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Wow. Just starting out and the shit testing is heavy.

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July 18, 2018
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Background:. Started with red pill about 3 weeks ago and things were moving along pretty good with her reacting well. She was basically begging me for the last 2 years not to be a blue pill bitch and I didn't see it because everybody around me tells me the exact opposite. the last three nights have been great up until the time we are getting ready for bed and there's a massive shit test. Last night I blue pill bitch out and leave and but a pack of cigarettes, damn it, been done with them for months. Then come back and she is still shitty. Go to sleep. In the morning she drives 20 minutes out of her way about an hour before she has to be to work to give me something I forgot at home without me asking. Felt good about that.

Incident:. Tonight we take my daughter and my son to dinner at their request and come home and begin to watch one of the shows were watching at her request. I feel like it is time she wants to spend together. One of her high needs friends calls her twice but she won't tell me who is calling her she just kills the phone call without answering. Then the high need friend calls my phone and I show her and she shakes her hand of the phone which I think means answer it but she really meant don't. After I get off the phone and she's yelling at me that I shouldn't have"fucking answered the phone when she said not to"etc. I don't do disrespect anymore in the last 3 weeks not even one bit so I got my gym clothes on because the choice earlier was either watch a show with my wife go to the gym and I went to the fucking gym for leg day. Come home and get shit tested again and STFU and go to the other room. Come back after 15 minutes to watch television where I want to and the comfort/shit tests begin

Sidenote:. Everyone is going to shit all over me for this for stereotypes, but it's my situation and not some bullshit. I'm a white dude married to a black woman. So the dynamic is very twisted. The expectation from her is abandonment and cheating and she is very very Alpha from the start since she was a single mother of 4 for years after her ex went to prison. Sounds racist? IDGAF, it's my reality.

So the comfortshit test is her yelling at me about how there's something wrong with me lately and then switching to she knows I'm cheating on her. She's certain. And crying about what is it that it's wrong with her. I laugh it off and she just gets fucking pissed. Saying everything is a joke to me and that she's tried to get her medication upped since she is sad all the time, them sobbing and saying to leave her alone etc. What a fucking mess. Tells me I'm such an asshole for being flippant and that she will talk to me when I'm sober (4 beers). She's a mess. So I sit with her and pat her shoulder, (tried to hold her but she shoved me away) and tell her she's awesome and it's too bad she's sad all the time but I can't fix that and that when it all works out she will be just fine. That everything will be ok. Then she passes out.

Conclusion:. What in the actual FUCK? A lot of this shit is right along the lines of what everyone has described here, but in the raw it's like the difference in watching a shootout in a movie and in real life. Good Lord.

Question: No question. I'm just totally in her frame worried she is going to freak out and leave me since she thinks I'm cheating on her. Still starfish once a week though? How the fuck is she not just fucking my brains out if she wants to keep me? Hey dread level that high and she's shit testing me? As I write this I realize the whole you're cheating on me is dread, but it's manipulation too. They are crazy. All of them.


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Title Wow. Just starting out and the shit testing is heavy.
Author witnessthenomorebp
Upvotes 8
Comments 16
Date 18 July 2018 03:50 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204194
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8zs37q/wow_just_starting_out_and_the_shit_testing_is/
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[–]CrippleSlap9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to the club. Your life will never be the same.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are missing the point.

She is fighting not being in love with betabux, that will leave her for the antics, eventually

Your white knighting of the single mom just piles it on. You cannot save her, and unless she wants to grow into the woman you want from your leadership, you are fucked. Black. White. Green DGAF, this is all up to you

By the way this is your life, you decide when you tell her enough of the cunty disrespect That’s called boundaries.

She is panicking about her meal ticket leaving her not her lover dumping her

Grow a set of balls and man up. Do add some comfort, but do tell her you are not going to tolerate the bullshit and then act on it.

As for being in love ? Try this on for size, she is married to a white guy she used to control that is getting his shit together ....... starfish once a week may not do it anymore, but let’s drink enough to pass out to not have to fuck

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get your diet together. Four beers on a weeknight? You sound fat.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

WGAS about her race? You married a woman with four kids who’s ex is in prison. Sounds like the setup of a bad drama.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re 3 weeks in- that’s nothing.

