Stats: 6'3 - 240 - 18%- SQ/DL 430 - Bench - 245 < Form related> OHP - 185 - Deployed but going to go for 1000lb club here.
Want to provide an update to the ongoings with SBX, Chad, and deployment.
Per the advice here I have been keeping everything on the logistics side of the house and focused on my daughter. I have a lawyer prepping divorce papers which I will provide to SBX when I get back.
One issue that is sticking with me is the Chad. It's been confirmed but the SBX is unaware that I know about the Chad. I took the advice that she has the high ground and to get my shit in place to attack from ambush so I have been holding off.
I am in the process of getting one of my homes ready to sell. My SBX left some of her stuff there, while most of its mine. I told her I was going to take care of it when I got back but I found out that I am delayed out here so I was moving forward with taking care of it.
Recently had the realtor send over a sales agreement that the wife denied. I called her up to ask "WTF" and I heard the "the plan is changing, I don't know whats going on" which I fogged and said the plan has changed and I am taking care of it. I kept repeating that I was moving forward. She was like "Let me know if you need any help etc, and what I can do blah blah blah"
Anyways with that, I inquired about my weekly FaceTime with my daughter and she brought up the fact that the SBX was going camping. She told me everybody who was going, Chad's friends, friends of Chad, etc etc, but didn't state Chad's name. Oh my...
I started to get amused. I dropped a "Are there kids for our kid to play with" She paused and did "I'm having a babysitter watch her" which I responded with "You are going camping hours away from my daughter and you didn't mention this last week?" Hamster started spinning up talking about how she needs to get away, have some fun time, etc.
That is the point where I wanted to call her out but per the 48 Laws you let them in as close as possible before you strike. I told her to have fun and we'll talk later.
I could hear the guilt bleeding through but my question comes down to this. So I know there is a Chad and the SBX brings him around my daughter and that is the main issue. Wife will deny it but when Chad and SBX are covering their digital footprints this has been played out before. I think the wife is in denial of her affair because she probably doesn't see it that way, but whoa is the hypergamy and the hamster.
Apologize about the length but I'm looking at the best COA for my daughter.
TLDR: Deployed. Wife has a Chad, who she brings around my daughter. Call out now or strike when I get home?