CTS: RP 3 mos ago, 5'6" 149, 22%BF
SQ: 200; BP: 125; OHP: 95; ROW: 135; DL 225
Read: WISNIFG, Extreme Ownership, reading NMMNG & RM
Low T (working on naturally for now); No rejections, but few initiations by me
Could call maybe 2 women this weekend; DL 5; 6 more months until I am a man with options
Background: I've finally consulted with an attorney to go over my current situation and how bad things might get should the "go phase" become necessary. One of the main takeaways was that my wife (36) is massively "underemployed" which causes a huge disparity in our income (my income should continue to increase steadily over the next 5 years - kids will all be out in 6) and means I will get fucked on alimony, etc. This is of course my fault, and I have actually encouraged her to be a SAHM and "artist" for most of our marriage. She has had some of her own businesses that have earned some income, and is currently in a part-time retail job, but never anything consistent or approaching a career. She does have a college degree and no mental or physical disabilities. We have at times in the past talked about her getting an actual job, but have always settled on her "pursuing her passion" and taking care of the kids. I pull my weight with taking care of the kids, and while she does take them to Dr appts etc. during the day when I am at work, the rest of the burden is at least equally shared.
I brought it up to her last night in the context of our kids getting older and not needing her to shuttle them around as much, and she reacted fairly defensively, but followed up this morning with a text stating she was more receptive to the idea, but has no clue what kind of work she can do. I told her that I would brainstorm some ideas.
Question: Have any of you had any luck transitioning your wife from SAHM (or even just lazy) to becoming an earner/contributor? I wasn't particularly artful in how I brought it up, so I need some better ideas on persuasion here. I did tell her that I did not think she needed to spend so much of her time being available for the kids and that I would like her to contribute more to our income, especially since the kids will be gone in a few years.