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Best approach with wife?

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September 24, 2018

I just came to redpill just a couple weeks ago, so all this is pretty new to me. I'm 52 years old and have been married for 7 years to my wife who is 35. Due to our ages and my wife's cultural background she's pretty accepting of me being dominant in the relationship. However, over the last couple years I've noticed some change in how she treats me, and now realize that I seriously need to redpill, increase my SMV/dread and change our relationship.

My wife doesn't turn me down for sex, but I'd like to see her more into it. In the beginning of our relationship she would also give me oral and let me CIM. However, about a year ago she said she didn't want the CIM part. Also, when I asked for anal she was a hard 'no' on that. I'd definitely like to have these be part of our sex life, but am wondering the best way to go about it. I have started working out, setting some boundaries as to her behavior, etc. and have gotten the comment from her that "You are changing". Regarding the oral and anal, is this something I should drop for the time being while I follow my MAP, or should I continue going for the CIM/anal every so often?

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Title Best approach with wife?
Author Red_Ninja7
Upvotes 8
Comments 14
Date 24 September 2018 09:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Before I took the pill, I discovered my wife was reading all of those dumb 50 Shades of Gray novels. I foolishly asked her if she wanted to play around with that kinda shit in the bedroom.

"Oh no, I just think its dumb mindless reading material. I really AM NOT into that stuff."

Fast forward to now, guess who loves to be choked, restrained, slapped, called names, etc?

  • Don't listen to their words. Pay attention to their actions
  • Stop asking for permission. Take what you want.
  • Read up on DEVI from Sex God Method

[–]Red_Ninja7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

From what I understand, a complete schlub can't just say to himself "I'm the man" and start demanding things of his woman, because she won't see him as high SMV. While I'm not a complete schlub, I'm thinking I would be better served to increase my SMV, dread, etc. before 'taking what I want'.

Trying to find Sex God Method.


[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I second this. Didn't want to believe it. Resisted. Started being an asshole in bed and saw results. Don't talk so much to her about it. Don't act thirsty to have your desires met, just take things because trust me, you being your age and she being her age, she gonna take that money out of your bank before your body even turns cold. She's just slow-playing you and she will eventually take what it is she has wanted from the very start.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

You have the relationship you deserve.

What do you think you should do?

[–]runnowxxx2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Do u even lift bro?

[–]Red_Ninja7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just went back to lifting a couple weeks ago. I'm not too out of shape (6' 1", 180 lbs, 15% bf), but want to replace 15 lbs of body fat with muscle mass. I also used to practice and teach martial arts, and am making plans to restart that as well.

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Probably read Married Mans Sex Life Primer by Athol Kay after consuming the sidebar posts. Start lifting yesterday, 50% of your final grade depends on your lifting stats.

[–]Red_Ninja7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks. Just got it and will read.

[–]suprathepeg2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sidebar, lift

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

My wife doesn't turn me down for sex, but I'd like to see her more into it.

This is typically not a good use of Dread Game. Dread games turns the "No, my vagina is precious and you can't have it" to "yes, I want you to take my precious vagina before somebody else throws a tighter and wetter one at you." It does NOT make a woman more horny, more likely to have an orgasm, or anything of the sort.

You know what does increase desire? LIFT MOTHERFUCKER! LIFT! Be a strong, solid, consistent leader. Screw her like a horny porn star. Throw her around and dominate her while you screw her good. Get her close to orgasm before you take her like a caveman.

should I continue going for the CIM/anal every so often

Only if you want, and only if you don't mind getting shot down. We don't have enough data to determine if Advanced Dread Game will convince a denying wife to perform your oral and anal creampies but I would not be surprised. However, it is not going to make her cum while she blows you or experience an anal orgasm. That requires you to be skilful and attractive.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


Some Hard Core Red guys claim thermonuclear dread made their wives horny as a toad.

Level 12 is 'Tell your wife about your cheating ways. She can leave or follow or get out of the way. You don't care.'

Apparently, some wives choose that moment to finally open the floodgates. I suspect this may work best for the Alpha guy with his pick of the litter who has been beta-ized by the wife. The wife turns from contempt/disrespect to that sudden eagerness to please that only comes with respect. Who knew?

[–]Red_Ninja7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


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