Night sex: I'm finding that initiating at night is more difficult. She's often tired at night and has a lower sex drive than me (or so it seems). Here are my approaches:
When we get into bed and close the light i let her cuddle against me. We lie facing each other and I slowly rub her back and shoulders with one hand, slowly increasing the intensity as I become more horny. This strategy is becoming old and over used, so it's working far less than it used to. Tips?
My other strategy is to simply give her a oil back massage from shoulders to feet, while we're both naked. This has a close to 100% success rate, but cannot be used often or else it will lose it's value.
Morning sex is easy some days, but other times I can't get her to budge. I used to spoon her upon waking up and caress her body and slowly move my hands around her body and kiss her neck. And she feels me started to get hard behind her. But sometimes she just denies me, and I used to plea and try to continue touching her, but this rarely ever works. I can't guilt her into sex. So now when she denies me I just pretend like it doesn't bother me and stop the cuddling and try to go back to sleep. Tips?
Day sex: Day sex is the most difficult to achieve for me. She likes to keep busy and sees day sex as an obstruction on her time. I have no clue how to initiate it anymore. How do I initiate sex when she's focused on chores or taking a break on the couch sipping her wine. I always seem too pushy when I want it. I have no clue how to game sex during the day.
Share your successful strategies. And please give input on mine. I don't have much experience in LTRs.