New to MRP after wife had affair

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October 19, 2018

Hey Guys!

Just found this sub after a friend of mine pointed me to MGTOW when I confided in him about my wife's affair.

Here is the affair story from a throwaway acct I made for a little background:

anyway, I'm currently reading NMMNG and reading the sidebar here like my life depends on it. Started going to the gym (which is her gym..we usually take the same classes together) and doing spin classes and bootcamp / boxing type classes (the gym does not have freeweights so its all classes). I've lost 30lbs so far (6'2 265 to 235 now) and have started gaining some good muscle and self confidence (quads getting legit with the spin classes)

TLDR: If the backstory posts are too long just know the dude she had an affair with (twice) is a pro lifter who does comps.. has a ripped bod and hung like a horse she told me... (but none of that means anything to her she now probably BS just to make me feel better) ...he basically went fishing for pussy and my wife took the bait and fell for it.. after everything we realized he does this all the time and fucks around on his wife.. but my wife fell for his BS hardcore.. like extreme (almost worth reading the post because its so crazy)

anyway just wanted to introduce myself, this shit is literally eye opening for me.

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Title New to MRP after wife had affair
Author -noflex-
Upvotes 7
Comments 96
Date 19 October 2018 04:16 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (3 children) | Copy

Holy shit... I thought I was in a bad spot but you made me feel much better. This shit = divorce. No working through it.

[–]Redpillbrigade176 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Filing for divorce means balls and preparation, at least. OP seems to have neither at this point. He’s pretty much rudderless - the sooner he stops spending so much time online and jerking off to porn the closer he’ll be to gaining some control over his life.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret23 points24 points  (3 children) | Copy

TLDR to save everyone from reading the other two posts.

OP has 2-3 affairs. Gets oral, but too cowardly to fuck them. Wife finds out, fucks an old crush. OP finds out. Wife does it again, with different (i think) guy. New guy is jacked and hung like a horse. OP makes wife tell him all the details (while probably wanking to it). OP's wife says she will stop, keeps texting nudes, probably still fucking him.

OP, it's time to move on, I don't see how you can recover from this. The only people I feel sorry for in this story are the three kids.

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The three kids will be better off once OP mans up as opposed to currently. If OP does nothing the three kids will wake up too, sooner or later to the lie that seems to be their home life.

[–]-noflex-[S] -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy

wasn't new guy... its same guy.. and she fucked old crush when we were engaged.. then fucked him again recently.. and she sent him pics after they fucked but not after I found out and confronted her

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She just has 2 phones. One for the faggot and one for the horse. Idk if I could handle being cucked like that. As long as i got to watch i guess.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret18 points19 points  (14 children) | Copy


Same classes as wife at gym. Wanted full "deets" about Chad. Ripped quads bike work. Zero anger.

I read your "Hey Guys!" with a pronounced lisp.

Guys like this DM me wanting me to fuck their wife. He should embrace the cuck life and financially support the wife so she can groom daily for her man injections.

MGTOWs wouldn't even put up with this level of soy.

[–]Senor_Martillo2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

He could start his day with a delicious glass of soy milk, blending it with increasing amounts of tofu. Eventually it will have the exact consistency of his bull’s load and he can move right over into cleanup duties.

[–]-noflex-[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I don't fuck with soy milk or tofu so NOPE

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Tofu was just a diversion. The real question is are you gearing up for cuck clean up duty or are you a man?

[–]-noflex-[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I don't even know where to start tho regarding lawyering up.. we have joint bank account and shes always been the one to handle our finances.

should I open up a new bank account and start splitting up my paychecks and biding time til I save up enough? lawyers are not cheap

[–]GC0W30Fat, needs discipline3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

should I open up a new bank account and start splitting up my paychecks and biding time til I save up enough? lawyers are not cheap

Call a lawyer Monday AM, get a free or low-cost initial consult and they will advise you as to the best way to handle your paychecks so you can pay them.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

See, now this is actionable advice.

OP, listen to this man, as he seems to have you and your wife's best interests in mind.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Definitely Soy but sadly I doubt he is a troll.

[–]Reach180Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The way that replies pile up on these cuck fanfic threads make me wonder how many dudes here harbor that fantasy.

[–]-noflex-[S] -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

its hard to go to gym separately because "her" gym has childcare provided. and is bike work for fags or what?

fuck im new to all this shit as you can tell..ive been beta for way too long I know

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

The biggest thing that makes you a faggot is that you are still married to a woman that you know that has cheated on you.

