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Fun sex to shit test harpy

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August 17, 2018
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I went from telling her to have lingerie on for me when I got home (she did and had a good time ) to 4 days later having a shit test about blowjobs. (It’s all you want blah blah song and dance we all know). She was giving way too much LMR so I told her to stop talking and get on her knees. Seemed like a reasonable request to me.

In my head when she makes up this bs all I can think of is don’t negotiate and don’t argue. I sit there autistic afraid to DEER.

How does shit change so quickly? Is the anti slut up from the good time we had earlier in the week? Went caveman but I failed this go round. Its hard not to defend when she really exaggerates the blowjob frequency. Like come on, chapstick stock would be through the roof If you were giving them as much as you think you are.

EDIT: taking a step back this of course is a matter of frame. When I mentioned LMRs I’m talking over 10 minutes worth. I let myself get drawn into her frame and became the orbiter waiting for some sex which of course no shit she’s not going to let me call any shots.

TAKEAWAY: set the boundary. 1-2 LMRs no longer than a minute or two based on circumstance. Then I bounce onto the next thing maybe she’ll get fucked another time.


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Title Fun sex to shit test harpy
Author mtwinemn
Upvotes 7
Comments 37
Date 17 August 2018 03:02 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204098
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/97yry6/fun_sex_to_shit_test_harpy/
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[–]QuickieStart12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy

Track her cycle. It's like clockwork. Great sex tonight. Harpy tomorrow. Harpy time is frame practice. I look at it that way now. No Deering. Let her harp and do your thing.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret5 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

This right here.

Game...Game....think about it.

How much thought goes into deer hunting? Fishing?

But remember, when you are the most attractive thing in the field, they will come to you.

Fishing with dynamite.

Spontaneous, enthusiastic blowjobs are on their way.

She will up her performance, when you..

Up YOURS.

Track her cycle.

Hunt at dusk.

Fish at night with a flashlight.

Use soap embedded with pheromones.

You know...

CHEAT!

And then, fuck her good.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Shark week coming up in the next couple days.

[–]Cam_Winston213 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shark week coming up in the next couple days.

tl;dr

My wife has PMS

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I ‘duty fucked’ my wife at the beginning of shark week.

She specifically requested I fuck her, said it was my duty, the day before she really started flowing to ‘relieve the pressure and stir it all up to get it moving’...that’s a direct quote.

But, you do you.

I did me,

And her.

[–]RedPillCoach2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You have to be fully and completely into it or it doesn't count. That's what the guys tell me on duty sex from women so it must be true for guys also? Or maybe it is not true in any case whatsoever? That's where my money lies.

Early period bangs don't just stir up that messy pot. It introduces prostglandins to ease the cramping walls and introduces Testosterone that directly counteracts some of the Estrogen and Progesterone that is causing the pain and cramping.

Sex is good for you! Who knew?

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow.

Science behind the feels...

Awesome.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What? A woman is an uncooperative bitch right before her period? There should be some name for this Syndrome that occurs Pre-Menstrual.

[–]jeromeantoinecarter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Glow" app is what I use to track my GFs cycle. Opened my eyes to how true the emotional swings follow the cycle.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

shit change quickly

Find the post on score keeping and money in the bank. Dont think it is on the side bar. Still is required reading.

Women do not keep score like men and your deposits into the bank are worthless.

Just cause she was a whore this morning, does not mean she will be tonight.

[–]CaptJohnLukeDiscard1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

“Your deposits in the bank are worthless” is nearly as good of advice as “you are the prize” for newbs. Jack10 did the full gambit but that’s such a good topic it could be revisited by itself again and again.

[–]helaughsinhidden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Truth!

