Ok so I'm starting to OMS as much as I think I should be. Been telling wife "do this x thing" instead of asking as a question or doing it myself. Small things. But to be honest, there's just some things I do not like doing, don't care about the outcome or I am not as good at as she is. She handles the finances (I work, she is SAHM) so to me it makes sense she spends the time at home doing that and is better at it than I am. So I delegate it to her but I see many times that MRP suggests the man handles it. Besides finances, there are other things I just don't care about the outcome of said decision and trust her to handle it (I know what this sounds like but I feel like this arrangement works) but if I truly don't care and can tell her to do whatever she prefers, I feel like this is still in my frame. I'm getting conflicted because I read alot here that I need to be deciding this and that and everything in between but when is it overkill or even controlling?