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Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?

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July 24, 2018
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Gents,

In the never ending story that is soon to end I am finding myself nearly in a constant state of amusement. Is this the point with DNGAF and AM is obtained when dealing with my SBX. I am OYS in every aspect for my arrival. -Reviewed the separation papers that are a solid win for me based on the prenup that she signed. Running the numbers, minimal costs to me. -Found my short term rental in young professional haven (Read cuties right out of college, and nurses for the two hospitals around) -Found my new OLY and CF gym that is nearby -Joined a Touch Rugby Team that is actively recruiting (Concussions don't allow for OG Rugby) -Turned a business trip back on after I orginally cancelled it to be home with the wife. -Picking out all my dad-pad furniture and excited as hell for some reason. -Reconnecting with old friends in the new city and planning trips/events during my return. -All the other stuff for a new exciting life.

The perceived hangup that I have is that when I am communicating with the SBX I am finding myself mentally just laughing at the situation due to what the RP has taught me.

This woman stated 1.5 month ago that she couldn't stand me and bought a home to leave me, and yet she is reaching out more than ever before and being more engaged.

This might be because she didn't get the reaction she thought she would get from BP me (groveling, take me back, I'll do anything etc, hopeless romantic BS). I am taking as much action as I can from out of country to clean everything up (Sell two homes, legal issues, etc) and driving the problem.

Our convos are always logistic and about my daughter. SBX started to talk about her new job and this and that and I brought it back to my daughter. I really don't care about her new job but I was keeping it cordial so as not to get ugly during the divorce.

I believe that she thinks I am still entertaining the "trial separation" and her plan, but overall how should one keep this amusement in check as the hamster spins, trips and falls, when her "plan" goes to shit?


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Title Amused in killing the puppy...is this wrong?
Author broneilbro
Upvotes 8
Comments 22
Date 24 July 2018 12:23 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204172
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/91gwsm/amused_in_killing_the_puppyis_this_wrong/
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[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Just stay as NC as possible. Keep it about the kids.

My SBX is going through a phase right now where every single day I get a text message attempting to pick a fight about something. The silence drives her crazy.

She was blowing me up last night while I was simultaneously setting up a date with a hot 28 yo Friday night.

Your reality is what you make it brother...

[–]ex_addict_broRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

My SBX is going through a phase

This ain't phase.

... and, to make my comment more useful, OP - here's an advice. It was u/88will88 IIRC, who proposed the best possible strategy: be her friend. Look it up.

If she's mental, just go no contact. If there are kids, low contact. Don't call, don't pick it up, texts and e-mails - less fights, cleaner head, more relaxed in front of 28 yr olds

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have memorized the post you speak of. It is golden.

What I meant by “phase” is that it is clearly becoming more overt on her part. To the point it is actually funny to see her try so hard to make me mad. And she cant.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Overall...sounds like you're doing great. Sounds like a fun life coming up.

And though you are handling all of your STBX with amused mastery...I question whether you are serious about a question on "how to keep amusement in check" meaning you need guidance on your emotional state of mind from random guys, or whether the repeated updates are you using askMRP as a poorly masked crutch for validation of your situation.

Own your situation. Write a fantastic FR at the end.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed about validation and request. I thought the same thing posting it but RP readings are well and said but wanted to see what were actual experiences of those and the outcomes.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I question whether you are serious about a question on "how to keep amusement in check" meaning you need guidance on your emotional state of mind from random guys, or whether the repeated updates are you using askMRP as a poorly masked crutch for validation of your situation.

To me it isn't validation, so much as wanting a reality check. Sort of like a Captain consulting his sextant, or a pilot consulting his gauges. It doesn't mean that he isn't owning his shit, it means he likes to have all of the facts relevant, and needs to know, for sure, where he is at any given time.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Everyone else was amused by its absurdity, this means you're aligned with normal perceptions again.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. I think the actuality of the situation compared to the readings and how they align is what is keeping me amused.

I guess I'll build on that as how do I not come off retarded when I am getting smitten by the whole process?