She tried to branch swing, Chad just pumped and dumped her, now she comes back to her safe beta. Until new Chad comes and it all happens again. Very likely she has done this before and you never knew.

Stop being a fag, serve her the divorce papers and move on with your life. It can be a new awesome life now that you have your eyes opened, it only depends on you.

[–]-noflex-[S] -3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

lol branch swing I love it.. yeah you got a point

[–]ch0dey13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

what the fuck are you "lol"ing for? get the fuck off reddit and call a lawyer.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everything you're doing right now, including wasting everyone's time here in this remedial subreddit is for fags.

Let your beard go fuck whomever, divorce and decorate a space to your liking and visit with your kids, and bleach your asshole (I hear the dudes really like the look).

[–]Redpillbrigade171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Excuses excuses OP. Good luck with that.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.013 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read that shit show and I will be slightly nicer then everyone here and try to give you some advice while throwing up in my mouth because I empathize with you on this shit.

1) Lawyer the fuck up now and be prepared.

2) Lift!! Fuck your spin classes. Lift like your god damn life depends on it.

3) You will never out fuck or out lift the ghost of this guy. You need to let the past go as soon as possible and take care of yourself. Fuck your whore wife and her telling you about his donkey dick.

4) Build your relationships with your kids.

5) Realize and I mean realize that you will never trust your wife again. EVER. No amount of OPSEC will be good enough. No amount of good times and enthusiastic sex will be good enough to prevent mistrust from creeping back in. No amount of reassurances will keep you from wondering. Is that something you can live with for the next 20,30,40 years? Think about that.

6) Figure out what you want. I mean what you really want and practice self care and focus on your MAP.

7) Do the work and you may survive. Your marriage wont, I would bet on it and honestly do you want it too?

After reading that shit I don't think you will do the work and I will catch you holding the camera in a cuck film. Prove me wrong.

[–]jdogworld9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy

Your wife asked for his sperm to have a baby? You are out of you fuckin mind for staying with her. No matter what you do you will never earn her respect back. Never. Next.

[–]-noflex-[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

yeah she told me she texted him during their 3 month txt message affair (before they met up and fucked)

she said she told him: "if my husband would be ok with it, would you give me your sperm.. since he has a vasectomy and wont get it reversed and I really want another baby.. you wouldn't need to be involved or raise it we would"

and he said "uhhh id have to think about it"

this is what she told me.. .so im sure she doctored the story up.. probably never mentioned to him the part about "if my husband would be ok with it" ...I bet she just added that part while confessing to me

[–]jdogworld6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

What does her wanting his sperm for a baby tell you about what she thinks of this Chad?

[–]John_The_Baptlst0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

After reading this and seeing you have kids are you sure they are all yours?

[–]-noflex-[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

ive always had a weird feeling about our middle child.. she looks slightly different than our other 2.. lighter complexion and light eyes (we both have dark eyes but my grandma has light eyes) and it was weird the night we "conceived" her my wife cried sobbing after I finished inside her.. she never explained why and even to this day she says she doesn't remember it or remember why

[–]ParaXilo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think the statistic is 10% of children are of another. Maybe it was 30%.

[–]Redpillbrigade170 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP is fascinated with details of his wife fucking other dudes. Fine with me if he likes to watch. But OP is not living that life. He lives the life he thinks he wants, classic married man etc, yet secretly he likes to have his woman fucked. He may even want to suck cock. Again fine with me, if that’s who he is. The point is sooner or later these truths confront him- so he does not know which way to go. Come out and live his non-conventional life in some way, or carry out pretending and fighting to fit in.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

Hold on, brb. Need to grab some popcorn before I watch everyone here rip you a new asshole.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mister thundercock is having an aneurysm right now.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lmfao yeah yeah after finding MRP and MGTOW I see the light shining in the distance.. just need to get to it

but im not so innocent in the relationship either, the throw acct I linked is pretty detailed in it all

[–]luckyguy197 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

this has gotta be a troll

[–]-noflex-[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

not a troll

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy


[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

thx for this constructive input.. u really put a lot of thought into it

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

He didn't put much thought into fucking your wife either.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I only have one word for you....NEXT

You have zero self respect if you stick around now....and yes I read your previous two posts.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

You are going to choke on all the Venison.

Wife just fell for it?

It just happened?

He tricked her and she accidently found herself on his cock.

D.E.E.R. Look it up. You are rationalizing and avoiding the real issue.

comps...ripped bod

There you go. If you were describing yourself rather than your wife's affair partner want to bet there would not have been an affair partner.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.02 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Of course, it just happened!