[–]helaughsinhidden4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hey, I just noticed the username. Aren't you engaged to get married soon and came from a place of being an huge beta pussy? Sounds like you have implemented some changes and it is working. Let me say in addition to the other comments here that she isn't going to immediately trust your leadership. She is responding but is trying to see if this is legitimate or just a flash in the pan. You should really think of some one liners before you come home too, her shit tests are child's play compared to my wife.

she really exaggerates the blowjob frequency

*smiles* Daddy like! *quick kiss on forehead*

I told her to stop talking and get on her knees

I think the assumption here is that it didn't work. If you don't sell this as serious, you are being degrading in her mind. NEVER make a blowjob or sex seem degrading work. If you did this while smiling a huge toothy ear to ear grin and took your pants down and held up the microphone so she could sing, it might have worked out for you. Don't do it half ass, show any fear of rejection, or give off a pissed off vibe as that will trigger her slut shame feelz. Never slut shame by the way, always reward that shit.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ya. Made huge strides in short time but still along way to go. Mostly to stop taking the shit tests personally. Some days deflection comes second nature other days I’m a punching bag.

Got caught up in an alpha victory or moment a few days earlier and thought I had control. I was serious about my request (probably too serious) but it was still taken as demanding (her words) maybe even degrading.

Next time I need to make it more fun.

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Buy more flowers?

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

60% of the time, it works every time.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

“How does shit change so quickly?”

Classic post shit test.. testing your frame, testing to see if you’re the same alpha cocky asshole that told her to have lingerie on when she got home and who she just fucked, confirming her decision to fuck you and whether it was a mistake or not -buyers remorse..

You failed it. Next time she says that “that’s all you want bla bla “ just AA - I also want anal (with a smile). Dont take it serious.

Also:

“(It’s all you want blah)”

Only beta husbands get shamed like that. It will get better when your SMV improves.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Got wrapped up in my earlier alpha victory and validation that RP Is working.

Expected that after one really good situation, even trying new things (toys) would make blowjobs seem like a non issue. Expectations suck. Or another covert contract. Either way im stuck

[–]helaughsinhidden1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Got wrapped up in my earlier alpha victory and validation that RP Is working.

Alpha victories last as long as your post nut glow. Then it's right back to the game. MRP is not a destination you reach, but a path you choose to follow.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Got to get better at making a joke of this.

I didn’t hard initiate for 3-4 days since lingerie. Sure I gamed and flirted but didn’t escalate. I was busy and didn’t feel like it.

Got hit with this left hook and didn’t see it coming. TKO

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Feelz be fluid as fuck, have to be on point with your game (inner game and outlook on life) at all times or you’ll get hit with that left hook when not paying attention. Tap you out.

“wrapped up in my earlier alpha victor”

This is the long game faggot. Read my post on Game Theory.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You didn't give her a footrub like she wanted, did you.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No and I didn’t ask her about her day.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

You failed a standard shit test. She sensed your weakness.

It’s that simple.

A&A or AM would have worked with an ass slap.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Froze up. Had nothing clever to say just whiney bitch thoughts. I fake chuckled emphasis on fake.

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

*Big grin* Sorry, babe I wasn't listening. *coy laugh* You know how you look too fucking cute and sexy when you get all worked up like this and it distracts me, then you said blowjob and that made my dick tingle *walking towards her* .... Shit, I am completely lost now. What did you say? I think you were asking for a glass of wine right? *finger massage on the back of her head* Or was it a bottle of whip cream?

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s all good but he choked. It just takes time to build frame

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take it as a lesson and keep building your frame

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

The question shouldn't be "why did this happen?" but rather "why do you care?"

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

This is a good point. I care because her accounting is so off it’s downright fraudulent and it pisses me off. Otherwise i don’t have a good answer.

[–]helaughsinhidden0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Just said this in another post. WOMEN REWRITE HISTORY. It's what they do. Don't hate them for it and don't try to reconcile the books. Update your belief system instead. Each time she is acting up, assume she really needs some good dick but is embarrassed to ask for it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. Don't fight their instinct to rewrite history. Instead, be the man who makes her rewrite history in your favor.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“I don’t suck your dick enough” that’s rewriting in my favor. I suppose more acta is the prescription

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I sit there autistic afraid to DEER

What are you afraid of man? are you afraid she will leave You?

