me love her even more.

I seriously need help processing what’s going on in my head and making sure that it’s okay to be like this. I don’t let her walk all over me, she does whatever I say even when she’s mad at me. And she sees me as the man.

I just see feel unsure about what’s going on in my head like it’s bad to feel this way.

Help?


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Title Am I supposed to feel this way?
Author TheWorldOfPugs
Upvotes 8
Comments 18
Date 25 October 2018 10:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203854
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9rey0v/am_i_supposed_to_feel_this_way/
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[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

She understand what’s going on and supports me deeply and that’s what’s makes me love her even more.

Either you're willfully blind or everything is fine and your first mate is fully in support of her captain in which case you have nothing to worry about.

[–]ahackercalled4chan6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

quality over quantity

if your time is exceedingly limited, make the time that you spent together be worth it.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

Welcome to being a man.

Suck it up buttercup. I work about 14 hours 6 days a week. Sometimes that’s 7 with no days off for up to 60.

Seriously. Own it. When you flat out work for a mission or vision, it’s crystal clear

Cut the oneitis and pedestal.

I would remember that even with all the hours you need me time. And me time is with bros and s couple of beers Just own it.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Are you making fat stacks working that much

[–]screechhaterRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

yes I am not doing it for the practice

My hourly rate is 280.00

I am going to build a building soon, I will be off to italy in a few weeks on a manufacturers dime

My guys are the highest paid we all make serious jack

The best part ? Watching guys that I employ buy their first house, nice decent trucks, going to their kids school functions, all due to how hard I push them, through pushing me

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet21 points22 points  (3 children) | Copy

You're not alone, but it is a weakness. It's oneitis and it doesn't matter if she's the greatest women you've ever known, the more you fixate on her the less attracted to you she will become.

Don't force yourself to be a dick to her, or avoid her, but understand that women prefer men who don't give a fuck about them and prioritize themselves. There's nothing wrong with liking your wife, just always remember to put yourself first and don't ever let your thoughts about her get in the way of your mission.

[–]TheWorldOfPugs2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you man, I seriously needed this.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. You seriously need a financial plan.

While these top voted posts address the faggotry toward her, they do not address the underlying issue which is:

Your money management problems.

Which cause you to feel this way about her and your shitty life.

You want to cure the disease or just treat the symptoms?

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This man speaks the truth.

[–]Middle_Aged_Child5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s your life, if you want to see your wife more, see your wife more. Simple.

[–]CalvinRichland2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Define not seeing her enough

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

At least 50 minutes out of 60 during business hours, 100% of the time during non-business hours, and - during those challenging times where they're traveling or apart - something of course to be avoided at all costs - mandatory texts or preferably video conferencing at a minimum of 3x per hour.

[–]CalvinRichland3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh ok.... seems reasonable

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you're not trolling us then you're clearly gay.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I seriously need help processing what’s going on in my head

You have not told us what is going on in your head. Only your heart and only the surface. What IS going on in your head?

making sure that it’s okay to be like this.

Be like what? It is almost never 'bad' to feel anything. Feelings are like the weather. They are not good or bad. You can bitch about the rain but without it you don't get the green trees. Feelings just are and you deal with them. What do you hope to accomplish by asking a random group of guys whether it is "OK to feel something or other?"

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If your frame is stronger than your feelings for her, sure. If you still do what you want, when she wants something different or she’s threatening to leave, I don’t see the issue.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop being a pussy.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Since you love the word "deep"

You are deep in your own faggot head.

Your wife is deep in your pocketbook living an OK life, while you slave away for a job that would replace you within two weeks of you dying and a woman who would replace you by the Govt in 90 days.

You have no mission, as you are paying off deep debt - from being a faggot and living above your means, likely feeding a wife that doesn't give a shit.

What exactly is this woman, who is deep in your brain helping to do to dig you out of your deep financial hole?

I got news for you, she doesnt give two shits about spending time with you becuase:

You are not fun

You are not exciting

You are broke

You do not lift, thus probably overweight

You are stressed

You do not make her wet

She doesnt want to fuck you

She will not swallow

You have no control over your life.

My advice - head over to /r/finance

Maybe file bankruptcy. Who fucking cares. Start living your life and stop paying off debt working two fucking jobs spinning your wheels.

It is a plan at least.

What is your plan? How many years you have left to pay off this stupid fucking debt that you racked up?

Stop being a faggot.



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