Recommending Japanese rope bondage

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September 4, 2018

Started to take the pill about 6 weeks ago and though it keeps getting stuck on the way down my retching beta throat I’ve started, started, to get somewhere.

I’m lifting, STFU-ing and reading, and though I still consistently fail shit and comfort tests, I’ve started to at least realise what’s happening, even if I often realise too late. Frame improving, in that I now have a tiny, really shitty frame, which is better than no frame at all.

Biggest improvements have been with sex. It was never a horrendous problem, but could certainly have been better. 1-3 a week, on average. Since being more open and confident in my sexuality it’s more or less daily.

Thought I’d try to give back to the community a bit with a recommendation: Japanese rope bondage (also known as Shibari). I’ve Googled to see if it’s come up here before but can’t see anything.

Obviously if you’re not having any sex with your wife this is going to be a hard sell, but it’s worth considering if you want to push things a bit further.

Here’s why it’s worked for me:

  • Submissive wife (AWALT) so being tied up already a turn-on for her.
  • Ropes are manly. Tying knots is manly.
  • While restrained she can allow things to happen and rationalise it as nothing to do with her. Means that lots of things she’s not usually comfortable with (e.g. oral, anal) are fine when she can’t easily move out the way.
  • Compared to other forms of BDSM, rope bondage is more aesthetic. Doesn’t seem cheap or tawdry. Women seem to like it.
  • Allows an opportunity for the male to show competence if he knows his way around a couple of ties (see below).
  • Allows for female hamstering and dread over quite how he knows this stuff…

Getting started:

  • You can buy ropes on Amazon. Just search for bondage rope and look for something well reviewed. You’re going to need 2-3. Hemp recommended. The coloured ones start looking a bit tatty pretty quickly.
  • This video is a great start. It’s easy, and looks good.
  • You can also do this rope bra, and (depending on the size of your wife) use the ends to do the dragonfly tie shown in the previous video.
  • This crotch tie is very very easy. Suggest you include the optional knot near the clit for extra stimulation. The ends can then be used to tie ankles to the bed.
  • Explore from there. E.g. this leg restraint.

Anyway - this has worked very well for me. Hope someone else out there can get some benefit.

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Title Recommending Japanese rope bondage
Author monkey__harris
Upvotes 22
Comments 10
Date 04 September 2018 02:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

I started getting into shibari a couple months ago. Bought a couple of books. Wife and I have attended a couple of local groups, and we found it fun.

She loves getting tied and fucked. She doesn't like getting her chest bound, unfortunately, due to issues with hampered breathing, but she is game for almost anything else. Even though she describes herself as a delicate flower, she can deal with being tied, thrown, pushed, and pressed into. One must be a responsible rope thrower though. Dominance doesn't mean not giving a shit about what the bottom feels.

She particularly loves a crotch tie that is done in such a way that it spreads her ass cheeks when she bends over - so that's a lot of fun, too.

Something a little different I've tried is using smaller diameter paracord to bind up her feet individually - she loves it.

We've only used cotton rope at home so far - it's very soft - but have tried hemp at the groups I mentioned and we both agree we want to get some and use it occasionally.

As you say, most women are submissive and shibari feeds well into that.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

most women are submissive and shibari feeds well into that

All women are. You just have to be the Alpha they will submit too.

[–]DanceMonkeeDanceRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Love the aesthetic, but don't have the patience. Mrs. Monkee has responded well to my feeble attempts.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It does require patience, and sometimes mine is lacking. For the experience, it's important to pay attention to what the bottom is feeling, including when tying and untying. Keep tension, be aware of the rope pull speed vs burn speed, keep contact with your bottom, and communicate when needed.

My wife finds the act of tying and untying at least as important as being bound. She likes the feel of the rope moving against her skin - the balance of pressure, pain, and smooth caress.

[–]monkey__harris[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Like the sound of that crotch tie. Thanks for the tips. Will explore further.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've found that for me, once I learned the basics and had a few ideas of what makes contemporary shibari ties, it works best to use those basic components to create a freestyle method of tying, to see where it goes - as opposed to trying to recreate a specific tie you see in a book.

It's important to have knowledge of pressure points when doing this.

[–]RedPillCoach2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

When doing rope bondage it is important to have a knife or scissors immediately available to free her. Muscle cramps are very much a turnoff! Even if your girl is a pain slut who cums while being whipped (is that really a thing?) You don't want that kind of pain.I

As any dom site will explain, the sub is under your control which means her welfare is completely your responsibility. I think that is half the turn on for them so read up, so it is safe and take the precautions to be sure your woman is safe!

[–]Esinem0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

There are loads of tutorials etc. on my YouTube channel If you want to go into in a lot further, my partner and I have created over 40 multi-media tutorials on

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

​I love educational videos. Especially ones with a hot chick tie a rope bra for herself.

I've been reading up recently on Domestic Discipline and while it has it's merits - I think this would be a lot more fun.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Finally. Something worth up-voting.

Nice job!

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