I recently have gotten out of a 10 year marriage (15 years together) . For the past 6 months, I basically spent most of my free time (when not looking after my kid or working) spinning plates, most of which i dedicated a significant amount of time to (probably more FWB than plates, to be honest). I have however been lifting heavy 2-3 times a week, and do MMA training 1-2 times a week, so have been using some of my time wisely.
What I have realized is that this took way too much time away from my mission. It also felt like I wasn't congruent. For this (and many other reasons), I've decided I would prefer a LTR one on one relationship. One of the people I was seeing is in my opinion LTR material, and I am planning on taking a redpill approach to the relationship. The things I am worried about right now are getting Oneitis, and making the same mistakes as in my previous relationship. Also, I am still concerned with Rollo's idea of a LTR not being an end goal....which means perhaps I am doing this too quickly.
My questions are:
1) Are there any other people that started a new relationship after being married/together for a long time, that had similar realizations?
2) What are some of the things that I should be thinking about when starting a new relationship (maybe stuff not specifically in the side bar)?
3) Is this too soon to start a LTR?