She saw you making changes, and her hamster started- thus... the driving an hour... she was checking on you.

Yes, the dread is high, but not in a good way. You have to mix in some comfort or her wheel will spin off

Her yelling at you was panic, not a shit test. You need to STFU and lift for now.

You think you understand, but you don’t. Take it slow.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're worried she will leave cause she thinks your cheating?

That aside my advice would be to spend some time as you lift and read on improving and stabilising your situation.

Watch her behavior, not what she says. Her starfish tells me she's not that worried you're cheating.

Everything else comes with time if you work through it.

[–]dandar46004 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

she is going to freak out and leave me since she thinks I'm cheating on her.

You're financing raising Chad's children, no way she's leaving you.

How the fuck is she not just fucking my brains out if she wants to keep me?

That's all the effort she needs to put in to keep you.

she is very very Alpha from the start since she was a single mother of 4 for years after her ex went to prison

She's an alpha widow and you're the doughboy that pays for her shit. Anything short of leaving will be wasted effort. Read the sidebar and get your shit together.

[–]youcantdenythat2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's like you're asking how to bench press 315 when you can only bench 45.

Basically you are in over your head and you probably can't fix it.

Throw away the smokes, stop drinking, work on YOU. Ignore her, give her dread. Stop worrying about comforting her, that's not necessary. Accusing you of cheating is just another shit test. Getting mad when you laugh at her is just another shit test.

The only way to fix this is to realize that you are #1 and you need to work on your mission. Everything else is secondary. If she leaves you would be better off anyway, she's just holding you back. If she comes around, great.

[–]bringbricks1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

the difference in watching a shootout in a movie and in real life

Could have said it better.

My wife is also from a culture when the expectation is that so the nice men are cheaters and some might have a family on the side. My sense is that there are cultural differences indeed. It's a wild ride.

Keep strong. It takes time.

[–]red-pill-man1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I luv comedy.

[–]GroundbreakingDevil1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You wifed up a single mom of 4, who became a single mom because her ex went to prison.

 

I don't care what color she is, that sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen.

 

Do you have any kids with this woman?

If not, make sure you don't.

 

She's probably an Alpha Widow, just based on her demographics and her ex being a convict. At the very least, get ex is certainly more Alpha than you.

She almost certainly consciously picked you because you were different; a safe, controllable option by comparison - the beta provider who will bleed himself dry for her and her kids.

 

Get your shit together Captain Sav-a-hoe, because you're in for a hell of a ride if you mean to stick it out with her.

Most important thing to remember is focus on the process, not the result you want; unfuck yourself for you, not her or your marriage.

 

I'll bet money she'll fight you tooth and nail all the way and will opt to collect what cash and prizes she can before the 1000 ft rope tightens enough to pull her along.

I'd also bet that sooner than later, if your doing the process and your value is rising, you'll as yourself what the fuck you're doing raising another man's kids, with a woman who only values your provisioning, and burn it down to get the fuck out.

 

Unfuck yourself, and go get you some Brown Sugar that doesn't come along with so much baggage.

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She brought you something you forgot at home... you see it as compliance by her, she sees it as "white boy doesn't even own his shit, I better take this to his beta cracker ass so me and my kids' meal ticket thinks I care and doesn't leave us."

Drink less, alcohol isn't good for having important, potentially life altering interactions with an unstable spouse. If you lift, read and don't get sucked into her emotional shit storm, the starfish will die and her freak will come out.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shaking ones hand means 'no', not 'please, give me the phone'. There's another signal for that, and it isn't a shaking.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to the real world.

Yes they are all crazy. Reminds me of a Bible school song- red and yellow black and white, all are crazy in His sight.

Also women rarely leave a man who cheats and almost never leave a man they suspect is cheating. They ramp up the crazy but rarely leave.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“They are crazy predicable.”

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds racist?

lol you won't find many complaining about that here

I'm just totally in her frame worried she is going to freak out and leave me since she thinks I'm cheating on her.

leave her. get a white girl. you're welcome



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