Background: Deployed; SBX notified I'm coming home to empty house and "trial separation". Papers are being drawn.

Foreground: This weekend I was invited out to a gathering with a few coworkers. Didn't know anybody else but the group was lively.

There were a couple HB7s there that caught my eye but were crazy expats. Spent the entire time working the crowd and working on opening up conversations.

The main host was an HB7 that was a firecracker to the say the least. She apparently decided she wanted my number the moment I walked in.

I have to say I have been looking pretty good and getting IoIs since I have been cutting a bit. I provide her my number with a DGAF attitude because while I am open to plates right now I am not, if that makes sense.

We dance and do all that stuff. She drops some things like "We will have to wait as it is mother nature" and all this TMI shit that "I tell her to stop that shit" which catches everybody off guard as apparently no one ever clapped back at her but I keep it C&F.

Next day she blows my phone up. I setup a casual date with 30 minutes of coffee. While at coffee she starts going into LTR talk, talking about her X from years past, her miscarriage, and all this other shit that I am just taking in and being like "This bitch is crazy"

She was blunt but did the "I feel like you are so open and blah blah blah". She is a whole lot of crazy and I think old me would haven't seen it as I would been like Captain Save-a-THOT.

She wanted me to go home with her but I declined and said lets play by ear. I will have to say that it was weird to go out for coffee but with a DGAF attitude it was something enjoyable. I look forward to getting back and working the scene.

SBX visits family: Since we are still together my father and grandma wanted the SBX and my daughter to visit them in the mountains.

Apparently everything went well and it was very cordial until the last day. My father told me that they started talking about the us and this and that. SBX bounced around it but answered the questions vaguely.

The topic eventually got to our situation and my father was upfront and was asked what would cause her to make this decision. <Note my father is slight RP in some views>. SBX goes on for about 20 minutes about how she is this, that, and everything. How she can stand on her own two feet etc. My father asked "You didn't think of anyone else did you, Is there someone else?" Which SBX denied but my father had noted how SBX was on her phone throughout the visit smiling and laughing etc, and it wasn't me.

Father then stated SBX started crying about the whole situation and SBX stated that I haven't reached out and my reaction seems like I don't care about the pursuing her.

SBX stated that she thinks I am cheating on her, and increasing my SMV (Projection). My father said he ended the convo with "You have your actions, and he has his. It's between you two but you will be the mother to my granddaughter forever and it's time to be responsible" (Paraphrased) but I have to say that the hamster is spinning up. It is if Rollo had written this play before it happened or something like that. I am amused at it but still as the day gets closer I will need to hold frame and move forward with my MAP and gameplan.

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As I go through this; how is it to balance the “Shes the mother of my child, yet my SBX” without going Rambo and causing shit to hit the fan and worse problems. SBX will be having the hamster running marathons and yet how does one not be callous working through this?