[–]Randy_Marsh20244 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I only saw one other person mention that OP was “kind of turned on by it.” That statement was buried in your novel of a post. He’s using everyone here for his own degradation. He’s a simple cuck.

[–]jakethesnake50007 points8 points  (28 children) | Copy

Dude. Wtf is this shit. She told you he is hung like a horse and you tolerate that? You tolerate her fucking Chad? You need to get the fuck out of that house, divorce her ass and go ice cold no contact.

Serious question: Do you have ANY self respect?

[–]-noflex-[S] -2 points-1 points  (27 children) | Copy

3 kids (9,7,5) are involved though, Its not that easy..

But yeah man.. I made her tell me all the deets.. like what positions (some of which she lied to my face about and i found out the truth later) and she mentioned hes hung and she thought to herself before they fucked "I don't even know how this is gonna fit"

well sure as fuck his shit did fit all right

but read the backstory, theres more to it... grab some coffee and power through it :)

[–]jakethesnake50008 points9 points  (10 children) | Copy

Honestly, I think you are the kinda guy that likes to have his wife plowed by other men. The way you are saying this shit, ending with the smiley faces, asking her for details about the sex.... seems like you have a cuckold fetish.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It happens and OP should own it if that is the case. There are plenty of women out their willing to cuckold him.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

nah not cuck but I've always had a thing to try swinging.. and she knew that and thought it was disgusting

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

.... And she thought it was disgusting with me.


[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol touché

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

nah not cuck

Another guy is fucking your wife and you haven't left her. You even asked for details. That's textbook...

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I asked for details to catch her in lies and to see if the sex was just "meh" fucking or if they had some kinda fuck-fest all nighter kinda thing

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

A. Bullshit B. You admitted in the linked post that you liked hearing the details C. Why does it even matter if it was an all nighter?

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I admitted I liked hearing the details because I've always wanted to swing.. not because Im some closet cuck.. it mattered to me at the time if it was an all nighter, because it shows she was into it.. her whole story to me is that she just wanted to get it over and see how she felt after fucking him.. to spite me for what I did 7 years ago getting some BJ's from some rando's .. and she said wasn't into it and even told him to "hurry up and cum" while waving her hand at him to get it over with... but she lied to me about giving him a bj.. said he only went down on her and she didn't give him bj.. but he told me they both gave eachother oral.. and the fact she sent the pics afterwards shows she was lying about not being into it.. she really was it seems

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

K, I got you figured out.

Just watch out for all the crocodiles in that river in Egypt you are merrily traveling down. You know the one- d'nile.

[–]lapeparoja-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

He is a troll (99%) or a cuck, well, in these crazy times we are living it I wouldnt be surprised if the percentages are somehow more balanced.

[–]luckyguy192 points3 points  (12 children) | Copy

She's going to be thinking about chad thundercock every time she has sex now, that's what you want?

[–]-noflex-[S] 1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

not at all, but she says it meant nothing and his ripped body and cock size didn't do it for her since there was no emotion involved and she prefers sex with me because of the love and connection..

this is probably just BS tho right?

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

it meant nothing and his ripped body and cock size didn't do it for her

How many times did she have to fuck Mr Horsecock to figure this out? And then she went back for more later "just to check", right?

The only reason women are able to get away with such blatant lies is that we want to believe them.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

fucked him twice afaik (once when we were engaged.. and once just recently)

he went out of town the next day for a lifting comp so im sure she woulda fucked him more than once if he didn't leave town

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

That's twice she got caught.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

nah the first time she confessed to me like 5 years after the fact when she found out about what I did messing around on her.. she felt guilty and confessed... but still twice with same guy ya.. and they've always talked our entire marriage off and on.. msging eachother to see how their lives were doing

[–]John_The_Baptlst1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

his ripped body and cock size didn't do it for her


[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

yeah that's what I figured, because before she did this she would always tell me "I just want to experience someone with a nice ripped body for once" as she would try to talk me into working out.... well she experienced it all right :(

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

she would try to talk me into working out....

Does she have to use flashing hazards and spotlights. Jesus H. Christ on a popsicle stick.

[–]luckyguy190 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

If any of that were true she would never have gotten into it with this guy. Girls who are satisfied don't go looking. This is beyond fucked up. There is absolutely no way to rationalize staying with this girl, kids or not. If you stay with this girl your going to end up raising another mans kid.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

raising another mans kid

If he isn't already.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

if you guys read the post youll see she even asked this dude for his sperm since I got snipped and dont want more kids... this shit is like a bad lifetime movie

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck dude. Tell him he can have her if he can take over the payments.

