35, 5'7", 154lbs, married 8 yrs, redpilled 9 months.
SO 39, 5'4", (wont get on scales)lbs
to refresh your memories im the guy that hasn't had sex for 4 years, not proud of this just highlighting the level of beta'ism we are dealing with here.
Recently things have been going well, Another woman flirted with me in front of the wife we went to a family wedding where a lot of people commented on how happy and more outgoing i am... as well as the 4 inches i'm missing on my waste. This pissed her off and she spent the rest of the wedding day sitting with the old folk complaining about the loud music... despite my best efforts to get her to dance (I found someone else).
My wife complains a lot about her health (infections, tiredness, weird lumps on neck) normally I would just comfort it... but a few times recently i jokingly suggest "we should go and get her put down so i can upgrade to a younger model or you can just go to the doctor like a normal person would".
So she calls the doctors and they want to see her to do a physical checkup.. she also says the doctor said "it sounds like you are coming up to that time in life (menopause)" I just STFU and go sleep.
This morning i start getting angry in my head im prepping for this being another shitty excuse and she can pull out the "menopause card any time i try and get intimate with her" the reality is she could need treatment (HRT) that might actually help her. Initially i thought about going with her to the doctors or reminding her that "i need sex to be in a relationship and this better not be an excuse" this sounds lame.
how do i handle this, im thinking with my less angry head on:
- This is her problem.. support where needed and DNGAF
- if i get the "i cant have sex with you anymore line"... "that's great.. i wont bother you for sex anymore"
- stay plan is the go plan
- again if she categorically states that she cannot be intimate with me due to health reasons, our marriage ends if we cannot find a compromise that works.. im committed on this but i dont think she realises this yet.