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If your wife becomes terminally ill to where she can’t have sex and needs you to take care of her. What are you going to do?

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July 12, 2018
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Are you sticking it out. Are you remaining loyal. Etc?

This isn’t my situation. I just was speaking to my mother about random shit and this came up in topic and I was curious to what some of you would do?


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Title If your wife becomes terminally ill to where she can’t have sex and needs you to take care of her. What are you going to do?
Author InconspicuousWand
Upvotes 9
Comments 43
Date 12 July 2018 11:13 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/204221
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/8yeqf9/if_your_wife_becomes_terminally_ill_to_where_she/
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[–]askmeanything220 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Want a boatload of extra time?

Never answer or ponder hypothetical questions. Life will give you all the real shit you need to answer to.

To your mom: "That's a tough question, I gotta give that some thought, anyway off to the gym"

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't do hypotheticals, the ARE a waste of time and energy.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stick it out, remain loyal, mourn when she dies, find new hot wife.

[–]genethedog28 points29 points  (15 children) | Copy

My(43) gf (42) has stage 4 cancer. I knew this going in a little more than a year ago. And having had my mother (52) go the same way in 1998 I know full well what I was taking on. Never gave it a second thought. There is a really long story tho. We dated in highschool and she was always my one.

She can still hump, but it's becoming less and less. And it can be frustrating to feel like I put in more than I'm getting out but I knew this was coming too.

I will be there until the end. And it's going to fucking destroy me. But this is my destiny. Always has been, so I accepted the challenges because there was no way I wasn't going to spend whatever time we have left without knowing her again. She's very special.

Then (1991): https://imgur.com/jiQvVgs

Now: https://imgur.com/2fje5vF

[–]rebbit_reddit22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

I respect that. But for God’s sake put the fork down and get to the gym

[–]drty_prRed Beret9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

While I think that's crazy, you seem to know what you want and have fully owned it. That's some masculine shit.

Also, the Ramones even sucked back in 91'

[–]genethedog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

lol

[–]WesternhagenWinner8 points9 points  (9 children) | Copy

1991: you need to lift, bro

Now: you need to lift, bro

[–]genethedog2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

For what? Or should I ask, for whom?

Look I get the whole red pill thing. But I'm mgtow. And one of the major difference is that we don't care if the dude lifts or not and if he doesn't for himself or if he doesn't for chicks or maybe they're all overlapping.

But I'm in reasonably good health. And we're all going to die. It just feels like this you got a lift bro stuff is a little too much pussy hungry for my liking.

I'm not an athlete I'm an academic. It's so help me God if somebody tells me it's for my health.... that's the same shit is Don't drink don't smoke got a lift, Paleo Diet, vegetarian, cut out salt....

I know what I like and I'm going up doing it my way. I swear some of you people think you're going to live/fuck forever of you 'just lift bruh!"...

it's especially weird when that's pretty much the only comment I get on the whole story and everything... I gotta lift? Ha. Whatever.

Next thing you know somebody on here is going to tell me my feelings are hurt.

[–]crimson_chris1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Kudos for staying with your sick LTR. But, you sir are not healthy. MGTOW should not be a excuse for being a fat ass. It's unhealthy. And yeah, we will all die eventually- it's quality of life that counts.

[–]officerkondo1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

for whom?

For yourself.

But I'm mgtow.

Is that why you’ve had the same girlfriend for half your life?

But I'm in reasonably good health.

We can see from your photo that you are not. Please don’t say anything about “blood work”, thanks.

I'm an academic.

Lie. An academic would be smart enough to know that obesity is a huge health risk.

I know what I like and I'm going up doing it my way.

Why not take up cigarettes or crystal meth?

[–]genethedog0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I won't deny you make some good points. But tyranny is the deliberate removal of nuance. You really don't know anything about me, my life my health. I am fully aware that BMI is a pretty good visual indicator of health.

Being physically fit is something that triggers in our brain when looking for a mate. I'm not a 'fat acceptance' / 'fat excuses' guy. I know what I am. And i know what my father was and his father, and my brothers.

