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The new set of rules and the importance of frame

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September 12, 2018
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I am currently getting my Masters in counseling, and I’m in the middle of a class for Counseling couples. 

From a RP lens, I can’t help but think about how Rollo writes about BP men acting in relationships based on the “old books, or the old set of rules.  The teachings and lessons in my current counseling class are mostly based on those old set of rules, but as a Rollo says, women are playing by the “new book,” or the new set of rules. Men who are still playing by the old set of rules will be in for a rude awakening sooner or later, often after its too late and the marriage contract is in effect. Then, they may begin to see their woman acting differently, and this is very confusing to the BP man. He sees his woman "changing," but really what he is seeing is her following the new book of rules in a more open manner.

I don’t see it with any anger anymore.  The anger phase has come and gone, but that doesn't mean I don't get angry sometimes. It's just, I very rarely get butt hurt anymore. I've become glad that I see it how it is.  The truth is women love opportunistically, and based on their current mood, which can change in an instant.  They will throw all these rules (that they teach us in my counseling classes) out the door in the heat of an argument.  That is just part of the new book, so it doesn't surprise me anymore. As a matter of fact, it often amuses me. When I get amused by her trying to push my buttons, A&A and AM have all but become the default, and she will often laugh along with me.... Why? Because she knows its just a game, and the fact that I "get it" allows her to laugh along with me. This is what they mean when they talk about the man having such a strong frame that it is like a container. The woman is drawn to that strong container, and she fills the container that the man lives. To boil it down, she is often living in my frame instead of the other way around.

My oneitis is pretty much gone, but if I'm not diligent and careful, I can easily fall back into her frame... because remember gentlemen... the shit tests never end.... and you don't want them to. If the shit tests end, that is a signal of indifference or apathy, and also signals a lack of dread. Passive dread is an ongoing factor in the successful RP man's life, and it is a healthy dread. If she's feeling dread, she still sees you as attractive and fuckable, and that turns her on. She won't admit it, but trust me, the fact that she initiates as much or more than me confirms that actions speak louder than words.

Getting back to the class: They talk about communication and blah blah blah... but when it comes down to it (in the real world) women will fight dirty, and all of these teachings about proper “communication “ are really just buzz words to keep the beta males on task. AM and A&A are my go to's, and I don't take her serious enough to have a conversation about "communication." Also, it will bore her to death and dry up her pussy like a hair dryer on a summer day in the Arizona desert.

That’s why FRAME is so important. I’ve been on hard-mode almost daily for over 2 years, and hardly anything she can say or do has an effect for longer than 10 minutes, if that anymore. More times than not, if I do lose frame, and it does happen occasionally, I will quickly regain it and simply say "lets just drop it. It really doesn't matter." End of conversation. If she tries to prod and continue the argument, I just go broken record... "lets just drop it. It really doesn't matter..." because you know what... it really doesn't matter. Life has become simplified in that way. It doesn't mean I have a drama-free relationship with my wife, it just means I control the flow of drama and start it and end it how I wish. Any drama happens in my frame.

Now, I get “ I love you sooooo much” with that old loving look in her eyes.  I love seeing that, but I don't base my happiness on it, and I realize it can be completely different tomorrow, or even 10 minutes later... and that's OK. Frame has to be internalized to get there, and faking it will only expose you as a fraud, so I don't buy into the "fake it till you make it" on the subject of frame. Just try to build your frame, and be genuine. **STFU until you can build your frame strong enough** to implement A&A and AM. These should be genuine and come naturally with time and lots of effort.


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Title The new set of rules and the importance of frame
Author BobbyPeru
Upvotes 26
Comments 15
Date 12 September 2018 06:41 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204033
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[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good post man.

“proper “communication “ are really just buzz words to keep the beta males on task.”

Still laughing. So very true.

[–]IRunYourRiver1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. It's a little tripwire. If you fall, the zombies eat your testicles.

[–]yes_kid4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nicely done .

[–]jkp992 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Which of the books from sidebar help most with A&A, and what was AM again? I’m working my way through the sidebar, currently reading Sexgod Method and Book of Pook, read Superior Men and NMMNG. Any help on priorities would be very appreciated. Frame is hard to develop if you aren’t used to it.

Thank you for the post!

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Which of the books from sidebar help most with A&A, and what was AM again?

Practice helped more than any book. Also, with a strong frame, it just comes naturally. However, The subtle art of not giving a fuck is a good book to not take things so seriously, which creates a mood for AM and A&A

[–]jkp991 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

AM - Amused Mastery. The fact that you couldn't find the answer to this question on your own makes me wonder how much work and effort you are actually putting into this shit. Stop being lazy.

[–]jkp991 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Point taken. Thank you.

[–]IRunYourRiver1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

How did you make it through a modern degree in counseling with RP knowledge? What were the best fights you had with your instructors?

[–]Carpenter48751 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was wondering the same thing...

[–]catchpull0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I am also wondering how this works out. Damn, I’d love to have a RP male marriage counseling session or three with wife.

[–]IRunYourRiver1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

First Rule of Fight Club prevents this.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How did you make it through a modern degree in counseling with RP knowledge? What were the best fights you had with your instructors?

LAW 38 - think as you like, but behave like others

It wasn’t easy at times. The closest I got to a fight was I called out an instructor on my grade in a Subtle way. It actually worked, but one other time it backfired pretty badly.
The important part is I can implement RP when possible in my practice.

[–]IRunYourRiver0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Make everything 1984 and you do just fine. Good advice.

I'm guessing you never uttered the phrase "hypergamic imperative".

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

From a RP lens, I can’t help

I bet you can.

Rollo writes about BP men acting in relationships based on the “old books, or the old set of rules. The teachings and lessons in my current counseling class are mostly based on those old set of rules,

Ha! Like I said. This is vital information to know for any Red Piller considering "marriage counseling."

Rollo says, women are playing by the “new book,” or the new set of rules. Men who are still playing by the old set of rules will be in for a rude awakening

And to prepare men for that "rude awakening" you are supposed to FEEEL your partner's pain and reflect back what they are saying to you so you can be sure they feel understood and appreciated. Obviously.

the fact that I "get it" allows her to laugh along with me.

Beautiful...beautiful. Magnificent desolation.

Marriage counselor's talk about communication and blah blah blah... but when it comes down to it (in the real world) women will fight dirty, and all of these teachings about proper “communication “ are really just buzz words to keep the beta males on task.

I always say a bell rings and an angel in heaven gets his wings when another man takes the Red Pill.

Marriage counseling does work- for the marriage with the cheating, Chad Alpha male and his long suffering wife because that is what the SJW's assume every relationship is like. MRP deals with the low sex/sexually withdrawing/lost attraction wife and marriage counseling makes that situation worse most of the time.



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