[–]simbarlionRed Beret2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy

The amusement is from your detachment, and the wall you have built around your emotions. You don't know how big her hammer is yet

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with this. It depends on where this amusement is coming from. Amusement at the joy of watching others suffer? That's a bit disturbing. Amusement at how your frame is unshakeable? Better for sure. Amusement at winning in life? There you go.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Amusement at the joy of watching others suffer? That's a bit disturbing.

This seems like a mischaracterization. It's not like he saw an unknown little girl crying and he started laughing, knowing that she was suffering. It was an evil woman that was taking delight in trying to turn his world upside down.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

That is true. I guess that detachment is the fact that I smirk sometimes thinking about it. I will see how big that hammer is.

Note: Birthday was recent, and all I got was a text...got to love it.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Note: Birthday was recent, and all I got was a text...

This says more than anything else really, under the circumstances. Don't fool yourself.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Are you talking about me and covert contracts or the other thing? I had people I haven't talked to in years reach out and actually have a convo.

Can you clarify?

[–]simbarlionRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

hey, i was just assuming you meant it was your birthday and you just got a text.... My point was that despite the increased amount of communication you have had from her, pleading help and hopelessnes, this is the reality, which is that its all bullshit for her benefit only and she cant even be bothered with a present or phone call.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

haha, gotcha. I didn't know with the way sometimes comments read.

You are exactly right in that sense. Thanks for the clarification. Btw I wasn't expecting anything but damn it was again a nice chuckle.

[–]RedPillCoach1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

First you say this:

when I am communicating with the SBX I am finding myself mentally just laughing at the situation due to what the RP has taught me.

Then this in the very next paragraph:

This woman stated 1.5 month ago that she couldn't stand me and bought a home to leave me, and yet she is reaching out more than ever before and being more engaged.

Do you not see the connection?

how should one keep this amusement in check as the hamster spins, trips and falls, when her "plan" goes to shit?

Why do you want to be less amused. Your reaction is the flip side of hysterical blindness. You have opened your eyes and now you see. You have accepted reality and are relieved. Thus the slightly inappropriate humor which is transposed joy at watching your SBX respond predictably.

Want to really play Daredevil? Start initiating sex when you see her. Don't change the DNGAF. Don't get emotionally involved again. Bust a move. Bust a nut. Pat her on the butt and leave with hardly a word. Your phone will explode as she reconsiders divorcing her husband. I would play along with the whole "trial separation" right up until the judge rules "that the objects of matrimony have been destroyed and there is no reasonable likelihood they can be preserved.

TLDR: Marriage is dead but you can probably plate the wife. Your welcome.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Appreciate the response. When I posted that, it was something new. The fact that this woman was something I craved for now was to me indifferent if she stayed or go. The amusement was something surprising at how easy it to accept it and be like "Is this AA?" you know that meme with the butterfly or something like that.

The past week was great, opened up 3 HBs just to approach. Had an HB7 take me out last night and it was different but as I am sitting there with her I realized AWALT as she started talking some dark shit about her X of 10 years doing X, Y, and Z. It was pretty enjoyable as I realized one thing after another.

Another HB7 that I casually talked with over the course of brunch, near the end of it approached me and just started talking about how American guys are this and that. She wanted to hear my best line. So I through it on heavy. She apparently was with her "BF" who she introduced to me. Later he was nowhere to be seen so I asked her bluntly, where he was. She didn't care. She wanted my number. Gave her my number, and she responded do you want mine. "If you call, fine, if you don't call, fine". She was amazed by the DNGAF. It was fucking poetry in motion.

The wife Facetimed with me as she went to the mountains with my family. I could see how she was trying to run the conversation and once again I told her to put the kid on. It was driving her insane as I hadn't reached out etc. We will see how things go once I get back but I am carrying this momentum forward.

Last - Hit a new PR on DL and Squat after a bout of food poisoning this weekend.

[–]helaughsinhidden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nicely done!

[–]NightFire450 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Recently my SBX texted me saying how infuriating I am. I laughed, you're God Damn right I am.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have any advice, your already killing it. I loved reading your post, it's all you taking action towards a better future. Fuckig fantastic.

[–]FlyingSexistPig0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When you got married, you were the best guy she could get.

Every year since then your SMV has gone up and hers has gone down.

Well done, good sir!



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