About 1 week ago I fell on a blog post from married man sex life. It talked about how the person who cared less had more power in the relationship and I realized that my wife had taken the dominant role as I begged and pleaded for sex. We have sex pretty frequently, but the quality has been lackluster, so I tried to talk to her about it. We ended up fighting, and went to bed frustrated. The next day she left for a weekend at home to visit her family that had been scheduled for months. During that break I read more and more and realized I had broken one of the major rules. I began implementing the stages of dread, and since I picked her up last night I’ve seen incredible success. She’s showing me more affection, and begging me to come to bed. However, she has asked me what theories I’m up to now, What tests am I running, etc. I’ve told her that I’ve just started focusing more on me and that includes gym time and focusing more on my work and passion projects. However, she keeps persisting. What do I do? What do I say? I know I can’t take back that mistake. Anyone else have any experience with accidentally divulging the secret?