Stfu. Withdrawing attention. AA. AM. Looking my best every time I leave the house and most of all. NGAF.
The shit test have been flying. And I have been dodging them like I’m muhamid Ali.
I am aware of the 1000 foot rope. But I’m sure I’m Moving a little faster than I should be so she’s starting to ask me. Why I’m being an asshole. Which comes when I use AM. I’m literally having fun and laughing and she’s flipping out. So I just smack her ass and go do something else. It has 100% worked and defused a lot of situations recently. That normally would end in a frame loss or go a different way. So I’m moving forward with this. But there’s still an angry wife at times. I just have reached a point where I don’t care if she’s pissed off.
She will text me. Asking why I have to ruin her day. But in reality. I’m just not caring about her shit anymore. She’s telling me relationships shouldn’t be like this. We don’t talk things out anymore. I’m an asshole. On and on. She’s a control freak and I realize she is probably starting to feel a loss of control and trying to manipulate me in order to gain some back.
I work 10 hours a day. I come home cleaned the dog shit from the back yard. Showered and went to the gym. I get home and she’s asking me to do something. I just ignored it. She was off all day long. She works 3 days or less a week. Yes she does a lot of the house work but she has way more time.
She said how she did all this stuff today so I made a joke and said. You moved 3 boxes and cleaned a half of bathroom (she only cleaned her side. Which idc I can clean my own)
She said yea right. I poked more and she flipped out said I was a spoiled asshole who doesn’t appreciate anything she does.
I laugh and tell her I appreciate everything. And smacked her ass. I could tell the mood was going to continue so I went into the jacuzzi and read. She text me saying all this crazy shit. I didn’t answer. I’m literally a room over. It’s literally just a playful joke and she’s bugging out over it.
She’s on the rag so I realize this is def contributing to it. But is there ever a moment I should tell her why. Or do I constantly leave her in the dark till she just accept this is how it is. Or realizes her bad behavior is what causes this? I feel like she knows something is going on but lost as shit as to why it is.
We don’t see each other too much. And when we do she’s mad about something. Sometimes I snap her out of it. Sometimes I don’t have the energy to care enough so I do something else. She goes to be early and I know feels alone. So I do get conflicted still.
Will she adjust in time or should I give her a little guidance as to why this all is happening?
Edit: it’s also worth noting I have really been trying to add more fun into the relationship. So don’t get me wrong it’s not only shit test and bad behavior. We been having our fun. But the bad behavior is quit annoying and frequent. I have women begging me to sleep with them. And a wife who annoys me bc there’s a spoon out of place in the cabinet. It’s an interesting road.