Do you need her for something?

You don't deer because you can't beat the hamster. It's like playing chess with a pigon, even if you were to win, the pigon is just going to shit on the chessboard and strut arroud like it won the game.

You done deer because it doesn't move you closer to anything that resembles a better position.

What's your mission? What keeps you up late and gets you up early? If your drivin by another goal that actually makes you better in some capacity, you have other shit to think about. Not analyze your wife's behavior and your reaction in retrospect. Wasting time thinking about your wife should piss you off because it's taking away from your mission .

Having a mission drops your fucks about shit like this to 0.

If you fucked up and it cost you a bit, it's not a failure, there is nothing to fear. There is only feedback and potential for personal growth.

If your afraid of something like paying a price for deering when you should've shut your trap, you need to reflect on that. Not what you said or how she received it. Your focusing on the wrong shit. Why do you freeze up? Answering that has value and loads of growth. Picking apart a specifics is worthless because the freezing up and being autistic behaviour pattern is going to effect all of your interactions with her. Fix that!

I'm not flaired and I write all my own prescriptions and I cut my own hair. Consider that when taking my advice.

Alao, they are all more responsive when they are ovulating.

[–]mtwinemn[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yes the ovulation is a big indicator as she was just wrapping up ovulation on the lingerie example.

You asked “why do you freeze up?” The answer is simple. I don’t view myself as the prize enough, validation, and taking this shit (or her reaction) way too seriously. Add all those up the answer is confidence. Although I confidently and somewhat playfully told her to shut up and start sucking, when she didn’t and went harpy on me I lost it all.

In my head “she shouldn’t refuse me. Just the other day she was ready for banging just like I told her. Why is she hung up on bjs. Why doesn’t she respect me”. -I WAS QUICKLY IN HER FRAME. MINE WAS/IS WEAK. No OI.

I just read another post about “just because you kino doesn’t mean it’s not a covert contract”. This speaks to the bigger picture. Again I got caught with expectations/covert contracts/validation/getting pulled into her frame.

Do things because I want to and because they’re fun. If she wants to be a lameass during sex that’s her problem. Caveman and bounce. As posted in my edit...I also orbited around waiting for her. Another mistake.

I don’t know what my mission is. I’m trying to apply RP. OYS by keeping my gym routine. Fixing my house. Finish projects I start. Learning what’s worth my time and what’s worth my money. Keeping my budget.

In a sentence my mission would/should be: Living more positive, having fun, and OI. I’ve been very boring trying to keep everything in my life in its right and correct spot.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a solid list of other shit to think about instead of your wife. Defiantly do all that.

Work on You, forget her, let her hamster think.

In my head “she shouldn’t refuse me. Just the other day she was ready for banging just like I told her. Why is she hung up on bjs. Why doesn’t she respect me”. -I WAS QUICKLY IN HER FRAME. MINE WAS/IS WEAK. No OI.

Don't get caught up in shit in the moment. The success i have had (just me, sample size of one here) has been from letting go, saying what I want (sometimes that's NOT stfu) and just doing a replay of the day in my head while I'm passing out. Critiquing my shit. If something really interesting bubbles up I'll journal about it and reflect. You have to own the shit you say though. Not here, to us, none of us really give a fuck, you have to own it in the world.

I don't know where I read it or heard it so I can't give them their props but I love this paraphrased quote.

There are no failures in life, only feedback.

Your wife is giving you feedback, nothing more. You need it to progress and grow. Try and work the levers in your head so you can marginalize it and then maby the fear will dissipate. As you get better you will just be better in the moment. I suck at explaining myself.

I'm just a guy on the internet. No flair. Take my advice with a shot of test cyp.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The usual. Track her cycle and stop being butthurt.



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