Being a big dude does have some roots in nature/genes/DNA, it's not all nurture. And sure, I could battle it out and get 'fit'. As a matter of fact I've been doing quite well because about 3 years ago I was 428. I've lost 100 lbs.

But looking at me in 91 and saying I was fat then is fucking nuts. I wasn't ripped/fit, but I was certainly not obese.

[–]officerkondo1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

You really don't know anything about me, my life my health.

We can see your lack of health in your picture.

I'm not a 'fat acceptance' / 'fat excuses' guy.

Yes, you are a "fat excuses" guy.

Being a big dude does have some roots in nature/genes/DNA, it's not all nurture.

Here is an example of one of those "fat excuses". Another clue is that you say "big dude" instead of "fat dude".

As a matter of fact I've been doing quite well because about 3 years ago I was 428. I've lost 100 lbs.

How could that be possible?! I mean, it's your genes and DNA!

But looking at me in 91 and saying I was fat then is fucking nuts.

I agree, but no one said that.

[–]genethedog0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

lol big kiss You are well spoken, and not 'wrong'. Good for you mate. But you are married. So, there's that.

You've got an "I always win!" Type A personality/attitude. That's cool. You make a great provider of resources. And you are out there slaying pussy too! But it's coming bro. Enjoy it while is lasts. I mean that.

[–]officerkondo1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

But you are married. So, there's that.

I don't understand the purpose of this comment. Do you think being married makes me fat?

You've got an "I always win!" Type A personality/attitude

Yes, it makes my life pretty awesome.

And you are out there slaying pussy too!

Yes, even had FMF/FFM threesomes with my wife. It's a pretty great life.

But it's coming bro. Enjoy it while is lasts. I mean that.

Death comes for us all. But, I will be smashing pussy and drinking to my good health long after you've gone the way of the dodo.

How did you ever get to over 400 lbs, by the way? Did you just give up on life?

[–]genethedog0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I don't understand the purpose of this comment. Do you think being married makes me fat?

Not at all. Just a sucker. And I have a feeling you come to red pill subs to fill a strange hole somewhere in your soul. There's a need for validation and attention in there, me thinks. We all have it. But if your life is so awesome, I'm not sure what you're doing on a red pill sub besides going "hey, look at me and how awesome my life is" but subconsciously there seems to be a "hey, look at me and how awesome my life is because I don't really feel that awesome unless I'm telling other people how wrong and messed up they are compared to me"

Yes, it makes my life pretty awesome. A good looking, fit, wealthy, lawyer that gets tons of pussy with an awesome life comes here? How do you find the time and why would you want to spend any of it here? I'd be out in my pool, slaying pussy, driving my sports car, writing a book or making some case law... hell, anything but being here.

Yes, even had FMF/FFM threesomes with my wife. It's a pretty great life. I ain't judging. But that isn't something I want. My bedroom isn't a porn set. And from my experience/perspective, having a porn star bedroom only enables your wife to think everything is on the table, including finding someone else once your SMV starts to drop. She can take a lot of your stuff and claim "he treated me like a whore in the bedroom". To which all the other females will gasp in fake disgust and agree with her and tell her to leave. Just saying, you better stay on top of your game. You've set the bar pretty high. Hope you can keep it up! Which is what I meant when i said "But it's coming bro. Enjoy it while is lasts. I mean that."

Death comes for us all. But, I will be smashing pussy and drinking to my good health long after you've gone the way of the dodo.

Not just death. Who knows, all you need to do is get hurt or maybe go through a bout of depression or something and then your wife feels a drop in lifestyle and starts looking elsewhere. That's what's coming. You can't be young and strong forever. This is the mentality that the women have and then one day they wake up and no one is paying attention to them and they've hit the wall.

How did you ever get to over 400 lbs, by the way? Did you just give up on life?

Kind of. It's a long story. But yeah, some serious set backs and losses and devastation. And of course I have some culpability in these things. Mostly being naive and thinking things could go on forever. I'm not immune to the 'immortality effect'. I was riding pretty high, making 70k per year, flying around the world for 20 years until 3 years ago when she left, my father and brother died 24 hours apart, my company sold, couldn't find work, lost my house, lost my car.... came pretty close to being homeless.

