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What do you guys do when your wife is upset/flustered about something?

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October 20, 2018

My girl had the garage door unlatch and slam down on the trunk of her bmw. Fucked the whole door up. Fucked the whole trunk up. She called me in a fluster about it.

I listened quietly while she got it all out of her system I then told her that’s frustrating but the insurance will cover the car if doing it ourselves isn’t cheaper and the door will just have to be fixed. I told her go to work and don’t take it out on everyone there. We will figure it out later on.

Is this what you guys do in these situations. When your wife is compiling about work. etc. am I here to just lend an ear? Offer a solution? Tell her everything is going to be alright?

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Title What do you guys do when your wife is upset/flustered about something?
Author martyrothenburg
Upvotes 18
Comments 38
Date 20 October 2018 03:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]ParaXilo14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

When your wife is compiling about work. etc. am I here to just lend an ear? Offer a solution?

I don't offer solutions. I can't remember what book but it says she doesn't want you to solve her problem. To just let her get it out. She's more frustrated if you're trying to fix every thing for her.

I think you handled the BMW issue appropriately. Get it taken care of. Shit happens and you move on.

[–]ActaNonVerbargh2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the answer.

[–]RedPillAtNight20 points21 points  (19 children) | Copy

Be the rock, take care of business (handle the repairs), and don’t let her emotional outburst perturb you. You did fine.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red-5 points-4 points  (18 children) | Copy

You call “we will figure it out later” doing fine?

Dont be a faggot.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (15 children) | Copy

Ok then. What would you have done instead? Called her a faggot?

[–]martyrothenburg10 points11 points  (14 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with saying that. He calls everyone a faggot and rarely gives good advice beyond that. I pick and choose who I listen to on this sub. Another mod on here told me about the cuck circle jerk that goes on in this sub by most of these guys.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret-1 points0 points  (12 children) | Copy

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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bro... wtf. I’m normally right there with you, but this is shit. “We’ll figure it out later.” is solid.

She needs to know she can relax in good hands. This is calming. I use this plenty of times when my girl is flipping her shit and I know that (1) theres nothing to be done now; and (2) I need more info for me to make a decision.

If you don’t know the solution (in business) but know you can find it, you say “I don’t know but I can find out.” And then you FUCKING DELIVER.

This is the same. He’s saying “I don’t know the answer while I’m at work, but this is within my competency. Chill, girl.”

What’s your take?

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

When the fuck did down voting become a thing around here? I'll give you a +1 because you are pretty.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think you nailed it. Help her contain her emotions, let her know everything's ok and nothing to worry about. A let of guys mess up in belittling her for doing something stupid - if she's upset, she knows she fucked up, no need to be a dick about it. Be stoic, help her weather the storm of emotion, in 2 weeks it's a forgotten issue.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

One magic phrase I use regularly now:

Don’t worry babe I got it.

Now the issue is going to be 2 things:

1) she doesn’t trust that you have it because you’ve been a faggot drunk captain 2) you actually don’t have it because you are fucking useless

One of those you can fix and it fixes the other - important lesson here is it’s never about her. Fix yourself and everything falls into place.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]martyrothenburg2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Be a good captain all around

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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[–]WarezFez0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shit happens as long as no one is hurt That would be my first thing to check

Cars and equipment can be repaired

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

At a minimum it is a $500 problem and probably a lot more.

She knows what the insurance will pay and probably reminding her of it was not necessary. A better way would have been to tell her you will call the insurance and figure out the repairs issues today. Don't worry, I have got this.

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"We" will figure it out??

I know what you meant, but try to avoid that "we" shit in situations like this. "I will take care of it."

Don't tell her shit like "Don't take it out on everyone there" either. Lead her emotions instead. I'm fresh outta garage door fucking up the car trunk jokes to give an example...but crack a joke, make lite of the situation, somethin to shift her emotions from mad/guilty to giggly/it's not my fault/damn he's unphased I wanna suck him dry right get the picture.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

If my wife had a small incident, I would expect her to handle it on her own. She may be upset and emotional, but a broken trunk on a car isn't a calling me back home emergency. Think about how much power you are giving this incident. A 35$/week rental car and a call to the insurance company solves the problem.

If she runs out of flour, would you expect to handle that dire emergency?

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

A 35$/week rental car and a call to the insurance company solves the problem.

Where can you rent a car for 35 a week?

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, thats my mistake. It's 35 per day.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t think you nailed shit down and you sure as fuck don’t nail her later that night.

Wake up and analyze the data. For what circumstance/reason does the LTR call the OP ?

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