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Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP?

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October 5, 2018
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I am starting my journey here. I am slowly passing out of the anger phase and right now I’m struggling with STFU. I like my wife and I like to talk to her about my thoughts/opinions. I honestly don’t have a close enough friend that I feel comfortable talking with like I’m able to talk to her.

For example, I want to talk to her about my goals with MRP, even though I know that’s about the dumbest thing I could do.

So, I’m asking if you can help me feel better about this pathway. Do you guys feel like you have a closer relationship with your wife after making the change from beta to Chad? Or am I misguided to think those two things are possible at the same time?


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Title Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP?
Author slodojo
Upvotes 13
Comments 29
Date 05 October 2018 03:38 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/203937
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9lnct1/do_you_feel_closer_to_your_wives_after_mrp/
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[–]redwall9211 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

So, I’m asking if you can help me feel better about this pathway.

Honey, get the lube.

[–]IRunYourRiver2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If it feels good, do it.

[–]ac3jc11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

The redpill only gets you closer to yourself. She does not matter in the equation. Only you.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. I feel way less "connected" to my wife, but understand that is simply the way of things. It's the fuckin way she goes.

She still wants me to open up to her, but that never ended well, even when I was gushing about a passion of mine. No real interest.

[–]IRunYourRiver8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I figured out a few things before actually swallowing the pill and one of them was that I am fundamentally alone. My wife and I are in a relationship, but we are not "one body" and certainly not "one spirit". But, I think you'll soon discover that you do a better job supporting yourself. And that seeking inner peace from your wife has been a fool's errand. The community here helps a lot. But, in the end, its just you.

[–]JudgeDoom698 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife being your only friend is needy. Needy is unattractive. So ask yourself, are you looking for a friend or a lover. She can't be both.

You need to build a life apart from your wife. Get a hobby, join some club, join a movement. Then you'll get some friends independent of your marriage in whom you can confide.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret11 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy

it's misguided. Completely.

She will judge you by your actions. She doesn't GAF what you think. At all. Though it's what they say. All they need to know is that you are engaged and not going to rape them then kill them.

Just go over and read Red Pill Women sub. It's all blow jobs and unicorns over there and you may think. Dayum. I need to show this to the girl. But don't do that.

Thing is she won't see it like you do. Hypergamy. In fact reading the unicorn zoo there is a deep deep lesson in hypergamy and solipsism right from the horse's mouth themselves.

They. Don't. Give. A. Fuck. About you, about anyone other than getting that relationship and keeping it. You can get her to suck your dick and be just as happy as if she read it on some women's red pill sub. Without having to deal with all the other bullshit.

She isn't your friend. She never will be. She can be a companion. But never your friend.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

OP, read above ^

Gay best friend or lover.

Pick one.

The relationship dynamics that are required to keep your dominance and value maximized as well attraction levels regulated, dictates never being friends. I get that you want to be vulnerable, but don’t. Men don’t get rewarded for it, they get punished.

If you want to be her gay best friend and share your goals, fears, and worries, you WILL lose value. She knows she doesn’t need to actively work on a relationship with a beta male to get what she wants out of him, then she is no longer a worthy mate for anyone.

You are the Prize, not her.

[–]weakandsensitive6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

I get that you want to be vulnerable, but don’t. Men don’t rewarded for it, they get punished.

Vulnerability without being vulnerable is an advanced topic.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah.. OPs question is complexed. Since he’s just starting out, best response for him is to stfu up and go through the steps. Become her alpha male lover.

Once he gets out of the blue pill lens and into red pill, then he can be “friends” with her. Because he will know how from his understanding of the dynamics.

But we if told him “yes, you can be friends and grow closer with her” he would most definitely fuck it up right now because he’s mindset is still blue pill.

[–]weakandsensitive4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

+1000

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a topic that must be fleshed out.

Perhaps the biggest concern I see in the sub is lack of understanding tact and timing. The inter dynamics at play with the two along with AA, AM are wholly to themselves, the great equalizer. But, so many here are operating if of fear.

In the grand scheme of things, one can relate the paradigm of vulnerability without being vulnerable to the art of war and showing strength when weak and weakness when strong. However, one bust break the glass, pull the hammer and put fear to rest

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Perhaps the biggest concern I see in the sub is lack of understanding tact and timing. The inter dynamics at play with the two along with AA, AM are wholly to themselves, the great equalizer. But, so many here are operating if of fear.

Bingo! Even in economic theory the fear of losing is a greater driver than the will to win in most people.

[–]hystericalbonding10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't want to know how the sausage is made. She wants a guy who just gets it.

A big part of seduction is the dance between intimacy and mystery. Push and pull. Building and breaking rapport. Most guys who come here are all pull, so the beginning of the journey is learning how to use distance. You will feel more distant at times. Some guys find it easier to maintain or increase that distance, and others draw their wives back in, but on their own terms.

You need to build more relationships with people around you - she can't be your only friend, your only source of intimacy.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP? Well I'm not polygamous, so I only have one wife.

When I stopped blaming her for my weakness and pulled my head out of my ass and took charge of my life, then yes I did feel closer to her.

[–]weakandsensitive8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

I honestly don’t have a close enough friend that I feel comfortable talking with like I’m able to talk to her.

lol

I want to talk to her about my goals with MRP

lol.

Quick follow-up, do you want her to tuck you in at night and kiss you good night too?

You are the epitome of a caricature.

[–]wkndatbernardus3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What you're talking about is more in the realm of a mother/son relationship where the boy gets support and nurturing from his caring mother. The husband/wife dynamic is different in that the woman looks to the man to be a strong leader who makes her feel safe, secure, and part of a greater purpose. The husband provides this by moving towards his mission with single-minded focus. If any closeness happens for a married couple, it's in this dynamic where the wife follows and supports the man on a mission.

So, yes, there is a closeness that occurs but it isn't the one your post alludes to. Think less nurturing and more support on mission.

[–]470_2_700_nm2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why are talking to your wife about MRP? Didn’t you get the memo?

[–]oytrp5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You won't FEEL closer.

When you were blue pilled you probably FELT that you were soulmates and loved each other unconditionally. We know that FEELING was just an illusion.

Now that you know her true nature, of course you won't match that feeling again ever. But what does that matter if that feeling was fake?

What's important is if the relationship is better.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

“you guys feel like you have a closer relationship with your wife”

No, but I feel closer to yours..

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's closer to my dick ya. Stop thinking about your wife.

[–]470_2_700_nm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My dick does?

[–]mattizie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unfortunately for you, she doesn't want that in her relationship.

Find someone else like a close friend or a cat/dog, to confide all your feelings to. Eventually, you'll stop the behaviour all together.

[–]gameoflibidos1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. If anything I think about whether I still want her around.

[–]light-----------dark2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cute..

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I call bullshit on your reading and, your lifting.

In no fucking way are your internalizing shit if you are not working toward finding a confidant other than the wife

[–]Grimsterr0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Confidants? Who the fuck needs confidants?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Brothers, friends- another to call you on your bullshit and hers Someone to discuss realities of having a cock

I don’t really, of course I’m not sucked into her frame and psychologically twisted like a pretzel begging for pussy, course that’s just me



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