Nevermind (this was years ago) being raised by a single mom on welfare who moved us in with my grandmother who molested both my brothers. Mother died of cancer and I was on my own from a relatively young age and still got to accomplish a lot of things because I'm tough. But it all caught up and i started drinking and eating too much and being lazy and depressed. Everyone has a breaking point. Even if it's slowly building over time. The crash comes for most of us. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, so I won't wish it on you. All i'm saying is, keep going, stay strong, and pray it doesn't happen to you.

[–]officerkondo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not at all. Just a sucker.

Says the guy playing Florence Nightingale. What do you get out of being a cancer patient's free nurse?

And of course I have some culpability in these things.

Just "some"? How about "all"?

being raised by a single mom on welfare

Never mind. This explains everything.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can be there to the end but whether you let it destroy you is up to you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very respectable. God bless you and your wife, man. Praying for her. Fuck cancer!

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

If my wife asked such a bullshit question, I'd rub my chin and say I hope I never have to make that call. Few of us really know what we would do until we were in the situation anyway, and there's so many factors involved, why would you even want to devote your thought to such a negative question?

[–]SepeanRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most normal men in good marriages love their wives enough to see them through something like that.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

If some random internet dude posts total bullshit to the point where i would rather watch cat videos than answer, what would I do?

Answer: Post a bullshit answer.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

I am sticking it out but taking a hall pass.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Loyal as in stay in the marriage and be a loving and supportive father and husband? Yes.

Loyal as in not getting any strange on the side? No.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have watched this play out with old couples that are around me. When you get old, shit happens and you have to adapt.

The number one issue, is being sure you take care of your wife, since she no longer can do it.

Number two, is take care of your self, so you can take care of her.

Your wife might be able and willing, to be OK with a hall-pass. If not, you have to keep secrets forever, for her sake, for her peace of mind, not yours.

If I was down for the final count, I would expect the same.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Being an integrated male you give freely because you can, not because you expect anything in return. You only give what you can.

[–]WesternhagenWinner1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Depends on the death timeline. Months? Easy to be noble. Years? Screw that.

Think your wife would faithfully stick by crippled / chronically ill you? Guess again.

[–]InconspicuousWand[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

What does she have to do with what you want to do?

She would do a lot of things I hope you wouldn’t do

[–]drty_prRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's projecting his pragmatic views on you and your projecting you male superiority onto him.

All that matters is what you want to do. There is no RP answer.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Depends, does her mouth still work?

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Asking the important questions here.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I like my girl. I’d figure something it. It wouldn’t be dumping her and it wouldn’t be celibacy. After all, what kind of cancer precludes blowjobs, handjobs, anal sex, PIV sex? Beta cancer does, but that’s for guys.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think there are situations in life, like this, where cheating and lying about isn’t wrong, but is actually the considerate and caring thing to do. Not everything in life is black or white.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

My wife loves to ask these hypothetical questions. Answering hypothetical question is a waste of your time. You’re better off just trolling when you get questions like that. Your answer changes nothing because the situation hasn’t happened. Treating a mythical scenario as if it were real is just getting into their frame.

My wife and I are buying a house this month. I had made some comment about how my name is on the loan so I should do all the paperwork. She wanted to help but she was slow so that’s why I said it. She got mad and said well what if I just decide to let you pay the mortgage on your own? Immediately I said, “Well, then I’ll make sure to fill those two extra bedrooms we will have with college girls.”

Never take what women say seriously. They rarely ever mean or even truly care what they’re saying. If they did they’d never ask dumb questions and shit test us. They’re just hardwired to think that way and indulging in their “logic” is a one way ticket to frustrationville.

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

better off just trolling

You call it trolling. I call it amused mastery.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not here to make your decisions for you, but once the word gets out you were a weak, abandoning piece of shit, good luck

[–]ambidexia0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Take her off life support and fuck strippers



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