[–]PhysicalPotential2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t fucking use the kids as an excuse not to dump her ass. You should be making the decision for you as though the kids weren’t there. You put you first. You’re a man. That’s what men do.

By putting you first your kids benefit. It will be better for them to see you 50% of the time as a man then 100% of the time as a cuck.

I know this as currently divorcing my wife. She had an emotional affair a few years back. I tried to “work” through it, I did it for my kid. I was 100% wrong. I never trusted her again.

It was hard telling my daughter. Tears for a few hours and then everything started to get better. Fast forward a few months and life was not just better it was awesome.

It took me the best part of 2 years to fully internalise this and act. I hope you get it sooner as I wasted years of my life being a pussy.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do you want your children to grow up seeing a week man or a strong man?

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

defo strong AF

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

after everything we realized he does this all the time and fucks around on his wife.

I have never seen a man so deep in a woman's frame as this.

Stop everything and read the rational male. Right now. For fuck sakes.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

well I had my wife call up his wife to tell her.. at first she didn't want to and got pissed the fuck off and threatened to leave me if I told the guys wife.. bit right after that argument she called me and asked for his wifes phone number (which i got from doxxing them) and his wife told her that he does this all the time.. and is currently banging some 22yr old chick off and on and his wife was happy my wife was calling her to let her know

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is a trick. Your baiting us.

Get the fuck out of here.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol im not baiting shit bro

this is legit mode

[–]spexer2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What do you want?

Realize that you never mention this in your initial post. (an no, I am not going to read your linked biography, you do not deserve that investment from anyone here, yet).

You are so much into her frame.. your life right now is nothing more than a response to her.

Hell, it could be argued you are in CHAD'S frame!

I mention this because if this is serious, one of the first steps you need to make is to live, to lift, to rehab your life... for you. Not your wife. Not to compete with Chad.

And it is clear you have not done that yet.

[–]gameoflibidos1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hell, it could be argued you are in CHAD'S frame!

lol.. not much around here really strikes me as "new" ... you see the same ole repeated shit and behaviors... but lol... that's a new one.

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

fuck this is true.. and realizing now by talking to CHAD i put myself in his frame (i hit him up wanting to talk man to man.. then he ran to my wife like a bitch and was like wtf why he calling me... so she told him to tell me the truth about what happened)


[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you remain in the marriage now, whatever happens is 100% your fault. Your wife was alpha widowed when you married her and has subsequently gone back to fuck the guy on numerous occasions after the marriage. You've already tried to do the second chance thing and you see how that worked out... she went back and fucked the same guy and then blamed you for it.

I know you think you got the whole story, but you've been trickle-truthed every step of the way. That's why you keep finding out new details days/weeks/months later. All you need to know can be summed up by the sauna pics she sent the two of you. The one to him said she's going to hop on his cock and ride him like Secretariat, while yours was "let's go shopping for some new drapes."

[–]-noflex-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow this is a great reply and spot on! Thanks bro

If only I had gold to give

[–]AtlasCuckd2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude...come on man. And you're still with her? You have a lot to do

[–]-noflex-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know

This post and this sub (and the main MRP sub) are an intervention

[–]Redpillbrigade172 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is so bad it’s entertaining.

[–]Wizardglick1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can’t belive you’re staying.

[–]470_2_700_nm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Dumpster Fires”sub is =====>

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Enough of your bs to you and us.

Start lifting.

At some point you need to look in the mirror and decide what you really want.

I won’t read half your diatribe of shit. It’s that bad

[–]jamesbond8181-4 points-3 points  (7 children) | Copy

Stop watching porn dude it messed up your damn life.

I’m a fucking virgin but reading this shit omg you’re fucking gay and you’re a cuck btw.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You should probably do something about that condition. It is curable you know.

[–]jamesbond81810 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Virgin by choice (religion)

And a bit by force no lies but can lose it no lies

[–]-noflex-[S] -3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

as a virgin.. why u even in this sub?

[–]jamesbond81813 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

Listen here buddy. You’re the cuck, not me

[–]-noflex-[S] -5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy

get some pussy and move out of mommy's basement... then you can talk

[–]ahackercalled4chan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]jamesbond81812 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahah I live with my parents but I support them financially.

As for not getting any pussy; I am a religious man (my post history might say otherwise) and am waiting for marriage. I follow MRP so I can see what people struggle with when married and be better armed.

I pray to God to not be in a situation like yours, but your situation is your own doing my friend.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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