Glad i found RP. I've subscribed to some of these methods without knowing there was a system for it. I'm currently consuming the RP youtube playlist and have some books next in line. Starting with no more mr. nice guy.
I'm 6'1" 165lb, slim, fit, successful. I am always hitting the gym or the beach to work out or yoga. That's where i met my STBE.
Married for 4 months, together for 3 years. At the moment she left me and is living with her friend. Left her ring at home, we had a "perfect" marriage on the outside. She comes from a Christian family and her dad is a pastor. He threw this big wedding for her and they told the world they prayed for me and I arrived. Her parents are lawnmower parents and do a lot for her. She has always had someone come in and fix most of her problems for her. That's one of the big issues that she might of made decisions for her parents not her
At the moment she says she's confused about the marriage if she wants to stay in it. She's staying with her friend and i'm basically in limbo at home with all of our photos and our cats of the "perfect marriage we had". It blows sometimes but as time passes I am learning that I actually like having my man cave back. I've made my office my living room and work on a 60" flatscreen tv.
I took some of those pictures down because it's hurts and I tend to get all sad. I recently started re intergrating myself back into social groups meeting and connecting with other people. We're going to "cousneling" tomorrow wednesday and my intention is to save the marriage. Hers is so we can communicate better and not be resentful. Which throws me for a loop because i'm not paying for something just so we're friends after a divorce. I could care less what happens after she decides she made a wrong choice.
I'm obviously trapped by her frame and i try to create my own but every time we talk I fall into hers. Also her parents love me and i love them. Being pastors they encourage me to be patient and woo her again how I did in the beginning. I konw that this behavior comes from a few different places. Self preservation of their family and reputation. Their daughters mental health, they know it's a mistake and she will regret it for the rest of her life.
She's basically leaving a good successful, desireable husbad. I'm failing in ways that are apparent right now that i'm absorbing RP content.
Last communication:
Me: Good morning, I love you and my heart misses you
Her: Hey good morning :) I've been thinking a lot about us (obviously), and i miss you. But i hope that doesn't make it confusing. I feel the most alone I've felt since i left and i'm trying to figure out if i miss you because i'm lonely or i really miss being with you. It's hard to differentiate and i'm sorry for putting you through all of this.
RP principals tell me to, focus one me, keep a positive strong masculine dominant frame. Looking for any pointers or advice on any of the above. Don't hold back please let it rip!
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